RP Partners: Do you prefer to approach or be approached?

[trudee]

So, how do you prefer to find your writing partners?

I have a very definite preference, that works for the most part, - better on some sites than on others. I've never approached a male writer, no matter how talented a writer he might be, or how much I'd like to write with him. For me, while I write on erotic sites yes, I won't approach men on them privately via pm. It's not within my comfort levels.

I've always just used my OOc threads,- putting a lot of work into them on my ideas, and then waited hoping the story offered would attract the right male partner that was looking for a female partner who wants nothing only a good story to be a part of.

So, do you prefer to approach a prospective partner and invite them to look at an idea with you or do you prefer to wait and be approached?

 

[Annisthyrienne]

Well, when I first came to Lit, I had to approach more often. It was about a half and half mix, but I only had about 4 stories going on. Once my posts started showing up, I've mostly been approached by others...in fact, way more often than the number of stories I could take on. The list grew to 8 at one time at one point, and that was just too many for me to keep up with. I began to feel burnt out.

Now I'm still trying to find that perfect number. I'm involved in four right now, two on Lit and two by email with the same person. But lately I've been thinking of taking on another. I've had to turn down so many writers who approached me back when I was so busy that now the pendulum has swung the other way, and I'll probably have to approach them if I find an idea that catches my interest.

So I would say that for me, it hasn't been a matter of shyness or an unwillingness to approach others, just a matter of how many stories I carry and whether I can take on more.

I've also noticed that if I play a scene in the lounge somewhere, the offers increase right after, along with those other kinds of PMs.

 

[chronicle_tenko]

They always will. I write anything kind of dominant in the lounge, I never want for partners for a month or so after.

I never want the partners either though.

I find if I want to write something, I Ask until I find the right partner, and then offer the role. Like an audition. Sometimes it works, oft times it does not. I would be a terrible casting director it seems.

Most times I am approached about a role. Or questioned about something, that people think I will know. From those questions I am offered a role.

What is the easiest way to induce unconsciousness in a person using your bare hands?

A Blood Choke.

Not a club or something?

You said Bare hands. Still the Choke. Less blood, more reliable.

What is a Blood Choke? And why is there less blood?
I suppose I am indifferent to the entire process, it's nice to feel wanted enough to get offers but I don't mind asking for a role if I want it. I'm a very simple creature, and I will ask for what I want to occur, and I do not mind if I do not get it. Mostly it's the story that er... Turns my crank. So to speak.

 

[Cheska]

I am afraid I fall into the Picky Bitch category.

I am often approached by strangers, which does nothing for me at all. especially when they talk about reading my profile.

The stupid profile really doesn't say anything of value about me, so what are they are really learning?
Other say they have seen me post in the forums and that is why they approach. Again, I feel like they are missing a point some where.

I have approached a few threads and shyed away from one or two for reasons of my own.
I stayed away from one because the writers were intimidation and a bit confusing in their collective style.

I think my best thread/story so far as 'The Shop on the Corner.' which was an experiment in random character writing. Now, it is an RP that I enjoy a lot.

 

[DarkWarrioress]

It depends. If I know the male writer, but I haven't written with him and would like to, I try to get to know him a bit on the boards. If I get an idea for a story that I think he would fit the part for, I have no qualms about approaching him. What's the worst that can happen? He's going to turn me down? Okay, so like I haven't been turned down for something in the RW before. How's he going to know I'd love a shot at writing with him if I don't tell him I am? As a general rule though, I don't ask or seek. I get an idea and put it in my idea thread. I get so busy I forget about them and most of the time the guys just pop up in PM.

 

[Mephistophelily]

I attempt the approach. Or, if we've chatted in the lounge, I bring up wanting to rp with them. (Though a certain shadow seemed oblivious to this.)

 

[Avellan13]

Like to be approached, but rarely happens. However it depends on who's present, how many (if any) are around, and the setting. Also depends on what its about

 

[princesssexci]

I prefer being approached but its all in how you approach me. If you approach me with the typical guy fucks a slut story line with no storyline to it other than sex more than likely I'll say no or not even reply to you but if you give me something with some sort of storyline wrapped around it then I tend to be more interested in writing with you.

