Self respect. Do you think you have it?

[sunstruck]

My husband called NIS on someone last night.

He's ex Navy and he was visiting a client who is also ex military and the guy was telling him all this shit, and asking him a ton of questions, he had no business asking or telling. I mean they put you though weeks of seminars about the fact that you are not allowed to reveal any classified info for 20 years. Period.

So hubby talked to his partner who asked him to sleep on it, but he wanted to call. I asked him if it was because he was afraid of getting into trouble for not calling and he said yes and no. It was more about himself. Yes this was going to cost him a lot of money (the guy is a good client) but what if the man said the wrong thing to the wrong person? And it's not even about guilt. It's about respecting himself and his decisions.

So tell me, do you have self respect? Do you value yourself? Or is it something you need to work on?

 

[brokenbrainwave]

as you know your hub and I have very similar millitary backgrounds, he did the right thing, he honored his oath. I would have turned this putz in in an heartbeat.

 

[nasty1]

In one word, NO!

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[glamorilla]

i'm a firm believer in situational ethics depending on what's going to work best for me or someone i'm looking out for.

there is no set answer in how i handle things.

 

[Gamelover221]

I have a question about the whole respect thing...How does taking compliments reflect it? I know some people that have really low self-respect and cannot take a compliment for anything, but then again I know some people with low esteem who are compliment addicts and feel like crap if the world doesn't praise them...Any thoughts?

 

[sunstruck]

I'm not talking about what would you do in my husbands situation. That's just what made me think of it.

I meant do YOU think you have self respect? Do you have standards for yourself and live up to them?

 

[Calamity Jane]

I do have standards for myself. They may differ from other people's morals and ethics, but they're integral and I adhere to them.

 

[Rambrat]

Yes...but I bend like a tree...

 

[Rhys]

I have my standards and I try to live up to them. They are really high and people who know me in my rl know that I push myself really really really hard. Only on those rare occasions do I transfer my hard standards to someone else...and I frequently discover that not everyone has my drive, my ethics, or even my plain sense of honor.

This is what disappoints me most. I try to teach what I know to others and if they listen to 1/10th of what I have been saying I consider myself successful (in that regard) I know that not everyone is me, and be thankful for that because I have lived quite an unusual life. I learned self reliance at an early age and that alone has affected how I relate to people...sometimes its good and sometimes its bad because I have been accused (and rightly so) of living in my own head far too much.

ah well. I think women have a harder battle with self esteem, self reliance and self respect than men do. I think its partially hormonal (although I have met some men with worse pms than some of my girlfriends) I think women in general are conditioned to a different way of thinking than men. It baffles the hell out of me, really. But, then women are always there for you and not necessarily men either.

thats enough deep thought from Tokyo

 

[APhil]

I tried that whole self-respect thing once....

It's been nearly a year since I had sex.

 

[sunstruck]

I tried that whole self-respect thing once....

It's been nearly a year since I had sex.

How do you tie the two?

Rhys, I agree, I think self respect is harder to achieve for women. For so many reasons.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

I'm not talking about what would you do in my husbands situation. That's just what made me think of it.

hey I was in a hurry, lunchtime for the rugrat...now do I have self respect, yes. To me that is more important than honesty. At the end of the day or even my life only I am the one that is looking in the mirror and knowing my true feelings. If I can't or dont like what I see then I have not respected myself. Sometimes I dont like the man looking back at me, that is something we all face from time to time but as a whole I can say I like what I see in my reflection. That is why I am strict with my kids, I want them to understand you must respect yourself above all else.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Yes. I have a highly developed intrinsic sense of self respect.

 

[Sixth]

Yes.

 

[MissTaken]

Yes

I have no money.
I have no life love.
I have nothing except my children and my self respect. Divorce can do that to you.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I meant do YOU think you have self respect? Do you have standards for yourself and live up to them?

Yes.

I don't believe in morality, not in the sense that it exists in any sort of incarnate force, but I strongly feel that a man isn't a man without a code of his own.

 

[DéjàNu]

Yes.

And not only self-respect, I respect others too but it seems to become so rare lately....

...maybe poeple are too much self-centred

 

[Rambrat]

Yes.

And not only self-respect, I respect others too but it seems to become so rare lately....

...maybe poeple are too much self-centred

amen beautiful!

 

[takingchances42]

Yes.

I do have my own code of honor. It is different from those of many others. I do live up to it.

If you don't have self respect, then what do you have?

 

[sunstruck]

Yes.

And not only self-respect, I respect others too but it seems to become so rare lately....

...maybe poeple are too much self-centred

Please let's not turn this into a bashing thread. I'd like to keep it friendly.

 

[Nora]

Yes.

And not only self-respect, I respect others too but it seems to become so rare lately....

...maybe poeple are too much self-centred

I'll second Rambrat's "amen" to that.

 

[DéjàNu]

Please let's not turn this into a bashing thread. I'd like to keep it friendly.

You will never see me bashing anyone Sunstruck, not on this board, not in real life, not anywhere... Like I said I have self-respect and respect for other.

 

[peachykeen]

do i have self respect?

absloutely. Hard won and neverending.

 

[Rambrat]

BASH!