Setting Up A Gangbang

[ntex_man]

My wife and I have been very open with each other in our marriage and shared many new and exciting experiences together. After much discussion, we’re both prepared for our next great adventure (that being the gangbang).

Much to my dismay, setting up this tryst has come with a lot of unforeseen obstacles. Apparently it’s about 1000x easier to find a single guy for a night of fun versus that of finding 3-4 guys for a rendezvous.

So my “How To” question would be…

…where do I start?

 

[emap]

Well honestly there are only two safe ways to set up a gangbang. Mind I'm not talking just in respect to STD's, just finding people you don't know can be really bad for your health.

Anyway the two options for a safe, at least as safe as you can get, are friends, or escorts. Friends of course would be cheaper, though may lead to additional problems. Mostly they want to keep fucking your wife which may or may not be bad.

Escorts male obviously would be a better choice because they are after all paid to do exactly what you want. However there is still potential problems with them because they are people.

Course there is actually a third option, may not be what you want to do, but a porn producer. You see gangbangs in porn all the time, I assume a producer would let you partake of your wife with the rest of the guys and they would follow the limits. Though it may actually extend the gangbang because of the difficulties of filming.

Now if you ask me, the absolute best option, is friends, I've been there done that. Poker game I got invited to and sorta crashed cause they were more interested in playing me than poker. Well wasn't so much invited to the poker game as invited to the house same time, he so had a different plan than poker, not that I complained.

I suppose you could go on a trip, find a few guys on a vacation or talk a bunch of business men into joining you two. Men being men I don't think to many would decline free sex. Not that it would be a terribly good idea, John Wayne Gacy was a traveling salesman I think.

Anyway that's your options, at least all the ones I can think of. Though if your wanting to use personal sites, have your wife open an account and outline the plan, alot of guys seem to be squeamish about joining couples, the whole what if he tries to do me thinking I guess. Do keep the numbers low, I would say no more than 4 other guys besides yourself. I've done 5 guys, I am so not sure I could manage 6.

 

[ntex_man]

First and foremost, thank you for such a great reply. You actually touched on a few things that I probably should have clarified on during my original post.

We’re both 100% against any video (unless it’s our own) of this event, so a porn producer is totally out of the question. Although I’m sure I’d consider that a turn-on, I’m also pretty sure I’d have a conniption if I was cruising the pay-per-view channels and paid $11.95 for something I witnessed firsthand.

We’re also pretty dead set on just 3 or 4 guys including me (well sort of). As weird as it may sound, I would prefer to be more of an observer for this event. Absolutely nothing has turned me on more in our marriage than watching, thinking, and fantasizing about my wife being used by other men.

Considering your other two options, I’m starting to think that friends may be our best bet. I know I have a couple that my wife finds attractive, but I just don’t know how to go about broaching the subject with them. I mean how exactly to you bring that up to someone you’ve known forever?

 

[SweetErika]

Have you considered swinging/"lifestyle" and sex-positive clubs/groups? Most people who enjoy lots of casual/friendly sex won't balk at the idea of a gangbang. Plus, clubs are usually extremely safe environments, where boundaries are respected, and many people who have a lot of casual sex are willing to use safer sex measures if asked/required to do so. That doesn't mean they're healthy (in fact, they may very well be disease-ridden, since some assume everyone else gets tested and uses protection, so they don't need to ), but it does mean they likely won't get upset when you insist safer sex measures are used. And, because they do casual sex in front of others on a regular basis, the chances of nerves and performance problems will likely be decreased.

Anyway, if I were looking for a gangbang or other friendly- or NSA- sex, I'd go straight to Google and find my local swinging and sex-positive clubs and groups. SwingersBoard and SwingLifestyle (SLS Personals) are great sites, too, so I'd encourage you to check them out. You may be able to find a gang on one of those sites, without going the organized group/club route.

 

[emap]

What she said.

As for how you bring it up to your friends, honestly I wouldn't know I've always been the one being done not organizing. Though I suppose the best option would be bringing it up as a fantasy to one or two of your friends and seeing where that goes. If you want to watch I am pretty sure it would go over easier than I want you to help me gangbang my wife.

 

[77Cobra]

My wife and I have been very open with each other in our marriage and shared many new and exciting experiences together. After much discussion, we’re both prepared for our next great adventure (that being the gangbang).

Much to my dismay, setting up this tryst has come with a lot of unforeseen obstacles. Apparently it’s about 1000x easier to find a single guy for a night of fun versus that of finding 3-4 guys for a rendezvous.

So my “How To” question would be…

…where do I start?