SOMETIMES I'll approach a writer if I have a good storyline or if they have an idea thread with a subject matter that appeals to me; but most times I won't because it seems pointless to approach someone with no storyline.

 

[Britwitch]

Bit of both, although more of one than the other

Ok, time to stop talking in riddles...

On the whole, I tend to post ideas in the 'seeking' thread and see who PMs me. That way I never know who I might write with...yes, this has meant the possibly inevitable death of many a promising thread because my chosen partner found we didn't gel, or just didn't understand one another's wishes in the thread... sigh

It's always flattering to be approached but it doesn't happen very often...very rarely indeed to be honest...not that I expect to be approached either
Several times writers I've written with before will approach me with a new idea which is always nice!

I have asked a few people over the years if they'd like to write something with me, including a few very recently, and that's usually worked out quite well too

So yes, definitely a mixture of both!

looks back up the post

And after that rambling mess I doubt anyone will be approaching me to write with them any time soon!

 

[SortOfBeautiful]

I like to be approached. Of course, when someone comes at me with an idea that's so off the wall and has nothing to do with what I'm interested in, it's a little disappointing. But I love it when someone knows what they want.

It's a little disheartening to send someone your ideas, and then be shot down. Or worse, they have no idea what they want to do, and have no opinion either way. That bothers the hell out of me.

 

[Mister J]

I'm much too aloof to even know when someone is hinting at wanting to rp with me...

 

[Veroe]

Usually I'm approached, but I'm usually juggling so many threads I have to turn them down. Which really bumms me out. I remember what it is like to be a newbie here. And I remember approaching seasoned veteran writers here at Lit as a noob and fortunately they were all very open and gracious with me.

Usually I prefer to write threads I've made from my idea box, though if the possibilies inherent in someone elses ideas attract me, I'll make an exception to that and approach the idea's author for it. I'm not exclusive, I just have frequent ideas for threads, and a good percentage of the threads I have now are someone else's idea.

 

[Mephistophelily]

I'm much too aloof to even know when someone is hinting at wanting to rp with me...

Yeah, I know.

 

[Mister J]

Yeah, I know.

Oh hush. You know you get preference anyway.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Most people are smart enough to not approach me because I'm a complete snob and excessively bitchy about it.
So there.
Nyah.

 

[princesssexci]

Most people are smart enough to not approach me because I'm a complete snob and excessively bitchy about it.
So there.
Nyah.

LIES!

I approach you allll the time

 

[Vail_Indigo]

LIES!

I approach you allll the time

Yeah, but thats cause I send out psychic mind control rays

 

[VampiricTouch]

Contemplates approaching Vailness just so she can check out those psychic mind control rays....

 

[Vail_Indigo]

makes psychic mind control ray sounds

 

[jack80]

*Begins to approach, but a sudden dark wave envelopes him, and Jack turns around and runs screaming at the top of his lungs*

"Why would you do that to squirrels!!!!!"

 

[Mister J]

Most people are smart enough to not approach me because I'm a complete snob and excessively bitchy about it.
So there.
Nyah.

Don't forget to mention that you don't like to share either. Greedy McSelfishpants.





'course I don't either so.... yeah.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Don't forget to mention that you don't like to share either. Greedy McSelfishpants.





'course I don't either so.... yeah.

MINEMINEMINEMINEMINEMINEMINEMINE!

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

It's an equal opportunity thing.

There are certain people here who know that if they even think about asking I will say yes.

Others know that I want to write with them, we are just waiting for a story line to present itself.

Still others I stalk and pout at them until they give in and write SOMETHING with me.

*shrugs*

It's about 50/50 when it comes to me either asking or being asked...and that is cool.

I like it that way.

 

[Mister J]

MINEMINEMINEMINEMINEMINEMINEMINE!

Oh hey, my favorite word!

 

[WhipLuvr]

I don't mind being approached but it really has to be done right. They have to have a decent post count, have read my profile and some of my stuff and have a really good solid idea. No wishy-washy "meet up and have sex" stuff. Politeness counts, as well as spelling and grammar.