Scene/session ideas....

[Curious_Red]

We can't get to the play parties too much to learn (been to four). We are kind of stuck. We both like to bottom, and will top the other. She tops me because she likes to see me squirm and jump; I top her because it pleasures her. I'd like to see what some dom/mes on here would think, maybe kind of like a game.

Here's your inventory:

Candles
Clothes pins
Paint can stir sticks
Kabab shoots
Ankle/wrist straps
blind fold
Little crop thingy with feathers on the end
little bit of rope
hitachi magic wand

For him: a cock ring with ball splitter

For both: various dildoes

This is in the bedroom, with not much more than candlelight for a light source.
We kind of need to be somewhat quiet, and keep it to the bed (or else we'd use the two floggers and the crop).

Some things she has done to me in the past: likes to spank my balls, lightly squeeze my testicles, dripped candlewax on by balls, and she has used a dildo in my ass. As for her, I've done some breast smacking as well as I can get her going with things I say to her.

I'd be curious to see what any dom would do with this stuff to a female sub and then what a domme would do to a male sub. I'm just looking for lots of things to give her pleasure, both physically and mentally, be it things I can do to her or things she can do to me.

We are knew, so I apologize in advance if this topic will bother anybody in some way. Just looking for ideas....I want to please her....

 

[ecstaticsub]

Just an idea but...why don't you put away all the implements and try using words and non-verbal communication to control, dominate and well... bring pleasure to each other. It takes a little more creativity but it is so worth it.

 

[Curious_Red]

Yeah, I'm working on that angle too. I'm not so good at it, but I'm trying. I've been texting her all day, very naughty and very "dom" like stuff. She's pretty much all hot and bothered now. I just wanted to follow up with some physical stuff because she really likes the sensation and the pain (though the pain is not *that* instense).

In fact, I'm trying really hard to think about some stuff for tomorrow. She's going to domme me tonight, and I have all day to come up with some evil stuff for her tomorrow. I was thinking of attempting a sort of role playing thing, we'll see.

Thanks!!!!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

There are things you can do to get her into a submissive mindset aside from experimenting with sensations. Try binding her wrists an having her kneel to give you a blowjob to your exact specifications or some other form of service before you get down to more S&My stuff. Give her lots of verbal while she does it, how she's a cocksucking slut and how much you're going to enjoy hurting and using her later. Even if she knows you're really as sub as she is, getting into the role will make things hotter for you both.

 

[Curious_Red]

That's great! Thanks!

When I was texting her yesterday, I kept telling her what a slut she was, and that she was my "fuckdoll". I kept trying to say things like that. She was reacting quite nicely.

I like that blow job idea.

She likes knife play. I thought after we played a bit tonight, that maybe we could "role play" a scene. I was going to use a knife, mimic some of the things that have been done to her, but pretend to make her suck and fuck me as if I was a stranger....something like that.

The mind set is what is harder for me; I'm not really like that, but I know she likes it so that gives me a reason to do it.

 

[sb2009]

you know what gets me in the mindset..and it's probably so tame...but service stuff....serving him...bringing him his dinner...drinks..etc. Kind of like waiting on him?? He knows i'm getting hot when he sees that I'm jumping up to refill his drink...etc....and sitting at his feet vs. beside him.

Also, I do things like giving his feet a massage with lotion, etc...just minor things to show I am "serving' him.

But I am not any standard to set by...

 

[Curious_Red]

Sure you are!

I kind of do that stuff to her anyway. As we've journeyed down this road, I've come to understand how submissive I am to her. I've always catered to her desires in the bedroom (we've been together for 15yrs), and I rarely ask for anything. I also do things to take care of, on my own (she never asks at all) like go get her favorite breakfast every Sat, get her coffee, etc. I won't pretend I'm totally a sub, but there are leanings.

So, your advice could be good for her submitting to me, as that's stuff she never does. Last night crapped out cause time got away from her, but what you've said actually gives me some ideas for the next time we try. I can make her do some things like that to me, make her serve me. I just don't think that way, so it is sometimes hard to come up with stuff. I don't think I could ever truly dominate someone, but if I could get up to a decent "top" or something, I think I can help scratch her mental itch for that.

Thanks again! Great stuff!