Self-denial

[LittleJade]

Lately, I hate starting threads here, because the search function doesn't work worth a damn for me. So, if it's been done, my apologies in advance.


I was masturbating today, and after I'd had my second clitoral stimulation orgasm, I realized that it's probably been a good four months since I've penetrated myself during masturbation.

It's not that I don't like penetration. I seriously SERIOUSLY get off on it... but that's why I don't do it. If I do it when I masturbate (and I masturbate a LOT), it loses its shine when my honey and I are together. If I deny it, it means that when he and I are together, I'm absolutely JONESING for him to push some part of himself (fingers, tongue, cock) inside of me, and I often orgasm from the first penetration, and then just keep cumming.

My question here is- does anyone else practice self-denial, for the purpose of 'saving' something pleasurable for a time when they're with their pyl/PYL?

I'm curious.

 

[littleone77]

My question here is- does anyone else practice self-denial, for the purpose of 'saving' something pleasurable for a time when they're with their pyl/PYL?

I'm curious.

Yes. Due to several reasons I am not "allowed" to use anything but fingers until we meet. Its not an order but something we agreed upon. I want to wait for that until Him. And yes, like you I am probably going to attack the poor man when I get there, lol but oh is it going to be hot...

 

[BiBunny]

I used to. Then I figured I owed myself more than my own sloppy seconds, y'know what I mean?

*Bunny=Evil, Selfish Bitch*

 

[LittleJade]

I used to. Then I figured I owed myself more than my own sloppy seconds, y'know what I mean?

*Bunny=Evil, Selfish Bitch*

*grin*

 

[myinnerslut]

i do. especially when i have my period i like to keep myself horny. for some reason it helps with the cramps. also, i am only allowed seven orgasms a week, with him or without. if i know im seeing him at the end of the week, ill still play with myself earlier, but not cum in order to have all seven available orasms when i see him.

 

[wrad]

myinnerslut, I am a man so may write from only what I have seen of women. It must be very, very difficult to obey and have only 7 cums each week, some when He is to visit, six days apart. It is great that doing so helps with your cramps but you must be very tempted to pleasure yourself when in bed after a warm shower or bath.

 

[myinnerslut]

myinnerslut, I am a man so may write from only what I have seen of women. It must be very, very difficult to obey and have only 7 cums each week, some when He is to visit, six days apart. It is great that doing so helps with your cramps but you must be very tempted to pleasure yourself when in bed after a warm shower or bath.

it is very difficult to restrain myself sometimes, but cumming without A's permission isnt worth it. i'm allowed to play all i want, as long i tell him about it, and as long as i only bring myself to orgasm no more then 7 times a week.

 

[naxalite0906]

Lately, I hate starting threads here, because the search function doesn't work worth a damn for me. So, if it's been done, my apologies in advance.


I was masturbating today, and after I'd had my second clitoral stimulation orgasm, I realized that it's probably been a good four months since I've penetrated myself during masturbation.

It's not that I don't like penetration. I seriously SERIOUSLY get off on it... but that's why I don't do it. If I do it when I masturbate (and I masturbate a LOT), it loses its shine when my honey and I are together. If I deny it, it means that when he and I are together, I'm absolutely JONESING for him to push some part of himself (fingers, tongue, cock) inside of me, and I often orgasm from the first penetration, and then just keep cumming.

My question here is- does anyone else practice self-denial, for the purpose of 'saving' something pleasurable for a time when they're with their pyl/PYL?

I'm curious.

For me, the self denial part is pro longing the time I masturbate for, teasing myself before I let myself cum just to make it more pleasurable when I do so..

Thinking about it, perhaps I should masturbate less to make it much better when I do have sex.. But that isnt gonna happen really when I think about it.. esp when Im not getting any just yet.. lol

 

[Netzach]

Self denial is for ascetics. Life is short, masturbation should not suck.

 

[FurryFury]

Self denial is for ascetics. Life is short, masturbation should not suck.

Such posts are why I love you!

 

[graceanne]

I've tried to masturbate less, hoping it would make everything more intense.

I don't ahve the much self control. *shrugs*

 

[LittleJade]

Self denial is for ascetics. Life is short, masturbation should not suck.

Who says it sucks?! Masturbation like that leads to 8-10 clitoral orgasms.. and they're GOOD!

