Safe anonymous sex?

[rogermen]

I've been absolutely dying to have some gay sex for a while now, and now I really want to take the plunge. I've decided to go to a local gay sauna area near me to pleasure some hard cocks.

One thing i'm concerned about though is STDs. If a guy fucking me up the ass is wearing a condom does that absolutely stop any chance of me getting an STD? What about sucking cock, i've tried researching but i've found mixed answers. I'd love to swallow a cock and drain it completely down my throat, but that seems like an easy way to get an STD, is this true? I don't think it would even be worth sucking a cock with a condom on, I want to feel the hotness and the cum. If a guy cums on my face is that safer than me swallowing it? What about cumming on my chest or in my hair on on my back, is that safer than the face?

Also is there any way of knowing if a random guy would have an STD? Are people completely honest about things like that? Is there any way to "prove" you are clean?

I apologise if it sounds like I don't know what i'm talking about, but i'd appreciate if anyone could help me with these questions, however silly they may seem to some of you.

 

[LoboBoy]

If he's in your ass with a rubber on, it's as safe as it gets without abstaining. I guess you could still get crabs, herpes etc...But you can get that from str8 sex too.

Swallowing is not that big a deal. Just get tested now and then. They do a throat swab as well as the urine and blood tests. It's unlikely to get HIV from oral but you can still get warts, Chlamydia and various other STIs in your throat.

The real problem with the bath house scene, is while you're acting out your fantasy, can you be sure all of the guys involved are being safe? Just be careful of hooking up with dickheads or people who are off their heads on Crystal.

 

[rogermen]

Crystal?

I'll be assuming most guys are unsafe in a place like this, and taking every precaution I can. I'd really love to be able to have unrestricted wild unprotected sex with another safe guy though (or two!), but I have no way of knowing if they are telling the truth so there's no chance of that.

Thanks for your reply. So if I decide I want to suck a cock, I can just go crazy on it and not worry about where any of the cum goes? That would be absolutely amazing.

If I go through with this i'll be sure to post how it went.

 

[LoboBoy]

Crystal as in Crystal meth. Very popular on the gay scene and makes you really horny the next day...hence the large no. of people at bath houses at 11 am

Also drops your inhibitions and leads to many just going for it without a rubber.

Yeah man....most single guys I know suck cock and not too worried about swallowing. Everytng except HIV can be fixed with a course of antibiotics these days.

 

[loves2stroke]

safe?

check out this site. It has all your answers. Each link has Q&A ON THE BOTTOM. http://www.dph.sf.ca.us/sfcityclinic/drk/faq6.asp

 

[TransJason]

All gay men should and usually do get a hep A and B jab as you get that from fluids.

Also theres gonnareaha (cant spell it !) and syphillis thats risen by 500% recently also got from sucking cock....HIV only if you have a cut or bleeding gums...never suck cock before you clean your teeth as the bactreis fight off infctions and the cleaner the gums the more likley you can catch something if they have bleed a liittle...

You can never be 100% sure of condoms not breaking and getting infected so just have a test every 3 months most gay men ..not sure about bi guys.

If the guy does cum and the condom tears you can get PEP an anti viral that will kill the HIV virus if you take it uo to 72 hours after being fucked.

Anyhow this is athe same stuff as for straight sex, just gay men actually know the riscks better than s8 guys !

Have fun be safe, I havent evr had an STI and I am a 36 year old gay man, and love anal and sucking cock..you just have to stay sober and never take drugs the your be fine, if your off your head on something thats when you end up with something, and thats too much hash or alcohol too.

 

[rogermen]

Thanks for all the advice. I just came back now. Two different guys sucked me (none to completion), I sucked on one guys cock for about a minute, and got fucked in the ass til the guy came in his condom.

Should I be ok?

Also a guy had this weird stuff in a tiny bottle that he "sniffed" before blowing me. Apparently the sauna place actually sold these things, anyone know what they are?

The experience wasn't really what I expected and I don't know if i'll ever try it again, but at least I gave it a go.

 

[LoboBoy]

Yeah, he was using Amyl.

 

[golfadikt2]

amyl?

I'm REALLY showing my ignorance here (i've led a "sheltered" life)...what's amyl?

 

[LoboBoy]

I'm REALLY showing my ignorance here (i've led a "sheltered" life)...what's amyl?

http://www.urban75.com/Drugs/drugamyl.html

 

[rjp44]

The contents of the little bottle is also known as poppers. Originally used as smelling salts and it was discovered that it led to a sexual rush.

 

[webber1998]

Should I be ok?

Let's hope so...

The experience wasn't really what I expected and I don't know if i'll ever try it again, but at least I gave it a go.

Some guys really get off with the higher risk sex like you described.
I've always preferred something a little more intimate then empty blow and go. I found sex much more fulfilling with someone that I had something in common with other then a hard cock.

 

[rjp44]

Let's hope so...




Some guys really get off with the higher risk sex like you described.
I've always preferred something a little more intimate then empty blow and go. I found sex much more fulfilling with someone that I had something in common with other then a hard cock.

I agree. I like to feel comfortable with the other guy. I really enjoy kissing and cuddling before oral and/or anal (maybe that's my feminine side). But I've always been afraid of sex at the arcades or baths because of the number of people your partner may have had, and what might be the virus de jour. Give me a regular buddy anytime who's not having sex with anyone he meets.

 

[webber1998]

I agree. I like to feel comfortable with the other guy. I really enjoy kissing and cuddling before oral and/or anal (maybe that's my feminine side). But I've always been afraid of sex at the arcades or baths because of the number of people your partner may have had, and what might be the virus de jour. Give me a regular buddy anytime who's not having sex with anyone he meets.

Besides the obvious issues associated with anonymous sex, I would much prefer the intimacy with a regular partner/buddy.