Man after seeing your wifes pictures you should have no problem at all finding men to help out.I just wish I lived closer so I could offer my help especially since a gangbang with such a beautiful woman as your wife is one of my greatest fantasies

 

[Mansa Musa]

People

There's a Personals forum on this board, you know. Visit it. If you can't find three (or more!) willing, respectful and clean (enough) men to fulfill her fantasy, you aren't really trying. Or, you could become Playgrounders and meet enough good friends to make your fantasies a monthly event.

 

[Primalex]

There's a Personals forum on this board, you know. Visit it. If you can't find three (or more!) willing, respectful and clean (enough) men to fulfill her fantasy, you aren't really trying.

You would be surprised - it's all talk. From 50 guys who tell you they will come, maybe 1 appears - if you are lucky. And then he doesn't get a hard-on because he is too insecure and nervous about this all.

 

[Mansa Musa]

You would be surprised - it's all talk. From 50 guys who tell you they will come, maybe 1 appears - if you are lucky. And then he doesn't get a hard-on because he is too insecure and nervous about this all.

I see that you've done this before.

 

[rosco rathbone]

The walk the talk--fraidy cat ratio is indeed steeply slanted towards the lame, but perservance will pay off.

 

[kaleo]

I personally wouldn't recommend the friend route, unless its a friend that you could do without. It can be extremely awkward after its all over and the 'heat of the moment' is gone, there is a weird, 'well what do we do now' and an even stranger vibe after the fact, so friends while possibly ideal, can be detrimental unless some ground rules are set, and even that is a trip.

I would recommend a club or some weeding out on-line, best bet, because people are like minded (more or less) and the both of you can 'cut loose' because it seems like strangers to all.

We live in hawaii, so the tourist route at clubs often work for people here. just my two cents

~m

 

[WriterDom]

I see that you've done this before.

Yeah he wanted 50 guys to fuck him up the ass. Pretty nasty if you ask me.

 

[Mansa Musa]

I personally wouldn't recommend the friend route, unless its a friend that you could do without. It can be extremely awkward after its all over and the 'heat of the moment' is gone, there is a weird, 'well what do we do now' and an even stranger vibe after the fact, so friends while possibly ideal, can be detrimental unless some ground rules are set, and even that is a trip.

I would recommend a club or some weeding out on-line, best bet, because people are like minded (more or less) and the both of you can 'cut loose' because it seems like strangers to all.

We live in hawaii, so the tourist route at clubs often work for people here. just my two cents

~m

That's sad. I can compartmentalize agape and eros, and I feel sorry for any man or woman who gets a taste and thinks, "Well, there goes another 'Lost' buddy."

 

[infinity706]

Well, you could always put out an ad. The sex shop I go to has a sex personals board.

 

[ntex_man]

You would be surprised - it's all talk. From 50 guys who tell you they will come, maybe 1 appears - if you are lucky. And then he doesn't get a hard-on because he is too insecure and nervous about this all.

I haven’t even gotten as far as a gangbang, and I already know how true this is. People can be really flaky to meet with, and then half those you meet seem so eager for action until it’s actually time for action. My wife (for a long time) wanted to take a break because every couple/guy we got that far with had “issues”. She thought something was either seriously wrong with her or that she was just flat unattractive.

Finally one day she met a single guy through a swinger’s site we use and had him come over for a MMF night of fun. He got there around 6:00 and I “worked late” to let the two of them get comfortable together – you know…ease the tension. By the time I got home, they were both chomping at the bit and it was one of the greatest nights we’ve had to date. It really restored her self-confidence, which obviously leads us to where we are today.

 

[Julian]

Thanks For Asking

Wow ... I left a note on the Photo Link to your wife's pics - ULTRA-Yummy!!

Thanks for sharing & asking - many blessings & good luck!


Julian

 

[Yang4yin]

Try Playful Swingers. They'll give you a free 7-day trial membership to see if you like it.

 

[duckhawk]

I am a 35 MWM and have a couple of male friends that can help make that a reality for ya. PM me and we can setup a place and time to meet.

Just north of Dallas

 

[welikeu]

My wife and I have been very open with each other in our marriage and shared many new and exciting experiences together. After much discussion, we’re both prepared for our next great adventure (that being the gangbang).

Much to my dismay, setting up this tryst has come with a lot of unforeseen obstacles. Apparently it’s about 1000x easier to find a single guy for a night of fun versus that of finding 3-4 guys for a rendezvous.

So my “How To” question would be…

…where do I start?

We belong to several lifestyle sites. Have seen requests in the forums sections or "Looking" sections of people wanting a gangbang for their wife. Seems most of them find them thee. A few to look at are as follows: www.swinglifestyle.com, www.swappernet.com and www.swingersdateclub.com. Good Luck.

