Serving

[starla{TDM}]

I haven't seen this topic yet. So here goes. How many of you serve. Just serve. No sex, no pain, no orgasms, just serve. Cook HIs meal, serve His food, kneel at His feet kind of serving?

This is something we do often, and I do receive pleasure from it, from seeing Him pleased, but I find, that it is becoming less and less frequent within the BDSM realms.

Thoughts?

starla{TDM}
Forever His

 

[rosco rathbone]

Service.
Humiliation.
Oral.


The holy trinity of BDSM. I've spoken.

 

[cockpuppet]

Serving and domestic duties make up a large portion the interaction between my Master and i. Particularly when serving Him any sort of beverage.

i have a specific protocol i am expected to carry out prior to offering the drink to Him. First, i must kneel before Him with legs spread, holding the beverage. Then, i am to pass the drink over three parts of my body while silently remembering what each part symbolizes.

The first is my groin. This is symbolic of my femininity, my sexuality. All of the powers of my sex given over to Him completely.

The second is my stomach. This is symbolic of my core, the fortress of my slavery. Forever burning intensely for Him.

The third is my heart. This is symbolic of my passion, my eternal love for Him.

And this is followed with a brief kiss to the rim of the cup, before it is finally presented to Him.

Also, one of my trained postions is that of 'Service'. In which i kneel with legs closed, hands and elbows held together in front of my face, making my hands accessible for holding whatever He chooses.

 

[Netzach]

Service and masochism were my main interests on the bottom. I've since benefitted from this kind of thing from my bottoms, both domestic and personal forms of service. S'wonderful.

 

[Masters_aphrodite]

i love serving Master

Although Master and i are very physical, if something were to happen that removed the physical side O/our relationship would still be as strong as it is now.

i love to serve Master. One of my favorites is kneeling when He comes in and removing His socks and shoes and kissing His feet. i love doing Master's feet, foot rub, clipping His toenails, etc. i enjoy it when Master comes for lunch or dinner...i enjoy preparing His meal and serving Him. When Master and i are alone i ask for permission to sit. Sometimes Master will allow me to sit at the table, and sometimes He will have me eat off my plate on the floor. When there are others around Master allows me to sit at the table, without asking for permission. However, i still look to Him and He nods to me that i can sit. i do not begin eating until Master begins eating....now this is just something that i do not do, as i feel it is inappropriate for me to begin eating before Master. If Master needs something then i get up and retrieve it.

To know that Master is pleased with me fills me with so much joy and elation. i think as Master's slave it is my place to enrich His life and make it easier in any way that i can.

i will be interested in reading others responses. Thank you for posting this question.

 

[timberwolf05]

Service!

I haven't seen this topic yet. So here goes. How many of you serve. Just serve. No sex, no pain, no orgasms, just serve. Cook HIs meal, serve His food, kneel at His feet kind of serving?

This is something we do often, and I do receive pleasure from it, from seeing Him pleased, but I find, that it is becoming less and less frequent within the BDSM realms.

Thoughts?

starla{TDM}
Forever His

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i have no HE. it is a She.......but "I" never have sex...with ANY domme. "I" have not had sex since 2001.
no play. nothing!

i only do service. period!

the wolf

 

[graceanne]

I'm a very service oriented person, when I'm well. I serve his meals, I rub his back and head, I clip his nails . . . etc.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I haven't seen this topic yet. So here goes. How many of you serve. Just serve. No sex, no pain, no orgasms, just serve. Cook HIs meal, serve His food, kneel at His feet kind of serving?

This is something we do often, and I do receive pleasure from it, from seeing Him pleased, but I find, that it is becoming less and less frequent within the BDSM realms.

Thoughts?

starla{TDM}
Forever His

OK, given in your profile you list your interests as sex, sex, and more sex, I am taking this to mean you do non-sexual things for him and on other occasions you have sex? That to me is not unusual at all (and is even standard for many in the vanilla world), nor have I found it a disappearing thing within the BDSM community here or elsewhere. Of course there are what is commonly referred to as bedroom submissives who openly admit they only wish to submit in the bedroom, but that is an option and choice they make and by no means is any less valid or eradicating the choice of those who serve in all ways.

Catalina

 

[starla{TDM}]

Hey timberwolf!!

Ohh that is so amazing!!! I find within our local community there is very little service, which is sad. For service is a big part of D/s in my own opinion. How have you managed to go so long without sex? Is it part of your training? Is your service work focused around one Domme/FemDom/Mistress (not sure what title you use and dont want to offend) I would really love to here more about this!

starla{TDM}

 

[shy slave]

There are many kinds of serving.

We have a LDR relationship which makes this particular type of serving difficult at times.

I am not sure I would want to 'serve' him in a restaurant or at home in front of my children.

We keep much of our relationship private.

With regard to food I don't serve hime any differently to how I serve anyone else, I do it in a way that is a reflection of respect I have for the other person not because they have differing roles in my life.

