Romance on the GeeBee.

[Lancecastor]

I was just about to type in a Sexy-Girl thread how nice it would be to oneday see Never post that she had met someone and was madly in love and insanely happy about it.

Then I thought...as soon as that happened, she'd have to endure a group of people trying to tear it and her apart in the most vicious of ways words could ever convey.

So then I thought about how the slightest hint of attraction or relationship by a poster or posters here draws immediate derision, bile, spew and hate from others...more than the usual hate even.

Why is that, do you suppose?

 

[Pixie]

I wouldn't know, hasn't happened to me, yet.

 

[glamorilla]

mostly becouse we all think Never is too beautiful to be kept by one person and we all want our turn.

 

[Problem Child]

So then I thought about how the slightest hint of attraction or relationship by a poster or posters here draws immediate derision, bile, spew and hate from others...more than the usual hate even.

Why is that, do you suppose?

Because, for the most part, you're wrong?

Wild guess.

 

[Guest]

 

[MissTaken]

There are plenty of outted lovebirds who manage to roll along quite happily without interference from the BeeGees, errr GeeBee.

 

[Kitte]

I have recieved nothing but positive commentary on my relationship.... I mean if you want to take a stab at tearing it apart feel free...but why would you bother (that is the universal you not the personal)

I think of course there would be good natured ribbing if Never were to come out about a relationship but anyone that really mattered would of course support her 100%...

 

[Guest]

Because misery loves company.

Because some people derive such pleasure from destroying the only happiness some have ever known.

Because they can't handle their own lives.. they feel the need to try and gain control of someone elses.


Because everyone gets this wild hair up their ass that they know what someone needs...

there are so many answers.

sorry..I am a little on the bitter side.

 

[glamorilla]

I was just about to type in a Sexy-Girl thread how nice it would be to oneday see Never post that she had met someone and was madly in love and insanely happy about it.

Then I thought...as soon as that happened, she'd have to endure a group of people trying to tear it and her apart in the most vicious of ways words could ever convey.

So then I thought about how the slightest hint of attraction or relationship by a poster or posters here draws immediate derision, bile, spew and hate from others...more than the usual hate even.

Why is that, do you suppose?

we have such different perceptions of this place.

 

[sexy-girl]

i'd be happyest person here if never posted that

actually thats unfair to say i'd be happyest but i would be very happy

 

[Guest]

 

[someplace]

Sometimes I think you get out of a place what you contribute. In life, in friendships, in love, in posts...

 

[Rubyfruit]

When I look back on my life, I've noticed that the times I was judgmental or mean or ugly to people was when I myself was unhappy and unfulfilled.

 

[Lancecastor]

Perhaps it's purely situational then.

Examples:

Artful & ~Dream~ drew lots of attention (and the judgement of others), possibly because their relationship was conducted in full view...?

Rambrat & Tantanah just heard tons of spew from Lavender and others...for the second time.

*bratcat* was roasted regularly by Ishmael and others for months and months and months...

Whereas Kitte, Cheyenne, Ishmael, Lavender and others with varying levels of "profile" report and/or receive little to no attention or negative judgement of their own affairs here.

Is it because people such as Kitte, Ish, Lav and Chey conduct their romances in relative private here?

Are people who "announce" the only ones subject to the attacks/judgements by Hanns, Ish, Chey, Lav and others we saw yesterday and on other occasions?

Or is it simply a function of the attackers do you think?

 

[LukkyKnight]

Word

First I saw the unsurprising assertion:

I think anyone in an Internet relationship deserves as much ridicule as is possible

Immediately after which:

Sometimes I think you get out of a place what you contribute. In life, in friendships, in love, in posts...

Which was followed directly by:

When I look back on my life, I've noticed that the times I was judgmental or mean or ugly to people was when I myself was unhappy and unfulfilled.

Those three successive posts have nicely illuminated the topic, and expanded on one made not very much earlier:

we have such different perceptions of this place.

We see in others what we are ourselves. Those who understand that they have to offer what they seek will find this place, like many others, can provide it at times. Those who continue to use putdowns as their primary (if not exclusive) means of communication will take away a very different, much less satisfying experience and not know why.

 

[Problem Child]

Perhaps it's purely situational then.

Examples:

Artful & ~Dream~ drew lots of attention (and the judgement of others), possibly because their relationship was conducted in full view...?

Rambrat & Tantanah just heard tons of spew from Lavender and others...for the second time.

*bratcat* was roasted regularly by Ishmael and others for months and months and months...

Whereas Kitte, Cheyenne, Ishmael, Lavender and others with varying levels of "profile" report and/or receive little to no attention or negative judgement of their own affairs here.

Is it because people such as Kitte, Ish, Lav and Chey conduct their romances in relative private here?

Are people who "announce" the only ones subject to the attacks/judgements by Hanns, Ish, Chey, Lav and others we saw yesterday and on other occasions?

