Sex at "that time of month"

[Cirrus]

Some guys I will just never understand...actually most of them.

My guy was kind of pissy today because he was in the mood, and even though I sort of was too I told him no because I have my period. He doesn't have a problem with sex when a woman has their period, but dammit, I do. It's not like I think it's taboo or anything, it's just gross to me. I don't feel sexy even though I might be horny.

See, I don't get this though...he has a hygeine thing just like I do. I like to know I'm clean. I'm not obsessive about it but I'll take a shower even if I'm not going anywhere say, on a weekend or something because I just feel better. He'll make sure he's clean if he knows we're going to be together that day as a matter of courtesy for me...if he knows he's clean and smells good then that's not on his mind if we make love.

But he told me today that I'll know we've gotten there when I think more of him than I do of me. I understand part of being with someone, and part of being in a sexual relationship is focusing on THEIR pleasure as much as yours...who likes a selfish lover? But I'm not in the mood every time he is either.

Well, my period is kind of the same deal. I know it's natural and healthy and all that, but I just don't feel "clean" enough to be intimate with a partner. Matter of personal preference, I guess. What's the big deal anyway? He's got a hand and failing that, I've got a mouth.

So...what's your take, for guys and girls, on having sex when the monthly visitor is around? Is it something you have no problem doing, something you'll do if you're just really, REALLY horny and have to have it NOW, or something you'd rather not do?

 

[Cirrus]

*sound of crickets*

*harmonica sets in*

*tumbleweed*


Somebody? If this one has been done before could you direct me to the thread? I just tired searching and since you can't search a 3 letter word (I don't know why...it sucks, actually) I got a bijillion threads that I don't have time to dig through.

 

[LukkyKnight]

...But he told me today that I'll know we've gotten there when I think more of him than I do of me....

So...what's your take, for guys and girls, on having sex when the monthly visitor is around? Is it something you have no problem doing, something you'll do if you're just really, REALLY horny and have to have it NOW, or something you'd rather not do?

Wow, what a manipulative thing to say. The fact that it's probably a true statement doesn't change that using it under such circumstances is... um... not something I'd condone.

You'll know your relationship has gotten there when he doesn't rely on such tactics to exert control - or attempt to. If you aren't in the mood you aren't. If that ruins years of your life it's you. If it makes him wait or masturbate, that's life.

 

[rider]

Love it.

I love it. A woman's period is not bad, and can be quite sexy. Her femininity is enhanced, for me. The mess doesn't have to be that bad, you can do it in the shower, or just use hands. It can also help a lot, I am told, with cramps. It is a healthy thing in a monogamous relationship. If it is not your thing, then your SO has to understand that, but it can be a very beautiful, loving thing.

 

[VanB]

Just for you

It's not really a problem so long as both people are comfortable with it. Sounds to me like you're not 100% comfortable with it so don't do it.

Simple

 

[Cirrus]

Yeah, I know, Knight...that comment kind of got under my skin too. I'm not sure he meant it to be manipulative, even though that's how I took it, so I ddin't make a big deal of it. I'll bring it up in another context and see if I get the same kind of vibe from it. If I do...discussion time. But today was just not the day. Everyone I've talked to today just seems to be in some kind of MOOD.

 

[lisalove]

The first two days of my period are too messy and heavy and even if I was horny i just wouldn't want to. I don't mind so much the other days, but I kind of like having those few days each month as a break. Yeah I'm selfish. Whatever.

 

[tortoise]

<begin channeling redneck>

"If I pop a chubby when she's on the rag, I expect my old lady to give me a hummer."

</end channeling redneck>



If, at ANY given time, you're not into it, for ANY reason whatsoever, then that should be the end of the discussion.

Period.

 

[sacremento]

You know what? It's your body, and if you don't feel like it for whatever reason then that's the end of the story.

Him trying to make you feel guilty about it isn't very nice IMO

On the other hand, I get really horny on my period, or maybe that's just I get really horny no matter what time of month it is!
Anyway...I wouldn't want sex the first day or so, but after it lightens up, I don't care and neither does he.

 

[SexyChele]

I'm with you on this one, Cirrus. If it's at the beginning of my period, I'm happy with anal, though. (Well, I'm happy with anal anyway, but that's a different story)

If it's a couple of days later, when it's lighter, I'll usually insert a diaphram I have to keep things from getting "messy". But absolutely no oral for me - ICK! Just not into it.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

In the start of our relationship , he mentioned that he did not enjoy having sex when I was on my period & I did not mind at all because at first I felt a little self conscious when I was on my period ... the idea of having sex did not appeal to me ... because of what he had said about it.

Then one day we were just messing around & he wanted to have sex but I told him I was on my period so we just continued kissing ... etc... but soon he was begging me - and while I was a little shy about the whole thing we decided to have sex ... and it was great.