As for housework service, everyone does some form of housework regardless of who they are are what relationships they have.

I don't consider keeping my house clean as a service to him, I do it because its a part of life, whether you want it to be or not.

I may think of him when I am cleaning but only in abstract thought, not directly related to the task I am doing.

When we speak I do not, nor do I plan to, tell him the wonderful cleaning tasks I have completed that day and how much better the house looks.
Nor would I expect his praise for doing so. If I choose to do that he would think I was mad or lost the plot in some way.

I used to praise my ex husband when he completed tasks, but he did so little we used to throw parties in celebration if he did anything at all

LOL

 

[Masters_aphrodite]

Hey timberwolf!!

I find within our local community there is very little service, which is sad.
starla{TDM}

i find the same thing within our local community too.

 

[swt_babygirl]

I am new here, but I guess this is as a good a place as any to start.

My Master leaves me list each morning of things I am to do each day before he gets home. The list may include anything from what he wants me to wear that day to what he wishes me to fix him for dinner and everything in between, chores, errends etc.

With each check mark I make on the list marking off the items I have completed I know I am pleasing him if only in some small way, and in doing so it makes me happy and my day go by a little quicker.

 

[flowerchilde]

I guess I'm just traditional, but I have always served my Master even before we started our relationship as slave and Master when we were just dating. I've always been at His beck and call, I find it the greatest form of respect I can give Him to just be there to serve. In our current situation we can't be as deeply involved in our relationship as we would like, we have to live with my parents right now for financial reasons and can't really do a lot, but as soon as we get our own place a lot of things will change! I can't wait, he wants me to always be naked while in the house and to be ready to serve Him in whatever way he wants.

 

[Killishandra]

I take alot of pleasure in seeing other people happy, and especially a "significant other." Even before I entered into my first true D/s relationship I was happily "serving" (in the physical ways that you described) my past vanilla partners. Tending to their physical needs in many little ways gave me an overall sense of purpose and focus. Now that I am no longer in a relationship I keenly feel that missing from my life. I can fill the gap a little by doing extra things for my family when I'm home, but otherwise I'm forced to do without for the time being.

I'm not old enough to know if this is more or less prevalent in BDSM than it used to be (serving in non-sexual ways) but I don't think it makes much difference how others are living their lives. Knowing it brings me pleasure, and Him pleasure, is enough for me.

 

[serijules]

I used to find little enjoyment and actually a little resentment in the idea of serving. I'm not sure why...it just made me feel used.

When I became D's, that changed gradually. At first it wasn't something she expected from me because our relationship was new and she knew it wasn't something I had positive experience with. Gradually, it became something that I naturally felt a deep urge to provide, and then became an expectation.

When we are together, I serve her in many ways. Cleaning up after playtime, fetching water and food, cooking meals, etc. When I visit, I often have chores to do in our down time...rearrange her books or porn collection, type stories, etc. When we are apart, I serve her by taking care of her property as she expects...that property being me. She expects me to do things that I wouldn't normally do too well on my own whim, so in doing them, I am serving her.

Now it is something that not only she expects of me, but I expect of myself, and I very much enjoy serving her.

 

[SlvHoshi]

Serving and domestic duties make up a large portion the interaction between my Master and i. Particularly when serving Him any sort of beverage.

i have a specific protocol i am expected to carry out prior to offering the drink to Him. First, i must kneel before Him with legs spread, holding the beverage. Then, i am to pass the drink over three parts of my body while silently remembering what each part symbolizes.

The first is my groin. This is symbolic of my femininity, my sexuality. All of the powers of my sex given over to Him completely.

The second is my stomach. This is symbolic of my core, the fortress of my slavery. Forever burning intensely for Him.

The third is my heart. This is symbolic of my passion, my eternal love for Him.

And this is followed with a brief kiss to the rim of the cup, before it is finally presented to Him.

Also, one of my trained postions is that of 'Service'. In which i kneel with legs closed, hands and elbows held together in front of my face, making my hands accessible for holding whatever He chooses.

Just wanted to let you know that seems so gorgeous in so many ways, Puppet . . .

Though Sir and i have only been in a D/s relationship for a little over two weeks now, i have done all that i can to please Him. He is very lenient on me, and i do most of my submitting automatically without Him having to tell me what to do, whether sexual or not. We live in two different cities about an hour and a half apart, but even over distance it is good to know that by doing something simple i am pleasing Him. The last time we were together, after he left for work i did a little bit of house work before i had to leave myself, without Him asking me to. While He didn’t acknowledge that i’d done it, i know that he noticed and that is all that matters.

So when it comes to being the sub in a relationship, i think it’s all about the want, the need even, to please your Dom; and it’s a wonderful feeling when you are able to accomplish that.


((Oh yeah, yay for my first post in the forums =^_^= ))