Seperation, Masterbating, Surviving

[jhangel]

I am currently seperated from my S.O. and not by choice. I am now in the 8th month of it and about to go crazy. It is not the 1st time we have been apart, but the other times it was only for 6 weeks tops. I am very sexually furstarted and masterbatoin (specifaclly vibrators) is no longer working it just seems to make it worse. I need some HELP. If any one has any suggestions on how to cope with this and what might work as in if there is a spefic toy or anything else that might work I would GREATLY appericate it. I know that i am not the only one going through this and they would appreciate all input.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I daresay it is not the sex you are missing which is causing so much angst, but more so the loss of intimacy you can share with another. No immediate cure for that except try to channel energy elsewhere, find some new interests and ways of interacting with others, and maybe find out if this seperation is temporary or permanent so you can either begin working on the issues, or move on and rebuild a new life for you. Good luck and take care.

Catalina

 

[jhangel]

I am currently seperated from my S.O. and not by choice. I am now in the 8th month of it and about to go crazy. It is not the 1st time we have been apart, but the other times it was only for 6 weeks tops. I am very sexually furstarted and masterbatoin (specifaclly vibrators) is no longer working it just seems to make it worse. I need some HELP. If any one has any suggestions on how to cope with this and what might work as in if there is a spefic toy or anything else that might work I would GREATLY appericate it. I know that i am not the only one going through this and they would appreciate all input.

TO CLARIFY


It is only temporary and the reason we are seperated is b/c of his career (Military). Part of it is intmacy. But not of all of it. I have tried taking up new things and talking to people in similar postions and they can answer some of my questions. But the part that i am looking for new ideas on is the sexual release part of it. Thanks for the input.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Re: Re: Seperation, Masterbating, Surviving

TO CLARIFY


It is only temporary and the reason we are seperated is b/c of his career (Military). Part of it is intmacy. But not of all of it. I have tried taking up new things and talking to people in similar postions and they can answer some of my questions. But the part that i am looking for new ideas on is the sexual release part of it. Thanks for the input.

the computer...cams mics , an intimate phone call, make the closeness happen even though you arent together?

 

[dragonlace]

Re: Re: Seperation, Masterbating, Surviving

TO CLARIFY


It is only temporary and the reason we are seperated is b/c of his career (Military). Part of it is intmacy. But not of all of it. I have tried taking up new things and talking to people in similar postions and they can answer some of my questions. But the part that i am looking for new ideas on is the sexual release part of it. Thanks for the input.

i know it sounds funny but phone sex with your S/O can make up for the intimacy thats lost through separation. If its a Dominance/submission need then possibly a little bit of phone domination from him might help to make you feel more connected. Its terribly hard to have a LDR in the first place, and nothing really makes it easier but feeling a little more connected is a good way to start. It helps with the cravings so to speak and makes it feel more like a mutual sexual encounter when shared with him as well....i hope this helps a little (i haven't been with my S/O since may so i know how hard it truely is)

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Sorry gals but the idea of phone sex just won't work I'm afraid. I know the situation jhangel is referring to. She's in the same boat I am, her Dom is in the same place as my Master.... deployed. Phone calls are by no means private on their end of the line. Not only that but they are very few and far between.

IM's do happen but here again, NOT private. These soldiers are crammed into very small rooms with around 20 computers not more than a few inches apart. As a matter of fact my Master once told me while we were talking that the guy sitting next to him had just gotten flashed by a lady he really hoped was his wife....LOL.

We have talked about this, jhangel and I, on many, many, many occasions. The fact that masturbation just doesn't work anymore. Now I know there are many subs out there who this really isn't a problem for, but for us orgasm denial isn't in force at this time.

Honestly, ANY suggestions of new techniques to achieve release would be GREATLY appreciated by me as well.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sorry girls, all I can do is empathise.

Catalina

 

[SierraMoon]

Honestly, ANY suggestions of new techniques to achieve release would be GREATLY appreciated by me as well.

Invite me to visit

 

[navarre]

Invite Sierra and I to visit.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Sierra, sweety anytime!

Navarre, darlin such a tempting offer.

 

[jhangel]

Sierra that could work considering it is one of my dom's fantasies..... Navarre sounds good but don't think that my dom would go for it unless you only touched Sierra.............LMAO

 

[jhangel]

Sierra that could work considering it is one of my dom's fantasies..... Navarre sounds good but don't think that my dom would go for it unless you only touched Sierra.............LMAO

 

[SierraMoon]

Sierra that could work considering it is one of my dom's fantasies..... Navarre sounds good but don't think that my dom would go for it unless you only touched Sierra.............LMAO

Works for me!!!

 

[navarre]

Sierra that could work considering it is one of my dom's fantasies..... Navarre sounds good but don't think that my dom would go for it unless you only touched Sierra.............LMAO

That's OK.

I'm sure Dix and Sierra would keep me well satisfied.

 

[willowthwisp]

I am currently seperated from my S.O. and not by choice. I am now in the 8th month of it and about to go crazy. It is not the 1st time we have been apart, but the other times it was only for 6 weeks tops. I am very sexually furstarted and masterbatoin (specifaclly vibrators) is no longer working it just seems to make it worse. I need some HELP. If any one has any suggestions on how to cope with this and what might work as in if there is a spefic toy or anything else that might work I would GREATLY appericate it. I know that i am not the only one going through this and they would appreciate all input.

