Scared of college

[KLCK]

So I am going to college next week, its just a half hour drive from my house so I am staying home...no dorm to worry about or anything like that. I am just afraid that if I fail I will have to get a job. I am not all that worried about failing...my only problem is that I suck at mathematics of all sorts and I suck at studying. I am also a bad test taker because my stomach acts up when I get nervous (history of ulcers/gastritis). The main problem is studying...I am really bad at it. I didn't study at all for most of high school except for proficiencies (just the math one).

I scared that I will fail at math, I was planning on going into architecture but now I don't want to because of all the math it requires. I plan on changing my major but I don't know what I want to do.

AHHHHHHHHH.

Here was my plan:
1. Become architect
2. Earn shitloads of money after a decade or so after graduating.
3. Have bisexuel wife and mistress all sleeping together in the same bed with me.
4. Die happy

Here is my backup plan of sorts:
1.Become history teacher. (history = easy for me)
2. Teach brats in a school.
3. Fuck former high school students after they graduate
4. Die happy

I just kinda threw in sex for options 3 just for fun, cant forget: this is literotica.

But yeah,words of advice? Is it easier than high school? I hear you have a lot of time off...

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

My advice.

Join the army or air force or navy first.

I travelled all over the world and had plenty of terrific experiences. In 4 years you'll be fucked out and ready to focus on school.

 

[KLCK]

Yeah I dont want to go into the armed forces, its not something I want to do.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Then I guess youre destined to be a shitwit.

 

[KLCK]

....how very polite of you.

 

[oggbashan]

....how very polite of you.

He's not. Don't worry. He is treating you exactly the same as he treats everyone else.

Og

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

OGG

Some dreams need killing. Tis better to get the bad news from me than someone who loves him. Imagine his trauma if his mum said the same to him.

 

[KLCK]

This better not turn into one of those threads again.

 

[oggbashan]

There are books about How To Study.

I sometimes despair that students are not prepared for college. How to study; how to improve your weak areas; how to overcome examination nerves - all those can be taught and would help.

Og

 

[KLCK]

I have moderate A.D.D. which I think is one issue. I am trying to take care of it by studying meditation. I got myself's a book on it.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

HOW TO STUDY.

Seat your ass in a chair and 1) read, 2) write, 3) work the goddamn math problems till theyre done. Repeat as often as necessary.

Everyone has ADD. Helen Keller was deaf and blind.

 

[oggbashan]

HOW TO STUDY.

Seat your ass in a chair and 1) read, 2) write, 3) work the goddamn math problems till theyre done. Repeat as often as necessary.

Everyone has ADD. Helen Keller was deaf and blind.

For once - some acceptable advice from JBJ.

Study requires work and application. We all get bored and fed-up with it from time to time.

Og

 

[KLCK]

Would a study partner help? Tutoring? I was thinking about getting both extra math tutoring and changing my major to soemthing less math oriented after I take a career exam in school next week.

 

[oggbashan]

Would a study partner help? Tutoring? I was thinking about getting both extra math tutoring and changing my major to soemthing less math oriented after I take a career exam in school next week.

It depends on the partner and the tutor.

Both need to be able to help you to work out solutions for yourself.

Og

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

KLCK

No! The math is the difference between success and pussies. Make up your mind to master the math, and doors will open for you. Otherwise youre just another parasite pussy with a liberal arts diploma that isnt worth wiping your ass with.

 

[KLCK]

I wasn't going to get a a liberal arts diploma anyway...I was aiming for possibly history teacher.

I dont really know though, I need to look into different career's. Archetecture might be way to stressful anyway, I heard its competitive as hell.

 

[desertslave]

But yeah,words of advice? Is it easier than high school? I hear you have a lot of time off...

It shouldn't be easier than high school. That's why it's college! However, there tends to be less bullshit. Certainly socially, frequently from teachers...but not always. My daughter begins her sophomore year next week. Her freshman year went pretty well but first semester she had a pinch-hitter prof for math who was chronically late grading tests and was piss-poor in availability and communication. Thankfully 2nd semester she had a totally different teacher. Her attitude about math did a 180 thanks to him. She's not going into a math-related career, so it was a gentle finish for her.

