RosieVelvet: A Statement

[RosieVelvet]

I've been here for nearly a week now. Long enough, anyway, to have done things I regretted, made faux pas, been naive, been hubristic, been downright stupid, given the benefit of the doubt to those who didn't deserve it, trusted those who ought not to have been trusted, done those things I ought not to have done and not done those things that I ought to have done. All those things without which one never learns anything. I have met some wonderful (unless they are exceptionally good liars) people, have enjoyed being here very much and hope to be around for a good long time to come. If you'll have me that is.

RosieVelvet is, of course, a construct. A construct with a strong resemblance to a woman in late middle-age currently resident in Glasgow (but who is English-born and a Scot only by adoption), but a construct nonetheless (I wanted her to be VelvetRose but that was taken and I was too lazy and impatient to come up with a more imaginative alternative). My other-world name is not Rosie. I am a writer of not-erotica and a teacher of creative writing who is here because my natural sense of naughtiness led me to want to explore the world of writing good quality, woman-friendly erotic fiction. And as I have already said, looking for [verbal] fun and honest filth short of violence or abuse. Like RosieVelvet I am a lesbian with a predilection on the side for naughty non-penetrative sex play with intelligent, thoughtful, compassionate and unselfish males, a category which encompasses but isn't confined to transgender, effeminate or "sissy" men. I'm happy to exchange sexy messages with such men, and to collaborate on stories (a technique I'm finding rather enjoyable) but I am not interested in having a real-life or virtual sexual relationship with them. I do not have any time for "macho", arrogant, overassertive men so if that is you or even if you are but you think you aren't, please don't waste my time. Mutuality is my watchword.

Let me make it clear that I will not indulge you with live voice chat, live webcams, videos, or any other medium that risks compromising my privacy. THAT IS A STRICT RED LINE FOR ME. If that leads you to think that I am a fraud or a troll then that is your prerogative but don't expect me to care because you are not the kind of person I want to interact with. I have had my fingers burnt once. I'm not going to be caught a second time. Please don's ask or try to pressurise me. The answer is no. Deal with it.

I hope that sets the record straight. Now, will you still have me around?

Rosie

 

[SimonDoom]

I've been here for nearly a week now. Long enough, anyway, to have done things I regretted, made faux pas, been naive, been hubristic, been downright stupid, given the benefit of the doubt to those who didn't deserve it, trusted those who ought not to have been trusted, done those things I ought not to have done and not done those things that I ought to have done. All those things without which one never learns anything. I have met some wonderful (unless they are exceptionally good liars) people, have enjoyed being here very much and hope to be around for a good long time to come. If you'll have me that is.

RosieVelvet is, of course, a construct. A construct with a strong resemblance to a woman in late middle-age currently resident in Glasgow (but who is English-born and a Scot only by adoption), but a construct nonetheless (I wanted her to be VelvetRose but that was taken and I was too lazy and impatient to come up with a more imaginative alternative). My other-world name is not Rosie. I am a writer of not-erotica and a teacher of creative writing who is here because my natural sense of naughtiness led me to want to explore the world of writing good quality, woman-friendly erotic fiction. And as I have already said, looking for [verbal] fun and honest filth short of violence or abuse. Like RosieVelvet I am a lesbian with a predilection on the side for naughty non-penetrative sex play with intelligent, thoughtful, compassionate and unselfish males, a category which encompasses but isn't confined to transgender, effeminate or "sissy" men. I'm happy to exchange sexy messages with such men, and to collaborate on stories (a technique I'm finding rather enjoyable) but I am not interested in having a real-life or virtual sexual relationship with them.

Let me make it clear that I will not indulge you with live voice chat, live webcams, videos, or any other medium that risks compromising my privacy. THAT IS A STRICT RED LINE FOR ME If that leads you to think that I am a fraud or a troll then that is your prerogative but don't expect me to care because you are not the kind of person I want to interact with. I have had my fingers burnt once. I'm not going to be caught a second time. Please don's ask or try to pressurise me. The answer is no. Deal with it.

I hope that sets the record straight. Now, will you still have me around?

Rosie

I can't speak for others but it's Okey Dokey with me.

 

[AwkwardMD]

The presumptiveness of assholes is unendingly surprising.

 

[LoquiSordidaAdMe]

Well sure. I mean speaking only for myself, but yeah. In the time I've been haunting the AH, I haven't heard about any one having the kind of trouble you're worried about. Maybe it happens and I've just missed it. It's never happened to me at any rate.

I have had a couple of my readers hit on me though. One of them with more success than I'm proud to admit.

We're all pretty laid back and easy going in our flirting around here. Awkward at worst. Other Lit forums maybe not so much, I don't know. I can barely keep up with this one. Anyway, I hope you'll be comfortable here and stick around a good long time.

 

[gordo12]

Might this have been better placed in the role playing section?

Secondly I believe there is something like 150,000 members (someone can correct me) here, so however you want to run your life is entirely your business. I personally can't be bothered to try to remember what you want or don't want.

But coming out with an "I'm special" statement doesn't say much in the way of good things about you to me. It seems kind of whiny.

 

[RosieVelvet]

Might this have been better placed in the role playing section?

Secondly I believe there is something like 150,000 members (someone can correct me) here, so however you want to run your life is entirely your business. I personally can't be bothered to try to remember what you want or don't want.

But coming out with an "I'm special" statement doesn't say much in the way of good things about you to me. It seems kind of whiny.

Yeah, whatever.

The person concerned came via AH so I make my statement in AH.

You are free to ignore me if you wish.

 

[Blind_Justice]

I hope that sets the record straight. Now, will you still have me around?

