role reversal

[oldfriend]

I had an online affair with a dom whom I challenged everytime we conversed. I would allow her to fantasize about dominating me but in the end I would break my imaginary bonds and seize her in a role reversing crescendo.

How many other femdoms would secretly admit that a role reversal would be a turn on?

 

[DVS]

I had an online affair with a dom whom I challenged everytime we conversed. I would allow her to fantasize about dominating me but in the end I would break my imaginary bonds and seize her in a role reversing crescendo.

How many other femdoms would secretly admit that a role reversal would be a turn on?

I don't know of any Dommes or Doms that would care for something like you describe. We are who we are for a reason...that's what we enjoy. I'd assume your Domme was a switch and you didn't know it and maybe she didn't know it, either. Sounds like you are a switch, too.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

...and there's that word "switch" again.

I don't know of any Dommes or Doms that would care for something like you describe. We are who we are for a reason...that's what we enjoy. I'd assume your Domme was a switch and you didn't know it and maybe she didn't know it, either. Sounds like you are a switch, too.

 

[Art H.]

...and there's that word "switch" again.

Nothing wrong with us

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Not at all what I refer to.

Nothing wrong with us

 

[Art H.]

Not at all what I refer to.

Hmmmmm... my mistake then

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

not what i refer too

Not at all what I refer to.

ahh but i do know,,, now if you would go outback and cut a branch,,, and if it's to small, I will double the penalty
Terri

 

[Art H.]

ahh but i do know,,, now if you would go outback and cut a branch,,, and if it's to small, I will double the penalty
Terri

Just as I thought Switches hurt!

 

[Blushing Bottom]

*head lowered, toe kicking the dirt*
Yes I know I'll be good and cut a good one.

ahh but i do know,,, now if you would go outback and cut a branch,,, and if it's to small, I will double the penalty
Terri

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

ahh bring it to me

*head lowered, toe kicking the dirt*
Yes I know I'll be good and cut a good one.

examines the branch, this will lessen the strokes, but not the penalty, over my knee, for you have been naughty,


Terri

 

[Art H.]

examines the branch, this will lessen the strokes, but not the penalty, over my knee, for you have been naughty,


Terri

*watches nearby*

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Yes I have been naughty. Thank-you for taking my welfare in hand.

examines the branch, this will lessen the strokes, but not the penalty, over my knee, for you have been naughty,


Terri

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

as you stand before me

Yes I have been naughty. Thank-you for taking my welfare in hand.

tapping the branch against my palm,,, either confess to make this easy, or I'll make it hard, either way is fine by me,, you can confess as you expose your bottom to me, or not, either way you will be expossed and over my knee

Terri

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Oh but I am inocent of all wrong doing, but do offer my bottom for your pleasure and punishmnet if it is my screams you want.

tapping the branch against my palm,,, either confess to make this easy, or I'll make it hard, either way is fine by me,, you can confess as you expose your bottom to me, or not, either way you will be expossed and over my knee

Terri

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

innocent huh?

Oh but I am inocent of all wrong doing, but do offer my bottom for your pleasure and punishmnet if it is my screams you want.

you seem like quite the minx, judging from your posts, *sigh* but have it your way.... pulling you across my knees, running my hand slowly over your cheeks

Terri

 

[Blushing Bottom]

You have no idea....

you seem like quite the minx, judging from your posts, *sigh* but have it your way.... pulling you across my knees, running my hand slowly over your cheeks

Terri

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

ahh *butt* I do

You have no idea....

suddnly the rub becomes a swat, stinging, but not painful, I grab your hair and turn you to face me, are you ready to tell, or do I use your switch?
Terri

 

[Blushing Bottom]

You have yet to tell me what I have done wrong.

suddnly the rub becomes a swat, stinging, but not painful, I grab your hair and turn you to face me, are you ready to tell, or do I use your switch?
Terri

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Speaking of the term 'switch' and I am asking these questions from a perspective of my own ongoing education ..........

I was educated within a 'Lifestyle' understanding thats switches are very rare and often suffer greatly throughout their lives as the balance between a 'true calling' (for lack of a better way to describe ) within to really identify as both submissive and Dominant sets up immense personal challenge of constant conflict and little satisfaction in either genre. Reconciling the huge responsibilities of a Dom/me with the with those of a submissive/slave in their own situation just sounds like a nightmare to me. Hence I have never really challenged what I was taught and that I state once again is " that being a '24/7,Lifestyle' switch can present as a horrendous challenge and only exists with the rare individual."

We are going back in my personal experience many years in the above statement. Certainly not to be perceived as an online vs RL debate okay. As I know many who have been involved in BDSM and Ds pursuits for decades that have either experimented with online or use it as a tool to communicate in places such as the BB here.

If I personally remove the Ds interpretation of Lifestyle from the equation and look at it from a 'play/scene' perspective in a more BDSM part time sense I can understand how being a switch may be the 'best of both worlds' .

