romance help

[jayallen2]

Help from the ladies is sought here. Guys too, but no offense ladies know more. Sometimes us married guys forget we need to romance our wives. I admit that I have lost some of what I started when we first were married (before kids).
What is something that really can ignite passion in you?
Tell me what can I do to really make things romantic? keep in mind kids are abound and time becomes a factor too.
What do you ladies like your lovers to do?

All tips will be greatly appreciated!!

 

[pipercatt]

One of the most romantic things the hubster does for me is to cuddle in the dark and listen to me as I ramble. I just let my mind go, and talk about anything and everything, from the mundane humdrum to my fantasies. We make plans, and laugh and joke, and I rub on his chest. Sometimes he massages my back. Just know that he sets this time aside to listen to me, and have conversation with me, is a huge turn on. It usually leads to some very hot lovemaking.

It's prolly not what you were looking for, but thought I'd share anyway...

 

[jayallen2]

PIPERCATT

Are you kidding it is what I am looking for. As I said sometimes we forget what to do in order to keep things spicy. Kids, career etc takes its toll. The quickies are nice for me, but I think she wants more romance. So I want to be able to contribute.

Thanks!! By the way I know that my wife needs that from me too. Just reinforces it coming from another person.

 

[Nicodemus]

Buy her flowers on the way home on a tuesday or send some to work for no reason. If you are close enough surprise her at work with lunch.

If you get up in the morning and leave before she does leave a note with her lipstick on the mirror telling her you love her.

Rub her feet (this is a big one if you do it right).

Get the kids in on it.....plan an evening where you make her feel special and have the kids serve you. If you are not the best cook order out and have it delivered.

Run her a bath and share it with her.

Stop her in the morning in the middle of the rush to get ready to go to work (if you get up at the same time) and give her that passionate, movie, my god I can't beleive you chose me KISS then go on with your mornings. You will be on her mind all day. Sometimes something as simple as having an evening of blockbuster and dinner already planned and waiting when she gets home might be enough.

Get rid of the kids for and evening an shower her with that love you think you are skimping on.

Just a few random thoughts.....hope they help some.

Nic,

 

[jayallen2]

NIC

Thanks Nic good suggestions for me.

 

[SexyChele]

I think you've gotten some great suggestions between pipercatt and Nic!

Being that time is a factor and there are little ones about, I would think that taking charge of some of the "duties" so she can spend an evening with her feet up (hopefully in your lap?), relax and just have time to spend with her husband would be a tremendous turn on.

I really liked pipercatt's suggestion - go to bed a little earlier, hold her in your arms, and ask how her day was, what she's thinking of, etc.

Also, a little turn on what Nic said: stop at a florist on the way home and pick out one to 3 absolutely perfect roses, and surprise her. Sometimes a huge arrangement is something a woman knows a man called ahead for. But presenting her with a single flower or two, lets her know that you personally picked them out just for her.

I would say the biggest turn on is T-I-M-E. Time just for you and her, even if it is only a few moments. It lets her know you still think she's the best thing that's ever come into your life!

 

[Jellybeangirl]

More Passion...

These are all really great suggestions! I don't think I would be able to add anything more, except maybe to direct my husband to this thread...

jayallen2- I really respect you for looking for ideas to please your wife and your dedication for keeping the spark alive. It's not always easy with the day to day routine & children on top of it. Great luck to you!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Romance

Kissing. Good old fashined necking. long hours of lip locked kissing, lip sucking, hand kissing, etc. Kissing. There is a tendency to "get right to it" after a while. But some dim lighting candles and a lot of kissing does it for me.

Ebony

 

[jayallen2]

suggestions

thank you for responding. I am going to make a very conscience effort to apply many of these suggestions. Just at a stage where I feel some of it has been lost and I recognize the need for more of it.
not trying to be sappy.

 

[zantac666]

Another thing you can do is when she is doing the dish you give her a hug a kiss on the neck and say let me do the dishs

 

[pipercatt]

Re: suggestions

thank you for responding. I am going to make a very conscience effort to apply many of these suggestions. Just at a stage where I feel some of it has been lost and I recognize the need for more of it.
not trying to be sappy.

I doubt anyone thinks you are sappy, Jayallen. People are going to add their thoughts because you asked them, and also because they know other people read them. We all want to help each other (grin).

 

[jayallen2]

PIPER

i actually did as you suggested last night. It may appear simple to most, but I found it was something I was not always doing.
We went to bed and I was asking how her day was and just talking. It sure was better then just going to bed quiet and dozing off. I hope to continue!!