I , mean it was nice because we were together ... and that whole "period" thing simply disappeared ... now we don't care if its that time of the month. We just enjoy our time together.

 

[YogiBare]

I really like having sex with a woman who's having her period. There's something very primal about it, and something essentially feminine about a woman on her cycle. And very sensual, too. I like to have my cock come out of her all smeared in menstrual blood, or to have a small pool of it on my balls and in my pubic hair when she's on top. It brings out a very raw type of desire, a sort of caveman level of sexuality that I totally enjoy.

My last gf didn't want it, and so we didn't get sexual when she was on her period. I always found that disappointing, though.

(Sorry if I've grossed anyone out.)

 

[Chuckus]

Re: Just for you

It's not really a problem so long as both people are comfortable with it. Sounds to me like you're not 100% comfortable with it so don't do it.

Simple

what he said.

I don't have a problem with it either way but it is not my choice but hers.

 

[Ask For More]

I had sex with one of my ex girlfriends during her period, and we both really enjoyed it. She said that at the time a woman's hormones can be at a higher level, so she becomes much more sensitive. And just to make sure it wasn't too messy, we did it in the bath, which is one thing I've always loved anyway.

It was fab!

 

[sabbathstorm]

I don't like sex at all when I'm on my period. My cycle is just too damn heavy and I don't feel particularly sexy.

 

[Lovepotion69]

I've done it by the end of periods. Then it's not too bad. The very last day.

I wouldn't do it though if I was really bleeding a lot. Urk!

I get incredibly horny though around my period, and the guy can safel wait as he knows I'm gonna be jumping him ASAP after it's done. DAMN, I'm horny straight after my period!


/LP

 

[cymbidia]

I feel more sexual during my period than at any other part of my cycle.

My very first sexual partner liked having sex while i was on my period. It added something to the whole fun-sex thing for him. Consequently, i never had a chance to develop any feelings of negativity with respect to the interface between my period and my sexual adventuring. It simply has never been an issue in my life. I like having sex when i'm flowing. I feel sexy and desireable and ultimately feminine. It's a small thing, that extra bit of "female glamour" (or whatever) i feel then, but it's real.

In the many years since that first sexual partner, i've encountered a variety of responses to sex at that time of the month. No one has ever *not* wanted to have full-on intercourse then. One man had a fetish about it, though; he would only go down on me while i was flowing. Never any other time. It was disappointing to him, i think, that i flow lightly and for only a couple days (always have, always will - i think).

My newish play partner and i have just passed through one of my periods, our first together. His take on the situation was one i've run into most commonly: throw a couple towels down and let's get on with it.

I just love centered, sophisticated, earthy men!






Yogi? Far from grossing me out, your sentiments on this subject have caused my already high opinion of you to be notched up another peg or two.

 

[cymbidia]

~bump cuz i'm really interested in other people's response to this topic~

 

[morninggirl5]

For me, sex or anything remotely sexual depends on whether it's a good month or a bad month. If it's a good month, anything goes. A bad month, leave me alone to die (or wish i could) and come back in a couple of days.


This topic has been brought up several times recently. If anyone is interested, here's the links.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=76591

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=14828

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=63825

 

[YogiBare]

Re: I feel more sexual during my period than at any other part of my cycle.

Yogi? Far from grossing me out, your sentiments on this subject have caused my already high opinion of you to be notched up another peg or two.

Thank you. Sweetheart. 'Ya know that I think the world of you, too.

cymbidia: simply, the best

 

[Nomad4112000]

I never had a problem with it. But I NEVER got upset when she was uncomfortable with it. I just tried to be understanding. It's hard enough for a woman to go through this without adding anymore problems.

 

[cymbidia]

This topic has been brought up several times recently. If anyone is interested, here's the links.

Yikes! It's now painfully obvious that i, uh, haven't been paying very close attention to GB threads, have i? It's those damned perverts over in the BDSM forum...it's thier fault...

 

[morninggirl5]

Yikes! It's now painfully obvious that i, uh, haven't been paying very close attention to GB threads, have i? It's those damned perverts over in the BDSM forum...it's their fault...

Well if you're gonna blame it on those perverts, perhaps you should include a spanking or two to make sure they get the message and stop tying you up over there.

 

[Sillyman]

I normally enjoy having sex with a woman who has her period, because it means no birth control worries But if she didn't want to then I certainly wouldn't force her too.

 

[morninggirl5]

I normally enjoy having sex with a woman who has her period, because it means no birth control worries But if she didn't want to then I certainly wouldn't force her too.

Uh, Sillyman, while not probable, it is possible for a woman to become pregnant during her period.

http://www.babymed.com/docs/english/561.asp