Several questions for both the administrators and recievers of disciplinary spankings

[08slueth08]

As one who has never given or recieved and adult spanking, I was surprised to discover how aroused I found myself after reading a story on Lit. involving a woman who fouind herself on the receiving end of a switch after refusing to stop smoking. While I hardly feel ready for a switch or a strap, I have been considering a firm spanking since my exposure to the alrerady mentioned story. What I am considering is a one time only session with an experienced administrator and I was wondering what I might be getting myself into. I would be expecting some heavy head interplay but what can I expect for intensity and duration if the session is going to be perceived as worthwhile by an experienced practitioner.(How many harsh landings should I prepare for? How many of them do you think I will actually enjoy and how many more will I have to experience before the session is over?] Also which gender do you think would be the best administrator in such a scenario and why? Thanks for any input in advance.

 

[mastersproperty]

i was drawn to respond to your posting because i am the receiver of spankings on a regular basis. My Master seems to enjoy giving spankings and since i enjoy receiving them, everyone is happy.But in the beginning i was always tentative. What i believe is that there is a way to give a spanking that is extremely erotic and which allows the pain to build slowly. i think it is less about the gender of the giver and more about their touch and their experience. My Master, who makes me wild when he spanks me, started out slowly with me. He was gentle and he landed his hand in that just specific place where my pussy and blissful parts received a bit of his hand. There was no pain at all, more like sensation and it felt SOOO good that it made me want it again. As the endorphin levels build, he spanks me harder and harder. Sometimes he includes a punishment in this, where i must recite a corrective phrase after each whack. He can tell by the sound of my voice when i have gotten to my limit. But before that as he increases his strike, i find i totally enjoy a bit of the struggle and the wiggling away and the process of feeling his spank and then the pain. Since i also enjoy being forced slightly (not in the non-consensual rape way, but more in the resistance way, where i resist and he insists and requires me), i get a total turn on when i get to the point where it hurts and i wiggle away and he goes one more. He never is abusive, he just ups the ante a teensy bit more, just one more level before we stop. Omigod i love that. i go crazy when i resist and yet then am forced by him to go one more. All of this though is within the context of him knowing me and and understanding what i can tolerate. i believe a good dom is going to understand his submissive and start slowly and then build. i believe if you do this, you will find spankings to be utterly orgasmic and you will also get the experience of pain pleasure that can make you wild. It is all about the right touch, as far as i am concerned.

 

[WriterDom]

Hairbrushes and paddles are great gender equalizers. I wouldn't want a 100# woman anywhere near my ass with my hairbrush.

 

[Netzach]

So are gloves. Or, hell, find a Dominant masochist who likes his/her hand hurting too.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Re: Several questions for both the administrators and recievers of disciplinary spankings

You ask several questions, which I've separated to make response easier.

what can I expect for intensity and duration if the session is going to be perceived as worthwhile by an experienced practitioner?

That question can only be answered by you and the "experienced practitioner," presumably after negotiation. If I were involved, I would consider anything less than 30 minutes as pretty much a waste of my time. It takes time to do a spanking properly, whether it is sensual or disciplinary. In my opinion, a sensual spanking begins with light swats, as described by mastersproperty, and builds up gradually, so that at the end, you're getting swats that would have had you scrambling for the door if they'd been the first ones you got - and yet, you're now just lying there, feeling the impacts and absorbing the sensations throughout your body. For me, a good sensual spanking can last from one hour to four. (That's not all hand spanking, of course - even my hardened hands would get worn out.)

A disciplinary spanking, on the other hand, would (again, for me) vary from 30 minutes to, at most, 90 minutes. Disciplinary = punishment, therefore there are no light, sensual swats. The intent is to cause pain, shame and regret for whatever action requires the discipline. Let me say it again: I do not like to discipline. I do it because and when it's necessary. It does not create pleasure in me, and should not create pleasure for the pyl being disciplined. If it does, then I've chosen the wrong discipline for her.

Therefore, if I were the practitioner - if what you really wanted was a disciplinary spanking, you would expect a 30-90 minute, intense experience that caused you to squirm uncomfortably each time you sat down for the next 24-48 hours - perhaps more, depending on how sensitive you are.

On the other hand, if what you really wanted was a sensual spanking, you would expect a 30-90 minute, intense experience that caused you to squirm - and then smile - each time you sat down for the next 24-48 hours - perhaps more, depending on how sensitive you are.

How many harsh landings should I prepare for? How many of them do you think I will actually enjoy and how many more will I have to experience before the session is over?

As far as "how many," again, we're back to the negotiation issue. The answer to this question can only be answered by you and the practitioner. How many you will enjoy? That's strictly up to your mind and body. ("Mind" listed first on purpose - the brain is your most important sex organ.) How many more will you "have" to experience before it's over? Your choice.

...which gender do you think would be the best administrator in such a scenario and why?

Your choice, slueth. As I am a heterosexual, sadistic, male Dominant, if you're female, I'd recommend a male administrator. But them is my preferences. You have to determine your own.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Oops... forgot to include this reference

slueth, you might want to read this article, "'Sensual' vs. 'Disciplinary' Spanking - What's the Difference?" IMNSHO, it has some points that you may want to consider before you go out looking for someone to turn you over their knee...

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=154529

 

[08slueth08]

spankings

First let me thank mastersproperty for the information you provided. You were able to quicken my heartrate and enlighten me to something I knew little about. You really brought your explanation to light with your personal details and insight. i had no concept of ramping up the intensity as your body adjusts and how readyness could be determined by the sound of ones voice.

 

[08slueth08]

spankings

Thanks for your inpt writter. Is the hairbrush used bristle side towards or away from the impact zone?

 

[WriterDom]

Re: spankings

Thanks for your inpt writter. Is the hairbrush used bristle side towards or away from the impact zone?

Usually away, but towards it becomes a different toy. More thuddy with some bristle sting.

 

[08slueth08]

Spanking

Thankyou SIR! I am intersted in recieving a sensual spanking. I probably wouldn't be redy for a disciplinary session, but when properluy aroused I might be able to reach that higher state that has been described here. As a male I would feel more comfortable with a female but I might, make that probably would make an exception for the right practicioner.

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Hairbrushes and paddles are great gender equalizers. I wouldn't want a 100# woman anywhere near my ass with my hairbrush.

Well, there goes that little fantasy.

 

[08slueth08]

spankings

I didn't understand your reply switch?

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Oh, I was just teasing him by pretending I wanted to paddle him.