 

[DemonicsAngel]

Me and my partner where in the same boat about a month ago and had all but given up when we found the right pair to join us both for a night. This was done through a web site

 

[Gunny_G]

While ours was a differen kink, a Holloween party did it for us. We were invited at a local group of like minded folks who meet and eat at a local venue. It isn't a meet and greet group but kink specific discussion group. Look closer at your local kink groups I 'd say. I would stay away from freinds as well. Had a few who "found out" and almost ran away screaming..

Good luck

A swinger cruise might be the ticket too.

 

[TurkishRoyal]

Um Craigslist.com? I mean, I thought that was the first place to go for that sort of thing...

 

[TurkishRoyal]

Alright I just noticed you are in Dallas, screw Craigslist, PM me and I believe I could provide a few (certainly at least one ) sane, safe, and respectable guys. If you're serious.

 

[newby3696]

Great discussion

I think Im like sooo many others out there, attempting to find out information about various ideas rolling around in our heads.
I believe when individuals find such forums and ask questions, in all honesty, I think they are trying to find a place to start.

I have had a few threesomes with my wife, very fun and totally exciting. Althoug, there have been times when the guy that joined us totally freaked out and could not perform.

I believe its true when it was mentioned that you can get 100's of replies and very few show or, reply to your requests. Most of the people who are on the swingers sites are there to look not to participate.

There needs to be an outlet where like minded. (truly), people can go and get honest, up to date information in their area to help them find, and hook-up with people in search of the same things.

It has been difficult, however very fun, to have threesomes with my wife. By the way MFM. I am not interested in having another woman, my wife is plenty for me.

The first time I ever approach her about the subject of having a threesome, I thought I was going to spend the rest of the week in the dog hpouse.
To my surprise, she was totally interested, after she asked what kind, MFM

After numerous discussions of how to go about it, we definetly decided against friends. Too many varialbes going that route. Not to mention it getting out in the open.

So, we finally decided to try Craigs list. It actually worked out. After preparing a somewhat lengthy post, we sent off the first of many.

There were so many replies that had boner shots, old men, people wanting to "fuck" her right now or, tonight.

Thats why we had several versions of our iriginal post, tailoring it after each post to drill down to exactly what we were looking for.

By the way, we found it better to answer all of the replies, even to just say thanks, but no thanks. Keeps from receiving hate mail.

We found a few guys we both agreed upon and set up coffe, meet and greets.
It was interesting, chatting with them all finding out what made them tick, and why they decided to reply.

Again, more tweecking on the post, found numerous married men playing on the side.

Once we found to or three that were very promising, we would send each one an email, asking specific questions and allowing them to ask as well. This allowed us to gage their wiilingness to be patient and attentive.

This, we would find to be very useful down the road.

We found our first one and got a hotel, my wife picked it out. I wanted her to be totally comfortable and feel absolutely safe.

We brought wine , water, and candles. Some music and lube.
We decided before hand during our emails, how to start and how to finish. Just so it would not be awkward for anyone.

Surprisingly it went well, with the exception of some nervousness by all.
My wife and I agreed to talk before and after, about anything and everything.
Sort of like debriefing. We wanted to ensure we were both okay with what took place and everything was okay.
We have heard stories about couples who were not totally into this and irt caused poblems in their relationship.

Be sure to lay out ground rules before you start to look into to possibility of trying anything like this.

After our first meeting, believe it or not, we never heard from this guy again.

We tried again, fine tuning our post, we selected what we thaught ws the ideal candidate.
It started well enough, we could tell right away he was experienced and he was agreesive, not bad, no complaints.

My wife later commented that she was a little taken bake how he maneuvered her around and took charge. He even stroked me right before I entered my wife. I found that a little uncomfortable but, went with the flow.

After, we talked as usual and had our comments, likes dislikes.
Another addendum to the profile, no bi or bi curious.
As one of the writers pput it, this has become 'real' work. Dont get me wrong its a freakin blast for me, because I get to watch, (my fantasy) my wife do what I enjoy her doing to me. That is give head and have someone perform oral on her and her on him.

My whoel point to this post is to see if anyone has a suggestion on how to set up a legitmate gang bang for my lovely wife?

 

[Tiffany_Leggs]

I always go with the 'folks you know' rout. All of mine have been at the retreats, and usually it's just me as the lone female or my cousin will be there with me. The guys know what the limits are and that it never goes beyond the site. At home, it's just me and Preacher....but sometimes we add another as a thrill!