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[schnitz2]

MWM 53, I do not get enough sex from my wife...been turned on by the thoughts of her dating a guy, getting into him...making love to him. Her coming back from a date, getting in bed next to me and telling me about it-as I stroke myself or she helps me...I know it is odd, but it is strangely a turn on to me..anyone else? anyone want to chat about it?
thanks

 

[yourhornyfriend]

MWM 53, I do not get enough sex from my wife...been turned on by the thoughts of her dating a guy, getting into him...making love to him. Her coming back from a date, getting in bed next to me and telling me about it-as I stroke myself or she helps me...I know it is odd, but it is strangely a turn on to me..anyone else? anyone want to chat about it?
thanks

I had an experience with an ex years ago. It was a mixture of being hurt and turned on at the same time. Would be happy to PM about your fantasy and give more details about what happened to me.

 

[hulmule]

What time should i pick her up ?

 

[fordson]

MWM 53, I do not get enough sex from my wife...been turned on by the thoughts of her dating a guy, getting into him...making love to him. Her coming back from a date, getting in bed next to me and telling me about it-as I stroke myself or she helps me...I know it is odd, but it is strangely a turn on to me..anyone else? anyone want to chat about it?
thanks

My thoughts exactly.

 

[ImiGirrst]

MWM 53, I do not get enough sex from my wife...been turned on by the thoughts of her dating a guy, getting into him...making love to him. Her coming back from a date, getting in bed next to me and telling me about it-as I stroke myself or she helps me...I know it is odd, but it is strangely a turn on to me..anyone else? anyone want to chat about it?
thanks

Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.

First and foremost - You have to know your own mind. This is not something to enter into lightly when it comes to a physical manifestation of a mental fantasy.

Is the reason you want this because you are reaching for some sizzle? Or do want really want the other guy to take her off your hands so you can find a new nest?

Which ever it is, you owe it to yourself and your wife to get honest. And that's really the hardest part.

So find your balls to get honest with yourself, and her. That's your big issue.

Speaking as someone who is coming out of this situation, there is no way not to address that there is an elephant in the room. And that elephant is just going to grow.

So if you want some sizzle, then do it with integrity. "The Ethical Slut" is a pretty good book to look at.

You might find that polyamory works for her, you or both of you. The sex can be hot as hell and the other relationships can be incredibly rewarding. But you have to have ground rules and you have to keep your primary relationship primary.

And if your relationship really isn't working, sex with someone else isn't going to fix it. It's a bass ackwards kind of chivalrous to want to find a replacement husband for her while getting your rocks off all the while setting up having her drop the hammer so you don't have to actually do the hard part of leaving at the end of the day.

Find your courage to face it. No matter what happens, there is going to be hurt. She won't have perspective that it could be so much worse. PM if you want to talk. Because lemme tell you, it can be so much worse than facing it head on. Do right by both of you. You'll both sleep better at night.

Or don't do it at all, suck it up and never let her know just how much you walk on the wild side.

 

[asaxon]

Probably the safest to keep it a fantasy!

 

[Sir Victor]

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