scars?
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deezire1900
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Wow, I just caught this thread.
I am really scared up from a couple of major operations. I even had the symbol for beautiful tattooed on my back, because it is the only place I am not marked.
I am always a little scared to be naked in front of someone new...but I believe it is what is on the inside that counts.
I am really scared up from a couple of major operations. I even had the symbol for beautiful tattooed on my back, because it is the only place I am not marked.
I am always a little scared to be naked in front of someone new...but I believe it is what is on the inside that counts.
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Scars don't bother me. They all have a story to tell and have a way of shaping the person who bears them. I don't find scars repulsive. Quite the opposite, actually. I find they enhance a person's individuality in most cases.
I've only ever been repulsed by scarring once, and that was a fairly extreme case of self-mutilation by one of my childhood friends in an attempt to gain interest/attention from her parents. Severe burns that have left scarring can be difficult to look at sometimes, but I wouldn't say they detracted from the person's beauty at all. I typically wind up admiring them more for knowing what they endured to wear them now.
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I've only ever been repulsed by scarring once, and that was a fairly extreme case of self-mutilation by one of my childhood friends in an attempt to gain interest/attention from her parents. Severe burns that have left scarring can be difficult to look at sometimes, but I wouldn't say they detracted from the person's beauty at all. I typically wind up admiring them more for knowing what they endured to wear them now.
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When I saw the title to this thread I thought it would be about scarification - the deliberate creation of scars.
Ugly? Is that the opposite of Beauty? Seems like a hard thing to define. It depends on who is doing the looking as much as it depends on the person being observed.
Ugly? Is that the opposite of Beauty? Seems like a hard thing to define. It depends on who is doing the looking as much as it depends on the person being observed.
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when i saw this i thought it was emotional.
whew
body scars tell a story of your life. just like my tattoos do.
i proudly wear them all.
thanks
onceburned said:
when i saw this i thought it was emotional.
whew
body scars tell a story of your life. just like my tattoos do.
i proudly wear them all.
thanks
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I have quite a few scars from doing stupid things in my youth (Falling down a mountian, off horses, an absailing tower once, bike accidents and the like) and I do feel a bit nervous getting naked in front of others.
I think it's different for guys though - most of the time you can wear them as badges, an most other guys think they're at least interesting. Women, on the other hand, seem to be very shy of them.
For myself, I haven't met anyone with a scar that I would ever think of as "Utterly repulsive".
I think it's different for guys though - most of the time you can wear them as badges, an most other guys think they're at least interesting. Women, on the other hand, seem to be very shy of them.
For myself, I haven't met anyone with a scar that I would ever think of as "Utterly repulsive".
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i have a scar from my husbands genital piercing (frenum). he had to take it out, because the scarring was a huge problem in my mind. but it was really fun for awhile. so a warning to you all., lol, don't have too much rough sex with a pierced man. hehe 
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I think it becomes a matter of familiarity. My significant other had a mastectomy some years ago and decided against reconstructive surgery. It took a little time for me to adjust emotionally to how she looked – but now I can kiss her scars and call her my Amazon…
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I don't really have a scar threshhold that a person must meet for me to find them attractive, it's not really something I've considered before.
I don't know if I can say that no amount of scars would ever bother me, but I've never been repulsed by anyone because of their scars.
I think that's really rather cute.
I don't know if I can say that no amount of scars would ever bother me, but I've never been repulsed by anyone because of their scars.
SophiaY said:
I think that's really rather cute.
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"Each cut, each scar, each burn; a different wound or time. I told him what the first one was. I told him where the second one came from--I remembered them all. And for the first time in my life I felt beautiful. Finally part of the earth. I touched the soil, and he loved me back." -Secretary
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How shallow can "love" be? You either accept and love someone fully, the scars and the good or you don't. I love scars myself. Recently I wrote about it in a SRP
I wrote this a while back. Someone told me it was "beyond erotic," someone else just said. "yuck!" So what do y'all think?
{She went to him, cuddled with him, and waited him out burning now for more than sex or love, now she needed to speak and explain. She reached out and touched one of those badges of honors a puckered bit of flesh faded now white. Then impulsively with great passion, she just kissed him as she stroked it, feeling the slightly raised flesh under her finger tips. Her mouth was hard against his, her tongue stroking into his mouth, tasting him. She moaned then pulled back. Cupping his face she looked into his eyes.
"I don't think you are a bad man. If you are? I want to be with you anyway. I can't think of turning you in now, not now. We can find another way. The two of us together can, I know it." She said then kissed that same scar and licked it before moving up to his mouth. There she licked the flames of their passion. For there it burned, on his lips and tongue, as surely as it did on her own.}
I wrote this a while back. Someone told me it was "beyond erotic," someone else just said. "yuck!" So what do y'all think?