Rosie

Sure. I'm certain most of us can talk to you without asking for nudes every five minutes. Not that I have use for them anyway.

 

[TxRad]

From what I have seen in a number of threads, you are a good fit here and a great addition to the mob. So kick back and have fun. That is what most of us try to do here. Ignore the idiots. It is their loss.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Might this have been better placed in the role playing section?

Secondly I believe there is something like 150,000 members (someone can correct me) here, so however you want to run your life is entirely your business. I personally can't be bothered to try to remember what you want or don't want.

But coming out with an "I'm special" statement doesn't say much in the way of good things about you to me. It seems kind of whiny.

The presumptiveness of assholes is unendingly surprising.

 

[Bramblethorn]

My other-world name is not Rosie.

I am shocked that somebody would use a pseudonym on this board. SHOCKED.

*fans self*

 

[NotWise]

I hope that sets the record straight. Now, will you still have me around?

Sure! I'll have a round with you. Whisky, whiskey, or ale?

 

[gordo12]

The presumptiveness of assholes is unendingly surprising.

LOL you seem to be repeating yourself!

 

[AwkwardMD]

Un-endingly surprising.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Now, will you still have me around?

Rosie

Well, I will, you can be assured.

I have received any number of propositions, some polite, most obnoxious.

Despite making multiple posts and writing an entire novella about my struggle with drug abuse and my ongoing recovery, I have had people contact me and offer me drugs.

I like to flirt and be playful, but I have written at length about my husband and I have never offered or even hinted at an interest in meeting, phone sexing, sexting or in any other way engaging in one on one sexual activity with anyone here, but I still have been accused of catfishing.

It comes with identifying yourselves as a woman on the internet. You have to decide for yourself if the ratio of signal to static is high enough to make it worth it to you. I hope you decide it is.

 

[MelissaBaby]

But coming out with an "I'm special" statement doesn't say much in the way of good things about you to me. It seems kind of whiny.

Unfortunately, there is nothing special about anything she has described. It's par for the course.

 

[ChloeTzang]

Unfortunately, there is nothing special about anything she has described. It's par for the course.

Yep. I get maybe one a week now. There was a flood of them when I first joined Literotica. It’s the internet and it’s an erotica website. I expected it. I usually respond with a standard reply that’s a polite not interested. I’ve never had any negative response to that. And I understand it. There’s a lot of lonely people out there who maybe want something they’re not getting out of their lives. Random internet stuff doesn’t do much for me but you know what, for some people it’s a much needed social connection in a society where we’re increasingly remote from community and social interaction. So me, I ignore those messages if they’re spam or over the top and I respond politely where it’s a politely worded request. Why hurt someone unnecessarily? It doesn’t annoy me at all, it comes with being on a website like this. No harm no foul.

 

[AfterDusk]

Unfortunately, there is nothing special about anything she has described. It's par for the course.

Just maintain a snarky, witty, cunt of an undertone like me and no one will make a pass at you. Honestly, never had a problem that I didn’t go looking for in the first place.

 

[vanmyers86]

Welcome to the circus, girl! It is an unfortunate truth that many of us women who write for Lit get hit on by people we would prefer not to hear from in any context. One man told me I had to expect it because as a female writing sexy stories, men would assume I was available to sext, etc., because why else would a woman write porn? (I'm paraphrasing, but you get the idea.) Another guy asked about my sexuality in his opening message, you know, as one does. The idea that some of us just like to tell a good story while being multifaceted humans seems not to occur.

In any case, chin up. Every one of us messes up and miscalculates from time to time. There's a good-hearted community here, and I have met some lovely ladies and gentlemen through Lit. You will too.

PM if you want to chat or vent.
Van

 

[gordo12]

Unfortunately, there is nothing special about anything she has described. It's par for the course.

It's sad and I get that. It's one reason why I never write a woman on Lit except to comment on a story they've written. (or man either)

That being said the primary contact route here is through her profile and her statement would have been much better there. However she has indicated the original whatever came through AH so I/we should make some allowance for that. She never mentioned that till after.

And yes even assholes can back up a teensy bit.....

 

[MelissaBaby]

Just maintain a snarky, witty, cunt of an undertone like me and no one will make a pass at you. Honestly, never had a problem that I didn’t go looking for in the first place.

I hope my post did not come off as inordinately bitter. I have dealt with so much worse than anything that could be thrown at me here, it really does just roll off. And I do accept some responsibility that by occasionally posting my picture, and using one for an avatar, I make myself more of a target.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Just maintain a snarky, witty, cunt of an undertone like me and no one will make a pass at you. Honestly, never had a problem that I didn’t go looking for in the first place.

It works for me too.

 

[Emirus]

I am shocked that somebody would use a pseudonym on this board. SHOCKED.

*fans self*

You beat me to it!

 

[Emirus]

The presumptiveness of assholes is unendingly surprising.

Speaking for myself I would say that if I wasn’t so modest I would tell you how fantastic I really am!

 

[AfterDusk]

I hope my post did not come off as inordinately bitter. I have dealt with so much worse than anything that could be thrown at me here, it really does just roll off. And I do accept some responsibility that by occasionally posting my picture, and using one for an avatar, I make myself more of a target.

Oh no, I didn’t think it sounded bitter at all. And perhaps you are right, by posting an avatar or photo it might draw some unwanted attention. I’m sure it is an issue for many women on the site (or those who claim to be women as KeithD would say lol) but I’ve never experienced it personally. If I have had issues it was because I initiated the contact.

If anything, I’m more curious as to why others have these problems and I don’t—not saying I want them, just wondering if there is a formula to a happy median of solicitation.

I’m not sure any of that made sense.

 

[NotWise]

Yep, I think that women's caucus might be building up a head of steam.