Sex drive....

[Blaggs]

Hey all....

Hopefully this is the right message board for this msg...

Nice to meet you all.. I have not posted on here very much but often been a Yoyeur....

I have seen a large number of people on here can be windup merchants so I will ignore those.. but am very interested in some good opinions...

I am a British guy living in Japan (not sure why it is relevant but thought I would introduce myself!)

I have always had an excellent sex drive some times having sex twice a night 5nights a week.... sometime 3or 4 times on a Saturday... I am always faithful to my GF of two years but recently have been having some sex drive issues...

I have no problems getting an erection or anything like that... but I never seem to be in the mood for sex... even porn doesn't get me going like it used too.

Work has been busy and I have recently started working out a little bit more... but I am 32... 6ft1... 84KG so not in bad shape...

What could the issue be?

I still find my girlfriend incredibly sexy.... just I dont have the get up and go that I did two or three months ago...

Thanks

Blaggs

 

[bailadora]

Hi, Blaggs. Yep - you've landed in a good spot. HT'ers are a generally helpful bunch so you're in good company.

A question for you: How long has it been since you had your thyroid checked? The reason I ask is because fatigue and low libido are two symptoms of hypothyroidism. Even slight deficits of the thyroid hormone can have significant influence on how we feel. You might want to consider a visit to an endocrinologist for a full hormonal workup to make sure everything is in balance.

If you'd like to read more about this topic click here.

Hope this helps. I'm sure others will drop in with more helpful information.

 

[subwannabe]

my two cents:

1 cent - your work is tiring you out physically and emotionally, causing you to think about sex less. Sex always starts out in the mind - if you think about it less you will do it less

2 cent - your sex life may need some livening up with new variables and new ideas. Even though your girlfriend may still be "incredibly sexy" you might be getting tired of the same ole, same ole

3 cent - are you taking any medications, herbs, alcohol, etc which may be effecting you(even a change in diet may be to blame)?

 

[Blaggs]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Not sure what to do... I guess it could be a combination of all the above comments...

Would go and see a doctor... but thats tough as I live in Japan and speak the lingo...

Will have to see what happens over the next few months... hopefully it will right itself and I will be the rampant rabbit I once was...

Or I will find myself single and have little need for my once high libido....

 

[onyxvixen]

Hey Blaggs.

I'm also British and living in Japan. Coincidence

If you're the kind of guy who's normally healthy and therefore hasn't been to a doctor for years, it might be time for an MOT. You wouldn't drive your car around without caring for it properly so the same thing should go double for your own body.

Get a medical and have some blood tests done. Full blood count, liver function, kidney function, thyroid, sugars, prostate hormone and whatever else the Doc suggests. It'll eliminate a lot of the possible medical causes of your loss of libido.

Do you still make time for each other as a couple? Have date nights and make an effort to look good for each other? Sometimes a change is as good as a rest. Take a couple of days to go somewhere english speaking and chill out.

Living your life somewhere you don't understand the language - even if you're improving every day - sucks the soul out of you. Everything is more of an effort. Take this from a woman who's such a masochist that even her girlfriend is Japanese, so I don't even get a britbreak when I'm chilling at home.

Examine your lives for unnecessary stresses and strains and do what you can to minimise or eliminate them.

Good luck

 

[Blaggs]

Thanks

Thanks guys...

Just thought I would let you know that I have decided to attempt a visit to the Doc and get my check up done...

I guess it will be like being serviced for the first time in a while - expecting some problems and some expense... but lets wait and see......

On the plus side... I have started hittting the gym again and things are improving... had a great day on sunday about three hours of mind blowing sex... followed by some great hugs and a nice gentle shower together....

This seems to have given me a little booster so I am lurking around the am pics forum.... seems early in the afternoon (16:30) but who am I to stop the course of nature...

Again thanks for your comments... most appreciated...

 

[Colton_White]

I have no problems getting an erection or anything like that... but I never seem to be in the mood for sex...
I still find my girlfriend incredibly sexy....

My problem is exactly opposite to yours..
I'm ALWAYS in mood of sex, but I don't have any sexy girlfriend lol.



In my personal opinion, in summer season sex drive automatically decreases than what it was in winter season. and Right now its March/April I guess pretty hot climate in Japan.?

I wish that you tomorrow morning when you wake up, you wake up like a horny raging bull.

 

[JamieB]

Could be the exercise.

I know that when I'm overtraining, I get cranky and sleep less and have less energy and less interest in da nookie. If you're just starting out on a workout program, or have recently added intensity, it might be the culprit.

That said, resistance training is said to be a testosterone booster, so you should come around pretty quickly as your body adjusts. If your pecker is still languishing in a couple of weeks, take a day or two off from the gym and see what happens.

J

 

[gloriann]

In my opinion, you should follow that advice and get checked out medically.

However, you could just be in a downswing in your sex drive. It happens.

 

[MakeMePlease]

are you having a loss of interest in other areas of your life as well??
if so, could possibly be experiencing some depression??
be sure to mention to your md if this is the case.
good luck

 

[silverwhisper]

hey blaggs, you've gotten some good advice already. just one more question: has your diet changed much lately, or any other habits? as you know, the stress is a definite suspect.

ed

 

[SirLicksAalot]

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ditto