How to roleplay?! I'm sure a lot of us know what it is and understand the gist of it. But what about the technicalities? I've noticed that there are a lot of people here who claim they're skilled, and just can't find a decent partner. With so many different styles and taste, I thought it might be fun to put a thread together, collecting advices and tips, the do's and do not's of how one should engage, apply, and sustain to the play. I'll start us off.
Do:
Ask the partner what he/she would like in terms of scenes. This is helpful ESPECIALLY when you get those who says they don't mind or have anything in mind. You don't have to beat the specifics out of them, but asking for a general direction will avoid conversations like "Well, how about this?" "No" "Well then, how about that?" "No". If they want to play, they most certainly have something in mind. Don't let the lie get to you.
Don't:
Once you have a direction, don't make the partner set it up. If they don't like it, they will tell you, and change accordingly. Try sharing the work to share the fun.
Do:
Communicate. Even if you're already one hour in, in the middle of the scene, pausing or making an aside to let your partner know how you want to change it or even words of encouragement goes a long way. Plus, it makes the partner feels really special and appreciated. This is much better than trudging through the scene, and you no longer care for it. It shows.
Don't:
Leave in the middle, even if you're not into it. You wouldn't like it if the other person just got up and walked out in the middle of sex, leaving you still horny and now frustrated. Certainly don't try to rush the scene and finish quickly. Hopping off in the middle or soon afterwards is a major turn-off, and burning the bridges means one less potential partner on those desperate nights. See above for solution, or even after you're finished (or plan to), leave some time to wrap up the scene: maybe help the partner get dressed, do sweet little snuggles or kisses, walk out of the scene with the partner. Think of how you would like to finish if this was a real person that you're dealing with.
Do:
Ask the partner what he/she would like in terms of scenes. This is helpful ESPECIALLY when you get those who says they don't mind or have anything in mind. You don't have to beat the specifics out of them, but asking for a general direction will avoid conversations like "Well, how about this?" "No" "Well then, how about that?" "No". If they want to play, they most certainly have something in mind. Don't let the lie get to you.
Don't:
Once you have a direction, don't make the partner set it up. If they don't like it, they will tell you, and change accordingly. Try sharing the work to share the fun.
Do:
Communicate. Even if you're already one hour in, in the middle of the scene, pausing or making an aside to let your partner know how you want to change it or even words of encouragement goes a long way. Plus, it makes the partner feels really special and appreciated. This is much better than trudging through the scene, and you no longer care for it. It shows.
Don't:
Leave in the middle, even if you're not into it. You wouldn't like it if the other person just got up and walked out in the middle of sex, leaving you still horny and now frustrated. Certainly don't try to rush the scene and finish quickly. Hopping off in the middle or soon afterwards is a major turn-off, and burning the bridges means one less potential partner on those desperate nights. See above for solution, or even after you're finished (or plan to), leave some time to wrap up the scene: maybe help the partner get dressed, do sweet little snuggles or kisses, walk out of the scene with the partner. Think of how you would like to finish if this was a real person that you're dealing with.