 

[_kiana_]

Recently I encountered a Dominant who had a different view on things. He made me masturbate to orgasm and do it often. A certain number every day, in very specific ways, and the number of orgasms went up when it was getting closer to the time we'd see each other.

I turn into an absolutely desperate slut when I'm doing that! My natural inclination is to not masturbate often, so having that many orgasms so often just kept me constantly on edge and aroused.

So, no. Not any sort of denial for me! Getting close to orgasm then stopping, repeat, repeat, yes. I do that. But doing more to myself actually gets a better reaction than any sort of denial.

 

[FungiUg]

Not any sort of denial for me! Getting close to orgasm then stopping, repeat, repeat, yes. I do that. But doing more to myself actually gets a better reaction than any sort of denial.

Hmmm.

I suppose you could consider that "self denial" in some ways, because by your self, you'd be inclined to stop. Whereas being controlled makes you carry through, and hence deny what your self wants to do.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Me and my toys are suffering from the 'lesbian dead bed' syndrome lately -- ie, watching re-runs of Law and Orders sounds more appealing than jerking off. I guess you could call it self-denial.

 

[FurryFury]

Me and my toys are suffering from the 'lesbian dead bed' syndrome lately -- ie, watching re-runs of Law and Orders sounds more appealing than jerking off. I guess you could call it self-denial.

*chuckles*

Though I'm not a lesbian exactly (bi curious) and I don't want Law and Order (supernatural shows, sci fi and some reality), I can totally relate to your statement.

 

[FungiUg]

Wouldn't refusing to watch Law and Order and making yourself cum be denial?

The whole point of denial is (I thought) obeying rather than doing something you would normally do. I'm not sure it counts if you feel disinclined anyway.

Sorry DB, not an attack, just trying to puzzle it out a bit further.

 

[DeservingBitch]

FungiUg: my comment was actually meant as a joking way to say that I'm going through a dry period in terms of masturbatory desire/need. So, self-denial as in denying myself the pleasure of quality time with myself from lack of desire to spend quality time with myself.

So yeah, not meant in a literal sense.

 

[Netzach]

If I had TIME to jill I would not be denying myself or delaying things whatsoever.
How about "no time to fuck" is that denial?

 

[DeservingBitch]

yeah - time (lack of) might have more something to do with it than any 'lesbian dead bed' syndrome.

sucks anyways.

 

[FurryFury]

If I had TIME to jill I would not be denying myself or delaying things whatsoever.
How about "no time to fuck" is that denial?

Not from where I'm sitting.

 

[wrad]

People differ, as is well known but, in training, we used the method described by Kiana above, requiring many cums each day. For these women it deepened submission and heightened the accompanying arousal and cum pleasure and helped greatly in acquiring complete obedience.
Later, trained, the woman maintained an high level of arousal, many cums, if being exhibited and used repeatedly.

 

[FungiUg]

Later, trained, the woman maintained an high level of arousal, many cums, if being exhibited and used repeatedly.

I remember a thread we had ages ago where we were discussing how best to train a woman to cum on command (it's where I got the idea for how I do it, which is similar to what you and kiana have been talking about.)

One of the issues for one woman was that after a break-up with her dominant, she found it very difficult to orgasm -- she'd been trained to orgasm on command, but to only orgasm on command. So the thread included some ideas around how to deprogram as well.

I agree that when a woman has been trained, she does tend to be much more orgasmic and easily aroused. Which from my perspective is not at all a bad thing.

 

[wrad]

"One of the issues for one woman was that after a break-up with her dominant, she found it very difficult to orgasm -- she'd been trained to orgasm on command, but to only orgasm on command. So the thread included some ideas around how to deprogram as well.

I agree that when a woman has been trained, she does tend to be much more orgasmic and easily aroused. Which from my perspective is not at all a bad thing. "

FungiUg, Thank you. We did not train to cum only on command for the reason you have mentioned. There are many men and women, onlookers at exhibitions, whose delight is seeing a woman cum intensely and frequently. This is quite understandable.
If an owner wanted the woman to be trained to cum only on command, he/she would stay here for a couple of weeks, do that part of the training him/herself because it was too great a responsibility for us, we thought, in case the woman was lent out or sold at some later date.
Having an outsider in residence had its good and bad points. It was good that there was somebody not from here to add to th humiliation of a woman over the rail but, too often, some of these people felt they could inflict pain on another's woman when that was against our training philosophy.