Seeking mentor in submission to my wife.

[scott_123]

I am looking for a mentor (female or male) to assist me with my submission to my wife. I need some help, advice and encouragement to stick with things when they become difficult. Unfortunately while my wife seems to love being in the dominant role in our relationship, she always lets me get away with poor performance and decline in my service. I also need additional help in drawing out her dominant side so that she will truly keep me in my place. Most importantly though, I need some help to stick with things once she expresses her dominance. Invariably I end up getting scared and back away. I don't want that to happen anymore but just don't know how to deal with things once they become too much for me to handle.

I am interested in orgasm denial, teasing and have some interest in cuckolding, however have never actually done it. While my wife has also shown some interest in that area (through hints) she's never shown a willingness to participate. Perhaps this is another area in which I could use some assistance and guidance.

I am an excellent communicator and can write good, clear descriptions of events unfolding. I'd like to share all the intimate details of events and my thought and feelings to those events with my mentor and gain insight into how I have performed, next steps and basically to keep me in line. I would like to come to think of my mentor as an important part of our relationship, you will feel included and perhaps living vicariously through me. Perhaps suggest things I can say to her or actions I can take with her to help me keep my rightful place as her servant.

Please either respond here, or email me at scott123hma@hmamail.com

 

[MasterGremag]

pm send

 

[meijer]

Hey, wow sound so familiar, I hope not forward in dropping you a email.
Meijer

 

[scott_123]

Thanks for your messages everyone. I'm glad to receive some assistance and it feels good to share my experiences to date.

 

[simpletimes]

It is, my opinion, to find a truly dominant woman. I've searched and failed. I even tried the switch, bit from what I've seen most lit ladies are wanna be subs. I have seeked or had the desire to be a sub. I strongly do not believe in that, it is pure fantasy. Seek equal arrangements, that makes a beautiful life. Again, my opinion.

 

[Freya_Gin]

You've probably already gotten this answer from the messages you've received, but it sounds like your wife simply lacks confidence. We live in a society that seems to be intent on tearing down a woman's confidence and sense of self-worth from the moment she's born. I don't visit that many sites on a daily basis yet I run into a post or an article insulting or denigrating women practically every day. I'm not exaggerating in the least. With that in mind, is it surprising that a would-be domme might have self-confidence issues?

As for you, the two of you could start with a few simple training exercises. Make sure to set aside time every day for at least 15 minutes of training, preferably 30. No excuses! (Or at least, it had better be a damn good one, like the dog suddenly gasps and keels over.) During that time you do whatever she tells you unless it goes contrary to one of your agreed-upon limits. Here's a few ideas:

--Kiss each of her feet three times, then bow at her feet with your forehead resting on her foot until she tells you that you can move or orders you to do something else.

--Stand with your nose to a wall near her, naked (or with your pants around your ankles, if she feels you need a little humiliation) until she gives you an order. Same principle as above; you're there for her and to do what you're told.

--Be her footstool. Every woman needs to prop her feet up once in a while.

--Sit at her feet, holding her drink, food, etc. and fetching such items for her as she demands.

--Whatever kinky/sexual activity you really want, beg her for it. I mean it. BEG. Even if it's something she might normally be quite willing to do (allowing you to perform cunnilingus on her, for example), you beg for her permission first. Every time.

I could come up with more but I'm sure you get the idea. If you fail at your training, you get punished. Pain, denial or onerous tasks... whatever works for her and you.

All in all, here's the best tip I can give: it helps when you submit. I realize that you're asking for help with that very thing, but it's something to keep in mind. No one can dominate you if you won't submit.

It is, my opinion, to find a truly dominant woman. I've searched and failed. I even tried the switch, bit from what I've seen most lit ladies are wanna be subs. I have seeked or had the desire to be a sub. I strongly do not believe in that, it is pure fantasy. Seek equal arrangements, that makes a beautiful life. Again, my opinion.

I've repeatedly failed to win the Powerball jackpot. That doesn't mean that no one ever really wins it.

 

[scott_123]

Thank you so much Freya_Gin, that is excellent advice that I will take to heart and work on every day.

I very much agree with the confidence issues and yes society does seem intent on keeping women down but I do feel things are changing rapidly in that area. I can feel women growing stronger in general, which is only a good thing.

Since I posted I have been working hard on trying to grow my wife's confidence. I've been treating every suggestion as if it was an order and letting her know how truly I enjoy serving her. In return, she has responded better than I could have imagined. It feels like she has just been waiting for me to show my willingness to submit to her and she seems happier than ever.

Up until this point I haven't yet felt scared, and hope we can both only grow further into our roles.