RWL52: When Your Wife Stops SEX and gives you her cloth to wear?

[RWL52]

Women,
My wife has gainded about 70lbs or so. Now she doesn't like her self, because of the weight. So we have no sex anymore, I still love her and would never cheat on her but she has given me some of her cloths to wear like satin night gowns, satin slips, satin skirts and all kinds of other things. I wear them for her and she loves it why would she do this? I still think she is beautyful and tell her eve3ry day. But still nothing. I have and allergy to cotton, chicken, eggs, peanuts, any kind of spray for body oder, and the list goes on, and I am disabled so she has to make the bulk of the money. Why would she do this??

 

[zetacon4]

Women,
My wife has gainded about 70lbs or so. Now she doesn't like her self, because of the weight. So we have no sex anymore, I still love her and would never cheat on her but she has given me some of her cloths to wear like satin night gowns, satin slips, satin skirts and all kinds of other things. I wear them for her and she loves it why would she do this? I still think she is beautyful and tell her eve3ry day. But still nothing. I have and allergy to cotton, chicken, eggs, peanuts, any kind of spray for body oder, and the list goes on, and I am disabled so she has to make the bulk of the money. Why would she do this??

How to answer your post with the greatest of kindness...?

There are several things that come to mind. But, not being a mind-reader, it's impossible to say correctly what her mindset is.

I think you hit on the most important part... she feels low self esteem because her weight doesn't meet her expectations for a "pretty" or "sexy" person. That's rather common with most everyone who feels over-weight.

And, though she might not think it or know that she feels this way, she might feel less sexy toward you because of the image she "might" have due to your lack of income potential. I say this only because people do have feelings and ideas even if hidden or undetected. Mind you, there is no fault intended in this reply. Only, that these are some of the potential reasons and ideas that could be present in your situation.

A woman's mind is much more keyed to her emotions even though the logic for why she feels that way may escape another person looking at her reasons or ideas. I don't mean to be vague, but this area of relationships is very tough to explore and reason out. It's almost never just one thing. And, as you made it clear you still love her very much ( and she probably loves you still very much), that doesn't keep walls from being built between persons.

I'm not a professional counsellor. Please contact a good professional with this need. I think you will be surprised how helpful they can be. There are some things you both can do to explore this area of concern. And, I believe a good resolution to this can be found. I'm glad you could come to a helpful place and open up about this. It sure is a tough thing to deal with. I'm wishing you the very best. I'm sorry this space and medium leaves me little means to assist you further at the moment. I hope I've said something that can give you encouragement and hopeful prospect for resolving this.