OTOH, she had a terrific English teacher first semester, and a raving twit the 2nd. DD was so frustrated that she wrote a letter to the Dean in complaint. Said teacher only has one class this semester. Coincidence??? (DD wasn't the only frustrated student in that class, from what I understand.)

Study groups can help. Tutors can sometimes help, too. The good thing about most colleges is that they want to help you succeed, you're not just a body generating test scores for funding anymore. (Usually, anyway.) If you're having trouble, try talking to your teachers first, and asking around the department in question second.

Architecture is a tough, competitive field. Good luck! Make the most of whatever "time off" you find yourself with.

 

[freshface]

Would a study partner help? Tutoring? I was thinking about getting both extra math tutoring and changing my major to soemthing less math oriented after I take a career exam in school next week.

There's really no shortcut for learning maths and sciences. I made it through chemistry with a study partner. We got stacks of used computer tract paper from the library, back in the old days when paper was cheap and computers expensive. The trick is to work every problem in the chapter, not just the ones assigned as homework, and on paper large enough to spread out. When you get together, solve the same problem at the same time, but independently. When you're both done with a problem, compare the answers with each other and make certain you both got there the same way. If you agree with each other, check the answer book. If you agree with that, move on to the next problem. Repeat until they are all done. When you finish, then go to the tutor or professor and get help with the ones where you didn't agree. Talking them out, seeing how you each reach an answer, and then getting help will help cement the concepts in your head. Don't read the chapter first. As you solve the problems, go back into the chapter to figure out solutions.

Changing to a less math intensive major is also a possibility.

 

[Carnevil9]

Many of the larger colleges have some sort of "learning skills" office, where they can help you develop good study skills and habits. It might be called just about anything, so you have to look around. That might help you master the fine arts of studying and test-taking. Good luck!......Carney

 

[R. Richard]

If you have a math/science class, one word EVERYDAY!

 

[cloudy]

No, it's not easier than high school. High school was a long parade of boredom and easy A's for me.

Learn how to study. Seriously. Don't excuse bad study habits with "I have A.D.D." I have it, too, and still managed two degrees and most of my master's program (I have only practicums left). I don't let my son use that excuse.

GO TO CLASS. I can't emphasize that one enough. It's easy to skip, but don't.

Sometimes it's easier to start out at a community college before attempting a large university. I didn't do that, but lots do.

Good luck.

eta: sometimes I think it's a mistake to live at home and go to college. I think people need to be shoved out of the nest. I moved out when I was 17, held down two jobs to pay for school, and went to class, studied, etc. It was a rude awakening, but one that most young adults desperately need.

 

[KLCK]

I was going to try out at community college first but my parents said I was going to fail to get good enough grades to transfer so they stuck me in regular university.

So here is my checklist:
-Learn to study (starting with other subjects, I dont have math first semester)
-Learn to test take by meditating and learning good meditation/relaxation skills.
-Change major
-Join some clubs (clubs in high school = pure shit)
-Maybe get into shape (for teh chicks)

I think last year I failed at making good goals for myself. I jsut sorta loligagged the entire year and strolled along. I never studied and passed all my classes (math was a close call, but part of the reason was that I didn't care seeing as I didn't need to pass) and I had to stay home a lot due to ulcers. This year though I can finally drive and get around town on my own and my stomach is coming under control.

Hurray for me.

Dankeschön for the advice. Must also learn German in college.

 

[gauchecritic]

Maths is a piece of piss, if it's clicked.

What I found (when I taught) was that those that had to really work hard at maths were those that needed a very specific part to click into place. (say, times tables or BODMAS) and everything they found difficult was based on not knowing that particular part.

The trick is, finding that part. Then finding someone that can explain it properly.

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

KLCK

No! The math is the difference between success and pussies. Make up your mind to master the math, and doors will open for you. Otherwise youre just another parasite pussy with a liberal arts diploma that isnt worth wiping your ass with.

I sucked at math and I grew up to be a software developer making WAY over the median income for someone my age.

 

[Stella_Omega]

...and I had to stay home a lot due to ulcers. This year though I can finally drive and get around town on my own and my stomach is coming under control.

Are you being treated for your ulcers? you do know, right, that most stomach ulcers are caused by a very nasty bacteria, H. Pylori

(You probably already do know that!)