{She went to him, cuddled with him, and waited him out burning now for more than sex or love, now she needed to speak and explain. She reached out and touched one of those badges of honors a puckered bit of flesh faded now white. Then impulsively with great passion, she just kissed him as she stroked it, feeling the slightly raised flesh under her finger tips. Her mouth was hard against his, her tongue stroking into his mouth, tasting him. She moaned then pulled back. Cupping his face she looked into his eyes.
"I don't think you are a bad man. If you are? I want to be with you anyway. I can't think of turning you in now, not now. We can find another way. The two of us together can, I know it." She said then kissed that same scar and licked it before moving up to his mouth. There she licked the flames of their passion. For there it burned, on his lips and tongue, as surely as it did on her own.}
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I think, perhaps, that scars, outside of the aesthetics, are too much of a reminder to some people about how terrible things can happen.
My older brother, who served in Vietnam, once said to me that the men who couldn't take it, couldn't handle what was happening, were those who had the most vivid imaginations.
A sad kind of thought for a beautiful day...
My older brother, who served in Vietnam, once said to me that the men who couldn't take it, couldn't handle what was happening, were those who had the most vivid imaginations.
A sad kind of thought for a beautiful day...
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I've met a lot of people, and it's really hard to find one person who can identify with me on an emotional level. So, scars...or no scars, wouldn't really be a factor for me right now. 
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-phreak said:that's beautiful...
That's an amazing movie.
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I don't really think about it. I know it sounds like a cliche, but I don't really care what somebody looks like. If it's major facial scarring I might be a little put off, but it's not going to keep me from talking to them. That's what's really important - talking to them and personalities matching. If I were to want to continue from there, it wouldn't matter about scars.
Mine are pretty minimal, but some are only visible when I'm intimate with somebody. I'm fortunate that I already have partners who don't care about the scars, because otherwise I would be worried about what potential partners thought. So I think it's definitely a reasonable fear, but for me it's unfounded.
Mine are pretty minimal, but some are only visible when I'm intimate with somebody. I'm fortunate that I already have partners who don't care about the scars, because otherwise I would be worried about what potential partners thought. So I think it's definitely a reasonable fear, but for me it's unfounded.
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I think they can add interest to a body- in so many ways. They tell of experience. They can be a fascinating contrast against the unmarred skin.
I often add scars to my characterisations. One story I wrote (I want to upload it but I can't get it out of it's old format, arrgh! was written for a woman I dated, I wrote about her body as i saw it, something like;
"I paid homage to my mistress' body, the finegrained flesh, and the long surgeon's scars- evidence of her greed and willpower- that made her somewhat a Frankenstein's creature..."
Some of her friends were upset that I wrote that, but she was really happy with it, that I faced her scars with realism and love.
Scars mean you've done things, you've survived something. When my 13-year-old son cut his eyebrow open, the other adults were so upset- "It's going to leave a scar!" "Good" I said "He's too damn cute as it is" As it happens the little scar makes him look even more irresistible. I am beginning to worry about the day the girls discover him!
I often add scars to my characterisations. One story I wrote (I want to upload it but I can't get it out of it's old format, arrgh! was written for a woman I dated, I wrote about her body as i saw it, something like;
"I paid homage to my mistress' body, the finegrained flesh, and the long surgeon's scars- evidence of her greed and willpower- that made her somewhat a Frankenstein's creature..."
Some of her friends were upset that I wrote that, but she was really happy with it, that I faced her scars with realism and love.
Scars mean you've done things, you've survived something. When my 13-year-old son cut his eyebrow open, the other adults were so upset- "It's going to leave a scar!" "Good" I said "He's too damn cute as it is" As it happens the little scar makes him look even more irresistible. I am beginning to worry about the day the girls discover him!
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SophiaY said:
they don't heal so easy.
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SophiaY said:
that's true...
I have plenty of scars; several on my right leg from a nasty break (equestrian related) and the surgery required to repair the damage. Several others are from stupid kid stuff, climbing trees and falling, bicycle accidents and the other bric-brac of youth.
My partner has a few of her own, and I don't find them at all unattractive or offputting.
Now that said, I imagine that if you were scarred horribly like The Man Without A Face I might not be able to get past my initial revulsion to find the wonderful person underneath; I do like pretty things more than ugly things.
My partner has a few of her own, and I don't find them at all unattractive or offputting.
Now that said, I imagine that if you were scarred horribly like The Man Without A Face I might not be able to get past my initial revulsion to find the wonderful person underneath; I do like pretty things more than ugly things.