OK....I know epilators aren't toys as such but I find it helps me in such times of 'hanging out'. The sales assistant said it depended on my pain threshold lol and that was talking about my legs! I took my time, in stages, to perfect the art. A worthwhile project! Not sure if that sounds crazy or is any help at all .......but it worked for me! lol

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: Seperation, Masterbating, Surviving

OK....I know epilators aren't toys as such but I find it helps me in such times of 'hanging out'. The sales assistant said it depended on my pain threshold lol and that was talking about my legs! I took my time, in stages, to perfect the art. A worthwhile project! Not sure if that sounds crazy or is any help at all .......but it worked for me! lol

Geez I must be missing something!! As I've mentioned before here, I've been using one of those for years in preference to waxing/shaving certain delicate parts and still haven't found the thrill in it, just a tedious go slow and careful journey. Do find a certain numbness sets in though after the first 10 minutes or so if you do it right, but that usually means more vigilance is needed if you want to keep everything you love and cherish dearly. I need you to tell me your secret. LOL.

Catalina

 

[Shadowsdream]

you could try the venis penis...the fact that it requires no hands makes it a little easier to go into a fantasy head space of someone else having the control of the orgasm.

The venis penis gives a very intense orgasm and fairly quickly..even generally for those that do not orgasm easily...It could be worth a try.

 

[jhangel]

you could try the venis penis...the fact that it requires no hands makes it a little easier to go into a fantasy head space of someone else having the control of the orgasm.

The venis penis gives a very intense orgasm and fairly quickly..even generally for those that do not orgasm easily...It could be worth a try.

That sounds interseting and i am willing to try almost anything. Where could i find one?





Thank you to everyone who has posted so far please continue to post i greatly aappreciate all the help.

 

[Shadowsdream]

That sounds interseting and i am willing to try almost anything. Where could i find one?
Most good sex shops carry them..they can be ordered online as well...
They are also an interesting toy for your Master to use against you when he returns. He is in control of the length and intensity of the vibration...so it would be both a valuable alone and with Dom/me toy!





Thank you to everyone who has posted so far please continue to post i greatly aappreciate all the help.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Jhangel; Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is kym and I have been in a LDR with MY-Sir for 2+ years; He living in the Midlands of England, and me in Florida. This relationship is R/L and not cyber, tho we chat over the net almost daily and on the phone several times a week.
I understand the feeling you describe when masturbation ceases to bring satisfaction. When the very act leaves you longing for more, for human contact with the Master of your mind, body,heart, and soul. Just to feel His breath upon your neck as you lay bound and waiting His pleasure. The delightful sting of the cat as He uses it on your breasts. The taste of His nectar..... The desire is strong.
I have no miraculous answers. I've found no substitution for Him. All I can give is my support in saying that I know what it is you and Dixie are lacking.
Its more than sex. Its the joyful union of the One you've given your submission to. I characterize it as the harmony of land (Himself) and the sea (me), coming together to form one. All of which was, is and will be. We walk the astral plane together, and even tho physically we are apart, we are one.
I hope for you and others who love our soldiers abroad; a swift end to this war that takes Him away from you.
As for myself? Sir Dave is working to bring us together on a more permanent basis. Time and patience is what is required of me. That, and for me to keep the faith.
As Mistress Shadowsdream sig line states, Reality makes Fantasy pale in comparison.
May we all see our realities come to fruition soon!


-kym- on the wrong side o' the pond.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Shadowsdream - Thank you Ma'am for that little tidbit. I bet that Master would love using that little marvel on me when he returns too. (well one can hope.....right?)

kym - Hiya darlin. Good to see you. Thank you for the thoughts for our soldiers at war! I promise to let ya know if we do find something that works pretty well on the other too.

 

[jhangel]

Thank you kym for your thoughts on our loved ones and friends. I am going to take shadowsdream advice and try and find the venis penis if it works for me or i find something else that does i will be sure to post it.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Shadowsdream - Thank you Ma'am for that little tidbit. I bet that Master would love using that little marvel on me when he returns too. (well one can hope.....right?)

kym - Hiya darlin. Good to see you. Thank you for the thoughts for our soldiers at war! I promise to let ya know if we do find something that works pretty well on the other too.

Dixie, if you come across a way to ease the longing, please let me know. I'd be eternally grateful for that bit of info. Whilst I am not in the same situation as yourself and Jhangel, I do understand and feel for you.

Jhangel, I too took a look at the Venus Penis..... *L* allow me to say that I had to "relieve some pressure" afterward!
Chatted with Sir Dave shortly there after, and He was happy that I was so aroused by it. Hmmmmmmm, wonder if there's a Venus Penis in my future....
Anyway Ladies, Blessings to both and may your Masters be home swiftly and ready to scene.

-kym- thinking about that Venus Penis

 

[MissTaken]

Best wishes and prayers to all of our military families. Perhaps this is a bit off topic, but I have recently changed jobs and in my new job am working with a large number of military wives and girlfriends. It is a hard life and this thread just brings to the forefront additional challenges you folks face.

My empathy and thoughts are with you all.

 

[jhangel]

Miss Taken Good Luck and Best Wishes with you new job i know it is not an easy one and will probably give you some headaches. Thank you for your thoughts and wishes. They are greaty appreciated.