Sex and Love

[wishfulsynfull]

What is the difference between sex and love.I believe sex is a physical pleasure and love is an emotional connection.I am deeply in love with my partner and have no problems with other sexual partners for either of us.What is your opion of sex and love.

 

[SweetErika]

What is the difference between sex and love.I believe sex is a physical pleasure and love is an emotional connection.I am deeply in love with my partner and have no problems with other sexual partners for either of us.What is your opion of sex and love.

I agree with you, but I also think sex can be an expression or physical manifestation of love; something that creates intimacy and reaffirms what you feel for eachother. I've tried to keep love and sex separate in the past, but have never been very good at it. More and more, I find myself only wanting sex with people I share an emotional connection with...in other words, I don't feel a great physical attraction to people I don't share a mental and emotional attraction with.

 

[geishaGirl]

I agree with you, but I also think sex can be an expression or physical manifestation of love; something that creates intimacy and reaffirms what you feel for eachother. I've tried to keep love and sex separate in the past, but have never been very good at it. More and more, I find myself only wanting sex with people I share an emotional connection with...in other words, I don't feel a great physical attraction to people I don't share a mental and emotional attraction with.

I tend to wholeheartedly agree with this! Once again SweetErika words things so clearly Mostly I don't think I could have sex with people I didn't have something emotional with. My first serious boyfriend, and first person I had sex with, was all about the physical in the bedroom and out! I promised myself I wouldn't put myself through an empty sexual experience like that again after we broke up. And that promise has been a pretty strong magnet for me to stick to.

After him I didn't think I would experience the idealised view of sex I had in my head, the way I wanted it to be. My husband proved me wrong!!!! Have never experienced sex, even lustful fucking, that was so emotional in all my life

 

[Raimondin]

What is the difference between sex and love.I believe sex is a physical pleasure and love is an emotional connection.I am deeply in love with my partner and have no problems with other sexual partners for either of us.What is your opion of sex and love.

Well, at this point in my life there definitely has to be an emotional attachment with someone for me to have sex with them. In my past,(or when I was much younger), it was like there was no difference. Sex/Love, Love/sex, etc. Or what I thought was love. I've been partnered with the same person now for about five years and that definitely has taught me the connection between love and sex, not the difference, but the connection between the two.
Otherwise, I might as well just go and whack-off by myself.

 

[horny mofo]

Love and sex......hmmmm what a category! Love is definately a connection of heart and soul, a phsycological connection. Sex is more of a physical thing.
I think sex can fit into two main categories: The first being that horny lust and the need to pleasure or be pleasured to quench a sexual urge i.e. casual sex with a "sex buddy" or a one night stand. The other, being a mutual show of your love and affection for one another when in a meaningful relationship. But I also believe that you can have that "one night stand sex" with your partner, you are still showing that love and affection, but not so much in a slow, sensual build up of sex, but more like wild throws of passion where total lust and hunger for some damn good ass spankin sex!! Whereas you can't mix the loving side of sex with a casual sex partner? I don't think so anyway. Am I right, or just a waffling idiot?!!!!

 

[geishaGirl]

Well you could mix the loving side of sex with a casual sex partner but I think the majority of people in that case would start to think there was something more going on or get confused. Or maybe that's just me? LOL Such a fun and interesting topic to discuss - one of the big things that floats around in my head from time to time.

 

[College_geek]

It seems to me that it depends on the person. Some people manage to get through life only having random sex or fuck buddies without having any real emotional connection to them. On the other hand, some people could never have sex with someone they didn't feel anything for. Some people can do both.

Personally, I've only had experience with doing things with someone I love. If I were single, I'd probably go looking for a sex buddy of some sort, but knowing me, I would grow attached to them in some way, whether it be actual love or just a strong connection. If they went off and had sex with other people, I'd feel betrayed, just as if I were cheated on by a boyfriend.

Some people believe that sex and love are too seperate things and if you're in love, you can't have good sex. I personally believe that they go hand in hand and the best sex comes from someone who knows you inside and out.

But maybe I'm just old-fashioned.