Serious Panic Here...

[snowy ciara]

I have a date on Saturday. A real honest to god, she's gonna pick me up on her motorcycle and we're gonna go to the movies and then dinner "or something" next Saturday with a real live Woman of Leather. I'm scared spitless. I sat next to her at the Geek Table at the wedding BBQ and we were talking HP and Star Wars and other Geek Stuff and she suggested that we go see the new Star Wars together. I gave her my number but never ever expected her to call.

So I'm nervous. When I'm nervous I choke and have problems getting the words out, or I babble on about stuff or my stomach gets jumpy and you know what that means. Or a real strange combination of all three...

Help. I'm thinking of going more girly than usual and less tomboy (she likes both, but I was sort of girly at the BBQ and she enjoyed it. I know 'cause she told me so... ) So, I'm way nervous and wondering how one who doesn't usually do girly or ride motorcycles do girly girl on a motorcycle riding bitch behind a real live Woman of Leather?

Send Help. Please. I have 'til Saturday to get over being nervous because I'm pretty sure tossing one's cookies on one's date is Bad Form.

Sorry for the double posting (similar thread on the glbt board) but I know more people over here, so I thought I'd ask y'all, too.

 

[graceanne]

Congratulations! You're getting to be such a big girl! *dodges smack*

Well, to help with the nervousness we could resurect shyslaves flirting thread . . .

And if you're going on her bike, I'd keep the girlyness down. Chick on bikes in girly clothes look kinda silly. But wear some makeup. Have someone french braid your hair or something. That'll keep it from getting messy while riding on a bike.

 

[snowy ciara]

See, this is where I have an issue... I don't do girly well anyway, so I need to do like girly light or something. I'm not going to pull the skirt and heels thing cause that'd be silly. But I get the feeling that something more than my usual jeans, sneaks and long sleeved Tee may be in order.

 

[canadiancutie]

I have a date on Saturday. A real honest to god, she's gonna pick me up on her motorcycle and we're gonna go to the movies and then dinner "or something" next Saturday with a real live Woman of Leather. I'm scared spitless. I sat next to her at the Geek Table at the wedding BBQ and we were talking HP and Star Wars and other Geek Stuff and she suggested that we go see the new Star Wars together. I gave her my number but never ever expected her to call.

So I'm nervous. When I'm nervous I choke and have problems getting the words out, or I babble on about stuff or my stomach gets jumpy and you know what that means. Or a real strange combination of all three...

Help. I'm thinking of going more girly than usual and less tomboy (she likes both, but I was sort of girly at the BBQ and she enjoyed it. I know 'cause she told me so... ) So, I'm way nervous and wondering how one who doesn't usually do girly or ride motorcycles do girly girl on a motorcycle riding bitch behind a real live Woman of Leather?

Send Help. Please. I have 'til Saturday to get over being nervous because I'm pretty sure tossing one's cookies on one's date is Bad Form.

Sorry for the double posting (similar thread on the glbt board) but I know more people over here, so I thought I'd ask y'all, too.

Hopefully it won't lead to this

 

[snowy ciara]

Can't get the link without registering... Rats... For you I'll try it.

 

[Xelebes]

Can't get the link without registering... Rats... For you I'll try it.

Me neither. But maybe that is a good thing for you.

 

[snowy ciara]

CC's not so bad, I don't think. But I can't get in even when I do try registering. As a distraction technique, it worked.

 

[Xelebes]

CC's not so bad, I don't think. But I can't get in even when I do try registering. As a distraction technique, it worked.

Maybe that's what she was going for, I dunno. She's a tricksy one.

 

[snowy ciara]

Tricksy... That's what Gollum called those nasty hobbitses....

 

[Betticus]

I'm sorry Ciara but you and I both know that part of riding a motorcycle is in protecting your own skin and girly stuff won't cut it. Jeans are only barely better.

Wear your jeans and your t shirt and depending on the heat also wear a denim jacket if you have one. Braid the hair and wear real shoes. You don't want to burn your legs on the exhaust either.

If she wants you to dress girly she will take you out in a car.

Don't make Betticus come over there!

 

[snowy ciara]

Thanks Uncle Betticus... I already said no skirt crap... I'm thinking jeans and a nicer shirt but I don't own one that doesn't have TONS of lace on it (Thanks Mum, but it's just not working.) I was gonna do the braids anyway, cause it's too nasty here for all of it to be loose.

 

[canadiancutie]

haha I really just wanted to post it somewhere because it makes me giggle and I thought it might make you feel better about your situation...



Teen's nose bitten off in row over Sin City
July 18, 2005 - 12:46PM


A filmgoer had to have his nose reattached after it was bitten off during a brawl over the merits of Sin City outside a NSW cinema.
The 19-year-old was leaving Metro Cinemas in Bathurst about 11.40pm yesterday when an argument broke out with another theatre patron, police said today.
The pair fought about whether the graphic, violent action film had made good viewing, Bathurst Police Inspector Cameron Lindsay said.
The teenager's nose was bitten off, Inspector Lindsay said.
He was taken to Bathurst Base Hospital where the tip of his nose was successfully reattached early this morning.
The teenager was expected to be transferred to Sydney's Westmead Hospital for further surgery later today.
Inspector Lindsay said police were still searching for the other man involved.
Officers viewed closed-circuit video surveillance footage and had spoken to several witnesses about the fight.
"They [the men] didn't know each other but they started talking after the movie had finished," Inspector Lindsay said.
"There's been an argument, apparently, over how good the movie was, and then an altercation."
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Sin City, a comic strip adaptation, includes scenes depicting castration, murder, torture, decapitation, rape and misogyny.
One reviewer said the strongest impression it left was of "adrenalin-charged, hyper-kinetic violence".

