Sex clubs/parties

[69Sasha69]

Hey guys! So my bf and I have been intrigued by the idea of attending a sex party or club! I’d really love to hear some of your stories of your first time attending!

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

They're fun. Like anything else it depends on what you're looking for and can vary from night to night.

 

[jakelc]

Like above the best advice is just to take it slowly, enjoy it and don’t go in with any expectations or fantasies just keep an open mind and you won’t be disappointed. Every first timer has nerves, we had already been dogging and swinging with other couples for a while before we attended a club. I was excited but my wife was quite nervous, for a while we just watched what was going on, the host explained etiquette etc and told us to just take it all in and join in if we felt comfortable. My excitement had turned to nerves watching others but we were lucky to meet a couple we knew and had already been with in our own home. It broke the ice and we joined in with them. If we hadn’t know them I think our second time would be the time to join in. Once that first time is over though you’ll have the time of your life and be looking forward to going back. Remember that everyone’s first experiences are different, some people are not as nervous and more outgoing and willing to dive straight in. Some are more cautious and want to know what happens and what to expect, the club we attended recommended going to a viewing of the club first.

 

[Erotic69er]

Just take your own time

The first time is always a bit nerve racking. As said above the secret is to chat and watch what’s going on. Then if you both feel comfortable ease yourself in gently with a couple you’ve enjoyed chatting too.
It’s not for everyone, you both have to desire it. Then it can be very liberating and enjoyable.
I went with a couple who I enjoyed a 3sum with. We joined friends of theirs. It was my firstbtaste of group sex. I loved it although 3sum fun is still my favourite. I love both the physical and emotional dimension with a couple I adore.

 

[ag2507]

Advice

Thoughts I often iterate to newbies in the swinging world.
1) Set your rules of engagement before you go out - don't change them on the fly without some discussion: if one of you feels coerced by the other at the club then it can engender long term bad feelings.
2) Don't drink, well, very little, it leaves you open to break rule 1 too easily.
3) remember you are BOTH responsible for the other's safety. Note rules 1 and 2 above.
Not everyone you meet is nice, so you must be alert. In the main the openness needed to swing makes most swingers lovely people, but like all walks of life, you will find an arsehole or two. Clubs often allow in a limited number of single guys: they are not to be considered safe, many are (sorry guys) but many are not: see rulers 1 2 and 3 above. Most clubs that let in singles also employ bouncers, make sure you know where they are.

 

[Gabriel1664]

Welcome Sasha

Welcome Sasha!

 

[Shi_One81]

My first sex party began with a lot of observation. It wasn’t until the end of the night that my partner and I got comfortable and joined in. He had me get down on my knees and blow him in the middle of the living room in front of a bunch of people. We then took things to one of the bedrooms. He handcuffed me to the bed and blindfolded me, I had no idea what size of audience we had until afterward. It was a very fun and sensual experience. We went to several more after that. It’s really fun when you’re able to find the right mix of people.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

My first sex party began with a lot of observation. It wasn’t until the end of the night that my partner and I got comfortable and joined in. He had me get down on my knees and blow him in the middle of the living room in front of a bunch of people. We then took things to one of the bedrooms. He handcuffed me to the bed and blindfolded me, I had no idea what size of audience we had until afterward. It was a very fun and sensual experience. We went to several more after that. It’s really fun when you’re able to find the right mix of people.

Now there is a vision!

 

[69Sasha69]

If it's your first visit to a swingers club. It's most likely that you'll be just observing. It's totally okay. Very few first timer jumps in the action straight away.

That’s good to know! I figured we’d mainly just be chatting/watching the first time, it makes me nervous but excited thinking of going, but I think it could be a fun & memorable experience for us!

 

[69Sasha69]

My first sex party began with a lot of observation. It wasn’t until the end of the night that my partner and I got comfortable and joined in. He had me get down on my knees and blow him in the middle of the living room in front of a bunch of people. We then took things to one of the bedrooms. He handcuffed me to the bed and blindfolded me, I had no idea what size of audience we had until afterward. It was a very fun and sensual experience. We went to several more after that. It’s really fun when you’re able to find the right mix of people.

Now that sounds amazing! We might have to try something like that

 

[69Sasha69]

Welcome Sasha!

Thank you, Gabriel!

 

[69Sasha69]

Thoughts I often iterate to newbies in the swinging world.
1) Set your rules of engagement before you go out - don't change them on the fly without some discussion: if one of you feels coerced by the other at the club then it can engender long term bad feelings.
2) Don't drink, well, very little, it leaves you open to break rule 1 too easily.
3) remember you are BOTH responsible for the other's safety. Note rules 1 and 2 above.
Not everyone you meet is nice, so you must be alert. In the main the openness needed to swing makes most swingers lovely people, but like all walks of life, you will find an arsehole or two. Clubs often allow in a limited number of single guys: they are not to be considered safe, many are (sorry guys) but many are not: see rulers 1 2 and 3 above. Most clubs that let in singles also employ bouncers, make sure you know where they are.

Very good rules to go by! Communication is key for everyone, especially in something like this! Thank you for your input! I really enjoyed reading this!

 

[69Sasha69]

The first time is always a bit nerve racking. As said above the secret is to chat and watch what’s going on. Then if you both feel comfortable ease yourself in gently with a couple you’ve enjoyed chatting too.
It’s not for everyone, you both have to desire it. Then it can be very liberating and enjoyable.
I went with a couple who I enjoyed a 3sum with. We joined friends of theirs. It was my firstbtaste of group sex. I loved it although 3sum fun is still my favourite. I love both the physical and emotional dimension with a couple I adore.

It seems like from either blogs I’ve read or hearing from other people about their experiences with a first time situation, there is no pressure to join in, which is a relief! I know my nerves will be high, but I feel like once we join in, I’ll relax quite a bit! It’s good to know there might be others there to chat with, that will help with the relaxing too! Thanks!!

 

[69Sasha69]

Like above the best advice is just to take it slowly, enjoy it and don’t go in with any expectations or fantasies just keep an open mind and you won’t be disappointed. Every first timer has nerves, we had already been dogging and swinging with other couples for a while before we attended a club. I was excited but my wife was quite nervous, for a while we just watched what was going on, the host explained etiquette etc and told us to just take it all in and join in if we felt comfortable. My excitement had turned to nerves watching others but we were lucky to meet a couple we knew and had already been with in our own home. It broke the ice and we joined in with them. If we hadn’t know them I think our second time would be the time to join in. Once that first time is over though you’ll have the time of your life and be looking forward to going back. Remember that everyone’s first experiences are different, some people are not as nervous and more outgoing and willing to dive straight in. Some are more cautious and want to know what happens and what to expect, the club we attended recommended going to a viewing of the club first.

Keeping an open mind has really given me positive experiences with sex! That seems to be a good place to start, experimenting with a friend or two who you can trust, to prepare you for something like a party/club! Thank you for your input!!

 

[jkillfeather]

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[69Sasha69]

Never done a club, but have done plenty of sex parties. You can pm me if you want.

Ok thanks!!