seeking mature man who knows how to treat a woman

[dissolute]

done! thank you all!

I'm good for now, thanks everyone! I'm trying to get through my backlog. If I don't reach out to you, I appreciate your writing but it may not be the best fit for me at this time.



Old ad: I'm a 28 yr old woman who currently lives on the east coast, and I'm looking for an arrangement where everyone gets a little of what they want.

What I want: someone who'll treat me well and value my time. Trying to form meaningful connections with men my own age can be frustrating. I prefer those with maturity, who can hold a good conversation, and honestly...? I find men over 30 have more experience with women, don't play as many games, and are better at what they do. I'm looking for someone willing to treat me with appreciative gifts.

And, although I'm sure you're a lovely person, if you seem immature or use chatspeak when you PM me, we probably won't work out. I really do value words highly and messages like "hi you sound hot" don't convince me that you can hold a conversation, much less offer a connection.

What I offer: I'm curvy with pale skin, rather wild dark hair, and freckles. I'm an excellent writer and happy to rp with you, send photos, or just talk - whatever you prefer. I'm relatively well-traveled and enjoy different cultures, food, art, and nature. I'm a good conversationalist. If there's something you're especially interested in, let me know and I'll learn. I want to make you feel special - I'm open to intimacy and companionship.

Let me know if I sound like the right fit for you. Thanks for reading. <3

 

[Smoothshavendad]

You sound like a lovely young woman.

 

[dissolute]

Thank you, that's very sweet of you to say.

And thank you everyone who's PMed me so far. I'm headed to bed for the night, I'll be back to reply more tomorrow. Sweet dreams! <3

 

[TARDISCapricorn]

PM sent from the wilds of southern Indiana, my dear lady. Have a most excellent evening.

 

[cliteatingman]

I'm a 28 yr old woman who currently lives on the east coast, and I'm looking for an arrangement where everyone gets a little of what they want.

What I want: someone who'll treat me well and value my time. Trying to form meaningful connections with men my own age can be frustrating. I prefer those with maturity, who can hold a good conversation, and honestly...? I find men over 30 have more experience with women, don't play as many games, and are better at what they do.

What I offer: I'm curvy with pale skin, rather wild dark hair, and freckles. I'm an excellent writer and happy to rp with you, send photos, or just talk - whatever you prefer. I'm relatively well-traveled and enjoy different cultures, food, art, and nature. I'm a good conversationalist. If there's something you're especially interested in, let me know and I'll learn. I want to make you feel special - I'm open to intimacy and companionship.

Let me know if I sound like the right fit for you. Thanks for reading. <3

We're an excellent fit. Sent you a pm.

 

[dissolute]

Wow! I wasn't expecting half the site to PM me overnight! Thank you everyone - I'll try to reply to messages as soon as I can throughout my work day.

I've edited my post to be a little more specific since there are a few things I'm looking for, and I hadn't expected such a huge response.

 

[TheMarksman]

Wow! I wasn't expecting half the site to PM me overnight! Thank you everyone - I'll try to reply to messages as soon as I can throughout my work day.

I've edited my post to be a little more specific since there are a few things I'm looking for, and I hadn't expected such a huge response.

Hah! Welcome to Lit - it feels like there’s roughly ten million males to every female. Inboxes were not designed to handle that kind of disparity.

There should be a sign at the door.

 

[dissolute]

You're not joking!

Still, most have been respectful and so kind. I appreciate all of you.

 

[lanceGibs]

You're not joking!

Still, most have been respectful and so kind. I appreciate all of you.

Mature men are hard to get.

 

[AnnieLit]

" I'm looking for someone willing to treat me with appreciative gifts."
Put the expected range in $$$ on this requirement and you'll never have to worry about overflowing inbox.

 

[lanceGibs]

" I'm looking for someone willing to treat me with appreciative gifts."
Put the expected range in $$$ on this requirement and you'll never have to worry about overflowing inbox.

You may find that hard to comply with.

 

[AnnieLit]

You may find that hard to comply with.

Me or the OP? I am not the one looking for gifts.

Nothing wrong with that, but many (most? all?) men tend to skip over half the requirements in any ad, let alone one that has a woman under 30 open to real life sex.

 

[lanceGibs]

Me or the OP? I am not the one looking for gifts.

Nothing wrong with that, but many (most? all?) men tend to skip over half the requirements in any ad, let alone one that has a woman under 30 open to real life sex.

I agree.
Is this a shortcoming limited , only to men.

 

[AnnieLit]

I agree.
Is this a shortcoming limited , only to men.

Not limited, but I think it is more pronounces in men.

Not that I've ever tried looking for a woman, but I would think for us there are fewer universal triggers and more "no way" qualities, so we are more likely to look at the whole package to make sure there are none of those. In short: men are looking for why this might be a "yes", while women are looking for why this is definitely a "no". I am sure there are exceptions on both sides, but this is how it feels.

 

[lanceGibs]

Not limited, but I think it is more pronounces in men.

Not that I've ever tried looking for a woman, but I would think for us there are fewer universal triggers and more "no way" qualities, so we are more likely to look at the whole package to make sure there are none of those. In short: men are looking for why this might be a "yes", while women are looking for why this is definitely a "no". I am sure there are exceptions on both sides, but this is how it feels.

I appreciate your insight into minds.
While that may not be universally true,it is a reasonable generalisation.
I am sure you have heard the term"A bitch in heat" and a man in lust.
In my study of human behaviour both have similar application.

 

[sally_sparrow]

Not limited, but I think it is more pronounces in men.