 

[graceanne]

You can do girly and not be silly. Wear jeans that make you look pretty. Nothing with holes or frayed areas. Wear a small black tshirt, and a black belt. Some pretty silver earrings (nothing really dangly - like maybe some studs or something). If you have them some black boots. Wear pretty undies . . . you know, in case you're in an accident. Like I said, french braid your hair. That's girly and practical. And put some gloss on your lips, and a little mascara.

 

[snowy ciara]

Thanks Mom. Can you wave your magic wand and make me non-klutzy for the night, too? I mean, I realize that salaaming the woman gracefully and falling prostrate at her feet is probably a good place to be; but it does seem a bit much for the first date.

 

[graceanne]

Thanks Mom. Can you wave your magic wand and make me non-klutzy for the night, too? I mean, I realize that salaaming the woman gracefully and falling prostrate at her feet is probably a good place to be; but it does seem a bit much for the first date.

The only way to do that is to relax. And the best way to do that is either

A) think of her as a friend. Even if things go further this is just hte first date. You and a friend are going to see a movie you both want to see.

or

B) A shot of something. I suggest whiskey. Just one, though! Getting drunk isn't the idea, just relaxed.

 

[graceanne]

Oh, and one more thing. Forget lace or ruffles. They're not you, and will only make you more uncomfortable. Besides if she's looking for someone who's into lace and ruffles, then things aren't gonna work anyway. Better to know now, and just be friends. You are just fine the way you are, you don't need to pretend to be someone else to get a date.

 

[snowy ciara]

I don't think she's into that lacey stuff; she just mentioned that the more feminine attire the other day was a very nice change.

Re the friend thing...

That's part of the reason that I'm panicking now. Hopefully by then, I'll be back to the "friends doing a movie" mode.

 

[SweetDommes]

Yeah, what Graceanne said - relax, be yourself. And be honest - tell her that you're a little nervous ... I bet she is too

 

[graceanne]

Yeah, what Graceanne said - relax, be yourself. And be honest - tell her that you're a little nervous ... I bet she is too

True enough. And she was the one who asked you out, that's nerve racking in itself. Let's just hope, if she's the one driving, that she doesn't get klutzy when she's nervous.

 

[snowy ciara]

a little nervous.. You are the Mistress of Understatement. This is my first "date" date since I got out of the hospital after the Evil Ex was, well, evil. I've gone out casually and met someone there, or gone with a gang of friends or attempted a quiet understated hook up at a party, but actual, "lets go on a date and be sort of romantic" and stuff? I won't barf on the Lady, I won't I won't...

 

[graceanne]

a little nervous.. You are the Mistress of Understatement. This is my first "date" date since I got out of the hospital after the Evil Ex was, well, evil. I've gone out casually and met someone there, or gone with a gang of friends or attempted a quiet understated hook up at a party, but actual, "lets go on a date and be sort of romantic" and stuff? I won't barf on the Lady, I won't I won't...

You'll be fine. Just cause you're going on a date doesn't mean that tomorrow you're going to be moving in with her. Take your time getting to know her, and if she's in a big ass hurry, then end it.

Beyond that, you're smart, you're funny, and you're sweet. Not to mention you're beautiful, and I'd bet money you have body to die for. How could anything go wrong?

 

[snowy ciara]

Oh let me count the ways.... It seems that if you plan on all sorts of emergency contingencies, they never happen. So if I try to think of every awful thing and plan for it, I'm safe.

But I could be overthinking this thing again.

 

[graceanne]

Oh let me count the ways.... It seems that if you plan on all sorts of emergency contingencies, they never happen. So if I try to think of every awful thing and plan for it, I'm safe.

But I could be overthinking this thing again.

You're gonna psych yourself out. Their's planning, and then their's over planning. Over planning will just get you so tense that you WILL make a mistake. Take some money for a cab, just in case. Don't drink on a first date. Wear clean underwear. Make sure you two are clear, BEFOREHAND, on who's paying what. And if you're gonna be later than midnight have someone you call to let them know. (That's a good idea in all situations, not just BDSM ones.) And wear clothes you can sit comfortably in - you are going to a movie.

Other than that, don't worry about anything else.

 

[Bandit58]

Snowy honey take a deep breath........in........out.......and again.......no panic attacks allowed you hear

Grace has said it all but the most important thing is to relax, you're going to a movie not to a dungeon Be yourself, smile your lovely smile, and have a good time, you'll be fine *HUG*

 

[Vixandra]

*HUGGLES*
I'm sure things will be fine.

As to the motorcyle- I'd recommend jeans, real shoes (preferably boots) and a girly top, with or without jacket depending on the weather.

Good luck!