Or is it simply a function of the attackers do you think?

Lance,

You've chosen to break this down along your clique/non-clique lines again, as usual.

If you were honest, you would realize that the people whom you say have been "attacked" brought negative attention to themselves by making their "romances" very public and by getting involved with liars, trolls and losers. When people mix fake deaths, adultery, and posting personal info into their relationships it's bound to get noticed here.

Once again, if you don't want it commented on then don't make it public.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I sense ... could it be ...

[ CUE: Spooky Organ Music ]

The Clique!?

 

[Kitte]

Perhaps it's purely situational then.....

Is it because people such as Kitte, Ish, Lav and Chey conduct their romances in relative private here?

Are people who "announce" the only ones subject to the attacks/judgements by Hanns, Ish, Chey, Lav and others we saw yesterday and on other occasions?

Or is it simply a function of the attackers do you think?

I dont think the S. and I have been very private at all. I mean how subtle is THIS I do however think that the overall perception of a poster may affect(effect) how their relationship is percieved and treated. I seem to slip through most Lit radar so why would anyone care what or who I am doing. And even if they did..why would he or I care. Unless it is one of the few people I consider true friends. Then it would be more an issue of what was wrong with our friendship then comentary on my relationship with S. In fact when we were first together there was some negative commentary, but it was a matter of hurt feelings rather then actual negativity. I just said let it go...the only thing that really matters is how we interact with one another...fuck everyone else.
If we choose to slobber all over one another on the boards...that is our choice...I mean god look at the blurt threads

 

[J.B.]

wow. I agree. I think I may faint.

 

[Lancecastor]

Lance,

You've chosen to break this down along your clique/non-clique lines again, as usual.

If you were honest, you would realize that the people whom you say have been "attacked" brought negative attention to themselves by making their "romances" very public and by getting involved with liars, trolls and losers. When people mix fake deaths, adultery, and posting personal info into their relationships it's bound to get noticed here.

Once again, if you don't want it commented on then don't make it public.

Exactly my point....the more that is known on the GB about any member(s) romance, the more likely it will be judged a "lie", "loser", "troll", "adulterous", "slut/whore",
"asshole/bastard" relationship by those take it upon themselves to comment.

Positive comments tend to be infrequent on the topic of relationships here. Why?

 

[Problem Child]

Exactly my point....the more that is known on the GB about any member(s) romance, the more likely it will be judged a "lie", "loser", "troll", "adulterous", "slut/whore",
"asshole/bastard" relationship by those take it upon themselves to comment.

Positive comments tend to be infrequent on the topic of relationships here. Why?

You have it backwards. Trolls, losers, and liars aren't created by conversation on the boards. They're here, they expose themselves, and get commented on.

The positive comments here outweigh the negative ones by a factor of at least ten to one. If you can't find them here, you aren't looking hard enough. They're easier to spot on the Playground, although I notice from my few trips over there that it's not immune to negativity either.

The notion that just because people display affection for one another and have a public relationship they will be ridiculed and flamed isn't true either. I can think of many couples that have survived quite well here for a long time. The thing they have in common is that they don't cheat on one another or make drama a large part of their relationship.

 

[Lancecastor]

The positive comments here outweigh the negative ones by a factor of at least ten to one.

Really?

 

[Problem Child]

Really?

Lance,

Your ignorance of the good happenings on this board in deference to your rabid pursuit of the clique is your problem alone.

 

[Lancecastor]

Lance,

Your ignorance of the good happenings on this board in deference to your rabid pursuit of the clique is your problem alone.

Wow...so this is a HappyFun Board with a 10:1 Happy/Hurtful posting ratio?

Damn! Time to get my HappyFace out!

Thank you PC!



Lance

 

[sunstruck]

Originally posted by Lancecastor
Perhaps it's purely situational then.

Examples:

Artful & ~Dream~ drew lots of attention (and the judgement of others), possibly because their relationship was conducted in full view...?


Not posters on the GB so if they got shit they got it elsewhere.


Rambrat & Tantanah just heard tons of spew from Lavender and others...for the second time.

The only negative things that were said were said about Tan faking her death not their relationship. Lavy didn't spew anything, she was concerned for a friend.


*bratcat* was roasted regularly by Ishmael and others for months and months and months...

That's because she had a different cyber love of her life for every month after month after month and she was married and whinning about how bad her marriage was. But you know all about that.


Whereas Kitte, Cheyenne, Ishmael, Lavender and others with varying levels of "profile" report and/or receive little to no attention or negative judgement of their own affairs here.

Because they don't bring their shit to the board, they aren't married, they don't lie.


Is it because people such as Kitte, Ish, Lav and Chey conduct their romances in relative private here?

Yup.


You know all this shit Lance. You can stir all you want, your pot is empty.