"Romantic" Dirty Talk/Actions

[hatsoff]

Last time I went and asked HT about cunnilingus, I ended up getting some decent responses to my queries. So, I thought I'd ask for some suggestions concerning a specific kind of dirty talk.

Well, I have been seeing this woman, who is into me talking dirty in bed but in a romantic/innocent sort of way. For instance, she is a bit shy when I tell her "Your pussy is so tight baby" but loves it whenever I tell her "I can't believe the way you make me feel when I'm deep inside you". I suppose the suggestions I am looking for are more 'romantic lines' that I can tell her in bed or if any ladies out there can give me some advice to make sex more intimate.

So far, I have:
-Massaged her legs and back, while kissing the nape of her neck, before sex
-Slid myself inside her, while she was still waking up, and making love with her
-Went down on her slowly and described to her how excited it made me (dunno if this is romantic or not )
-Cuddled up after sex and touched every inch of her body with my fingertips.

Another things I want to state is that she is not a deviant with sex. Apparently her last relationship was guy on top most of the time and her dressing up once for their kinkiest thing. She likes to take things a bit slow I suppose.

 

[Hhot]

Your skin feels amazing/Your skin is so soft.

I love the way you taste.

I want to kiss every inch of you.

You feeeel soooo good.

Your ass looks amazing from here. (especially if she's self-concious about her body)

 

[hatsoff]

Exactly the kind of suggestions I want. Thank you kindly!

 

[Down_UnderKid]

comment on things like eyes, lips , ect.

the things mentioned by previous poster aswell

 

[thirty]

how do you want me to penetrate you?

you want me to fuck you fast or slowly?

It's so wet down there.

 

[SweetErika]

It sounds like you'll be on the right track if you use softer words and talk about your feelings (both physical and emotional). Use words related to the senses, like feel, look, touch, taste, scent, aroma, explore, devour, edible, delicious, hot, chills, soft, silky, velvety, sensual, erotic...

I think the other thing, too, is compliment her on things she does or can actually influence/control. Tell her when she looks particularly sexy with a specific, genuine compliment. Instead of talking about the tightness of her pussy, tell her how exciting it is to be with her, inside of her, feel/taste her exquisite wetness, etc. Let her know when she's doing something especially well or exciting with those feeling words.

You might also ask for suggestions on stories that use softer descriptions in the AH. I've read some (mostly by female authors) that have a lot of material you could use for ideas and build on; unfortunately, I can't recall the names or authors, but I bet the good folks in the AH could point you in the right direction.

 

[yuna1981]

I like this thread. Normally I like things on the dirtier side, so my writing will not be helpful in this regard, but I will say that probably anything specifically complimentary will be very well-taken, as SweetErika says.

Here's another sentiment that might be well-taken: "You feel so good, it's hard for me to control myself/hard to hold back."

 

[PhilGarlic]

Last time I went and asked HT about cunnilingus, I ended up getting some decent responses to my queries. So, I thought I'd ask for some suggestions concerning a specific kind of dirty talk.

Well, I have been seeing this woman, who is into me talking dirty in bed but in a romantic/innocent sort of way. For instance, she is a bit shy when I tell her "Your pussy is so tight baby" but loves it whenever I tell her "I can't believe the way you make me feel when I'm deep inside you". I suppose the suggestions I am looking for are more 'romantic lines' that I can tell her in bed or if any ladies out there can give me some advice to make sex more intimate.

So far, I have:
-Massaged her legs and back, while kissing the nape of her neck, before sex
-Slid myself inside her, while she was still waking up, and making love with her
-Went down on her slowly and described to her how excited it made me (dunno if this is romantic or not )
-Cuddled up after sex and touched every inch of her body with my fingertips.

Another things I want to state is that she is not a deviant with sex. Apparently her last relationship was guy on top most of the time and her dressing up once for their kinkiest thing. She likes to take things a bit slow I suppose.

So this girl isn't worth you doing a bit of thinking of your own?
In my humble opinion pre scripted never works as well as spur of the moment, you know what she likes put some effort in!

 

[Guest]

Do the full romance

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[brunette1989]

As a girl, i would say that sometimes, especially when feeling a bit shy, it can be quite embarassing to hear 'anatomical words' as surelywilder said.

And saying how she makes you feel is always a winner, just leave out anything too graphic/vulgar

 

[Dr_O]

"dirty talk"

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

For what it's worth, I personally find the kind of talk you are describing to be pretty damn boring. "Oh, I want to take you in my hand and put you inside me."

To me, that kind of stuff isn't dirty or romantic.

Romantic is: "I love you. Take me. Make love to me. Look into my eyes and make me yours."

Dirty is: "Fuck my hot, wet cunt with that big hard dick. Just fuck it."

Both definitely have a place during sexy time, but this in-between stuff? Bleh.

 

[culloden]

Whatever it is you say, it has to be something you're comfortable saying. Very few people can fake it. My advice? Say what you feel, but maybe temper it a little bit. For example if your inclination might be to say, "I can't wait to fuck your cunt," you might come across as being more romantic by saying, "I can't wait to be inside you." Same meaning, different feeling.

 

[Hhot]

It sounds like you'll be on the right track if you use softer words and talk about your feelings (both physical and emotional). Use words related to the senses, like feel, look, touch, taste, scent, aroma, explore, devour, edible, delicious, hot, chills, soft, silky, velvety, sensual, erotic...

I think the other thing, too, is compliment her on things she does or can actually influence/control. Tell her when she looks particularly sexy with a specific, genuine compliment. Instead of talking about the tightness of her pussy, tell her how exciting it is to be with her, inside of her, feel/taste her exquisite wetness, etc. Let her know when she's doing something especially well or exciting with those feeling words.

You might also ask for suggestions on stories that use softer descriptions in the AH. I've read some (mostly by female authors) that have a lot of material you could use for ideas and build on; unfortunately, I can't recall the names or authors, but I bet the good folks in the AH could point you in the right direction.

I love all of SweetErika's replies on every single thread! Such a smart lady!

 

[hatsoff]

So this girl isn't worth you doing a bit of thinking of your own?
In my humble opinion pre scripted never works as well as spur of the moment, you know what she likes put some effort in!

I actually put a lot of time into this relationship. The reason why I want advice is just for that. Advice. I don't plan on putting these lines on the back of my hand and mechanically using them. Rather, I want to hear what people think of as romantic and try to empathize. My past relationships usually centered around dirty talking and being rough. However, the woman I am with now is not like this. She is more into being intimate and making love and I am greatly enjoying this. The problem is that I am having a hard time reciprocating this to her at times. So, that's the reason why I came here to look for advice and learn from it. I suppose I wasn't exactly clear on this at my first post.

Thanks for the advice sweeterika, yuna, surelywilder, and culloden. Though I would like to thank erika for the word velvety. She REALLY enjoyed me saying that word when I was whispering in her ear tonight.

 

[Lust Engine]

Having not really knowing this woman that you're with, you're obviously going to have to play it by ear. For starters I'd listen to the words that she uses. See what her temperament is- she might be soft & cuddly one night and be a total slut on another. if you feel as though you can start using some coarser language- then take that chance with her. Who knows? It could also elicit some more from her.

But I think a lot of the advice given here is solid but I would start with listening to hear what she says. Let her set the pace and the tonality of this. And by all means, don't sound scripted. In a quiet moment afterwards you might explain to her that in the past you've used harsher language as a turn-on too. See how she likes this idea and if it'd be okay to try it on her next time.

It's always tricky trying to read the other person when it comes to relationships but it's got to start somewhere. And with all good communication, listening is as important as expressing yourself too.