Roommates

[temp256]

I'm going to be moving out soon, and I need some advice on disclosure with roommates. I'm a lesbian transwoman, and I plan to move into an apartment with three other women. We'll each have our own bedroom and share two bathrooms, so privacy won't be a big concern.

Should I tell them I'm trans or gay? I'm legally and for all outward appearances a woman, so they might never even know. My first inclination is to keep quiet because it's really none of their business. I have yet to meet any of them, and I have no idea how much we'll interact.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Start by meeting with them-- you need to know if you can live with them at all, before you sign any contracts!

 

[johor]

You'll be living with them and wanting to talk about your life, not keep the past in a closet. How are you going to feel if there is a even a vague homophobia undercurrent and you cannot fully address the issue without causes strife in your own home? While the landlord need not know, it is something your roommates could reasonably feel should have been disclosed before they agreed to live with you. Tell them.

 

[Somehowyou]

It non of their business what you are. You are no threat to them. Go about your business and be a good considerate roommate like any good decent considerate person would do.