S&M Thoughts

[richfun]

Very much open forum, if you would like to contribute, please do.
Not saying what is right or wrong, and I suppose I am on the fringe of this. For me, the line I would not want to cross or ask anyone else to cross, is when real damage is done physically or mentally.
But it is a huge area, that intrigues me. My chief fantasy, apart from the sheer wonder of love in a sexual relationship, is to lie across a woman's knees and be spanked. I have cun several times to this fantasy.
Seems to me, the feelings of receiving are deeper and more wonderful, than those of giving.

Is that your experience/opinion ?
Anyway, feel free to run with this, although if restrained, running may not be an option !

 

[Littlesubgirl350]

You mean, like those I have every day? lol

I agree. Spanking is...mmmmm... just pure painful fun!

 

[TravisMacgee]

Why do I enjoy pain to my nipples???

 

[StrongMaster7]

So, I guess the question is, “How is rough sex justified?"

I would say that rough sex, including bdsm, is justified via consent. Everyone involved knows and agrees to, what is happening. A safe word or ‘lifeguard’ can assure that consent is not violated.

 

[CuriousJBD]

Why do I enjoy pain to my nipples???

My tolerance for nipple pain ramps up as I approach orgasm. At the moment of orgasm I beg for them to be bit harder and pinched. Quite often I am bruised for days and oh what a delicious feeling and memory.

 

[richfun]

Quite disturbed. Read a post with a man trying to "spank" his girlfriend out of saying "sorry" too much.
There was virtually nothing about what she wants, or her emotions and feelings. Love ? Not mentioned, not even affection.
My gut feeling, and I don't know, was a fear of bullying, or worse.

Not keen on the idea of changing simeine via punishment. In fact I hate the idea. To me, it has to be consensual, and for enjoyment. And done with love.

Could be wrong, but felt something was not right. If that do, hope she quits the relationship. If she says "sorry" a lot, that is up to her.
One thing for sure, care should be taken with BDSM, the "dom" person has a big responsibility. And if not consensual, it is potentially abusive