Severe Emotional Scarring

[hornylady]

Hurtful things that are said to us as children tend to have a huge and lasting effect - when I was 8, my mother told me I was breaking up my parents' marriage, and because she often used me as a vent for her feelings, I believed her. I've only recently got my head round the fact that she had the problems, not me, and I'm almost 33 now!

If talking here helps you, then why not give therapy a go - if it doesn't do any good, you're no worse off than you are now. On the other hand, if you're using your bad experiences and scarring as something to hide from the world behind, then maybe you don't want to improve things??!! The hardest thing for us to do, and I'm still trying to get to grips with this myself, is to learn to accept and like ourselves for who we are, and then we can say to the rest of the world "this is me, take it or leave it!".

Don't assume that everyone you come into contact with is negative, or using you - start with small steps, but whatever you do, start living again - a lifetime is a long time to waste.

 

[starfire30]

Right on hornylady! We have all been hurt in our lives, some more than others. I was raised by an aunt that was the devil in human form, the rub was she used religion as a cover. I was told from the age of 10 what a horrible, awful person I was and that I was going to hell for every bad thought or thing I did or did not do, (She also had a very vivid imagination.) My self esteem was less than high. But you know what? I am alive, and happy! I have a wonderful husband who thinks that I am the most beautiful thing that ever walked on this earth.

I feel as though my happieness defeated my aunt. I am happy and she is not.

I almost walked away from my husband because I did not think that I deserved to have a love like his. I was wrong I am worth it and so are you, and you, and you, and you..........

We should all try to live well and not let our passed defeat us. Too live is to love, and if we all forget that then what is the use in breathing.

Listen to me I sound like a poster girl for the sixties. But hey its the way I feel, so smile , life is too short to waist.