Not that I've ever tried looking for a woman, but I would think for us there are fewer universal triggers and more "no way" qualities, so we are more likely to look at the whole package to make sure there are none of those. In short: men are looking for why this might be a "yes", while women are looking for why this is definitely a "no". I am sure there are exceptions on both sides, but this is how it feels.

Yes Annie, I agree with this 100%!

 

[MMM_wms]

You sound like a lovely young woman.

and a lovely young prostitute as well

 

[dissolute]

" I'm looking for someone willing to treat me with appreciative gifts."
Put the expected range in $$$ on this requirement and you'll never have to worry about overflowing inbox.

Hi there, Annie, I appreciate your writing and bumping my thread. I'm not looking to get paid a range of money. I'm hoping for someone who enjoys showing their appreciation with gifts, because they're happy to do it and feel what they get in return is worth it. I am truly interested in discovering what my partner wants and needs in order to feel valued, and reciprocally, I'd like to feel special and treated. The last guy I was seeing wouldn't even pay for dinner dates - I paid for him usually, and while of course that's fine, it's not what I'm looking for right now.

 

[dissolute]

and a lovely young prostitute as well

I'm not a prostitute. If you wanted to know more about me and what I was seeking, I wish you'd have engaged me in conversation like Annie did instead of making snide comments on my thread.

 

[PantiesAndMore]

I'm not a prostitute. If you wanted to know more about me and what I was seeking, I wish you'd have engaged me in conversation like Annie did instead of making snide comments on my thread.

Seems like a more than fair remark

 

[AnnieLit]

I'd like to feel special and treated. The last guy I was seeing wouldn't even pay for dinner dates - I paid for him usually, and while of course that's fine, it's not what I'm looking for right now.

If this is the case, you might want to word your ad differently. Because MMM was not wrong, this is exactly how any ad that mentions gifts reads. My comment was no better -- I meant exactly the same thing, just was more polite about it since I am not much into judging others.

On dating sites "gifts" and "mutually satisfying arrangements" are euphemisms for payments. I can see that you meant it differently, but this is the reality of how it reads.

As for your example of a guy not paying for dinners, to me this is not a gift. Dinner, hotel, flowers -- I do expect these things to be covered without a discussion. Asking me how I want to split the check after our first face-to-face meeting is a sure way to never see me again. And it does not matter if "my half" is $3 for a tea or $50 for a lunch, I don't expect to be asked to pay it either way.

I think in America this is called being old fashioned. You are looking for somebody to hold doors for you, help your into your coat, and make dinner checks non existent. Then talk about this in your ad, not about "gifts".

It is really sad how many guys write in their dating profiles that they will treat their woman like a lady in public. And I am talking about real life dating here, not online! I don't know when treating women this way stopped being a default, to me it still is.

 

[dissolute]

If this is the case, you might want to word your ad differently. Because MMM was not wrong, this is exactly how any ad that mentions gifts reads. My comment was no better -- I meant exactly the same thing, just was more polite about it since I am not much into judging others.

On dating sites "gifts" and "mutually satisfying arrangements" are euphemisms for payments. I can see that you meant it differently, but this is the reality of how it reads.

As for your example of a guy not paying for dinners, to me this is not a gift. Dinner, hotel, flowers -- I do expect these things to be covered without a discussion. Asking me how I want to split the check after our first face-to-face meeting is a sure way to never see me again. And it does not matter if "my half" is $3 for a tea or $50 for a lunch, I don't expect to be asked to pay it either way.

I think in America this is called being old fashioned. You are looking for somebody to hold doors for you, help your into your coat, and make dinner checks non existent. Then talk about this in your ad, not about "gifts".

It is really sad how many guys write in their dating profiles that they will treat their woman like a lady in public. And I am talking about real life dating here, not online! I don't know when treating women this way stopped being a default, to me it still is.

Well, all the same, I appreciate your lack of judgement and this clarification.

I've never been with someone who treated me to dinner, hotels, flowers, etc. so that all sounds really nice. I put "gifts" in there because I'd like things like lingerie, wine, manicures, or other treats. This seems like more than just old-fashioned courtesy - I do want someone who'd be interested in spoiling me a little. But it would definitely be an exchange, and I assume my partner would have expectations of me as well that I'd be happy to meet. It needs to be fun and fulfilling for both parties, otherwise, what's the point?

I'm about at the point of removing this ad, though, because I've meet a few guys I'm excited about and I don't think I could handle more interest.

 

[MacGuffinn]

Hi there, Annie, I appreciate your writing and bumping my thread. I'm not looking to get paid a range of money. I'm hoping for someone who enjoys showing their appreciation with gifts, because they're happy to do it and feel what they get in return is worth it. I am truly interested in discovering what my partner wants and needs in order to feel valued, and reciprocally, I'd like to feel special and treated. The last guy I was seeing wouldn't even pay for dinner dates - I paid for him usually, and while of course that's fine, it's not what I'm looking for right now.

I just want to be able to go out safely for dinner these days.

 

[AnnieLit]

I've never been with someone who treated me to dinner, hotels, flowers, etc. so that all sounds really nice.

Oh, my! Guys reading this, take note! She is 28, so probably been dating for over 10 years now. This is not right! Take note yourselves and if you have sons, talk to them. If they are teens living with you, make sure before they go out that they have enough cash to pay for their girl. Ice cream, movie tickets, carnival ride, whatever, HE pais. It will cost you all of $20, but will insure that your kids know how this is supposed to be.

I'm about at the point of removing this ad, though, because I've meet a few guys I'm excited about and I don't think I could handle more interest.

Good for you! I hope one of them works out. Good luck!

 

[drklatinreturn]

*popcorn*