For the life of me I can't understand how in a Lifestyle 24/7 (ie the notion of recognising this is what you ARE as opposed to this is how you choose to play ) way of identifying your realization anyone would find it as desirable as I read others profess to . Its got to the point with me I am starting to wonder if being a 'switch' might be the current fashion trend so to speak.What I will admit to and I am not proud of the fact is that I am becoming cynical regarding people who use the term. I don't want to be this way. I would much rather learn and grow to understand better either way. Or is it possible that people are not getting enough support in their journey (for example via Mentors some of the more 'old fashioned' ideas) or perhaps are just to eager to find their niche. So taking on the mantle of switch seems a cover all insurance of sorts.

I have tried in my wording to convey things as clearly as possible which is not easy here at the BB. If I have offended anyone inadvertently you have my apologies in advance.

I would really like to LEARN something from this if possible.................listens

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

deep

Speaking of the term 'switch' and I am asking these questions from a perspective of my own ongoing education ..........

I was educated within a 'Lifestyle' understanding thats switches are very rare and often suffer greatly throughout their lives as the balance between a 'true calling' (for lack of a better way to describe ) within to really identify as both submissive and Dominant sets up immense personal challenge of constant conflict and little satisfaction in either genre. Reconciling the huge responsibilities of a Dom/me with the with those of a submissive/slave in their own situation just sounds like a nightmare to me. Hence I have never really challenged what I was taught and that I state once again is " that being a '24/7,Lifestyle' switch can present as a horrendous challenge and only exists with the rare individual."

We are going back in my personal experience many years in the above statement. Certainly not to be perceived as an online vs Terri
RL debate okay. As I know many who have been involved in BDSM and Ds pursuits for decades that have either experimented with online or use it as a tool to communicate in places such as the BB here.

If I personally remove the Ds interpretation of Lifestyle from the equation and look at it from a 'play/scene' perspective in a more BDSM part time sense I can understand how being a switch may be the 'best of both worlds' .

For the life of me I can't understand how in a Lifestyle 24/7 (ie the notion of recognising this is what you ARE as opposed to this is how you choose to play ) way of identifying your realization anyone would find it as desirable as I read others profess to . Its got to the point with me I am starting to wonder if being a 'switch' might be the current fashion trend so to speak.What I will admit to and I am not proud of the fact is that I am becoming cynical regarding people who use the term. I don't want to be this way. I would much rather learn and grow to understand better either way. Or is it possible that people are not getting enough support in their journey (for example via Mentors some of the more 'old fashioned' ideas) or perhaps are just to eager to find their niche. So taking on the mantle of switch seems a cover all insurance of sorts.

I have tried in my wording to convey things as clearly as possible which is not easy here at the BB. If I have offended anyone inadvertently you have my apologies in advance.

I would really like to LEARN something from this if possible.................listens

ok, we are talking switch at the moment to be a stick, cut and trimmed, used for spanking. In what your saying, there are mood swings, I am usually a Dom, but for some reason the winter brings this side of me out, and I would prefer to be a bi sub.
Terri

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

ok, we are talking switch at the moment to be a stick, cut and trimmed, used for spanking. In what your saying, there are mood swings, I am usually a Dom, but for some reason the winter brings this side of me out, and I would prefer to be a bi sub.
Terri

Laughs........hi Terri.....yes I know , you were speaking with BB there was no doubt in my mind what sort of switch you were both refering to.....smiles.

Your second comment is very interesting, very very interesting, I need to go out now and I'll think about it, I certainly hope you might have more to add.

Take care

@}-}rebecca----

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

not sure what to add

Laughs........hi Terri.....yes I know , you were speaking with BB there was no doubt in my mind what sort of switch you were both refering to.....smiles.

Your second comment is very interesting, very very interesting, I need to go out now and I'll think about it, I certainly hope you might have more to add.

Take care

@}-}rebecca----

I thought I said it all,,, second comment, all I can say there, is winter here makes it easy to "cover up" and I can "ahem" shave what would normally be showing during summer months. But in summer, I am all guy, and the testosterone raises
Terri

 

[~Blacklace~]

Speaking of the term 'switch' and I am asking these questions from a perspective of my own ongoing education ..........

I was educated within a 'Lifestyle' understanding thats switches are very rare and often suffer greatly throughout their lives as the balance between a 'true calling' (for lack of a better way to describe ) within to really identify as both submissive and Dominant sets up immense personal challenge of constant conflict and little satisfaction in either genre. Reconciling the huge responsibilities of a Dom/me with the with those of a submissive/slave in their own situation just sounds like a nightmare to me. Hence I have never really challenged what I was taught and that I state once again is " that being a '24/7,Lifestyle' switch can present as a horrendous challenge and only exists with the rare individual."

We are going back in my personal experience many years in the above statement. Certainly not to be perceived as an online vs RL debate okay. As I know many who have been involved in BDSM and Ds pursuits for decades that have either experimented with online or use it as a tool to communicate in places such as the BB here.

If I personally remove the Ds interpretation of Lifestyle from the equation and look at it from a 'play/scene' perspective in a more BDSM part time sense I can understand how being a switch may be the 'best of both worlds' .

For the life of me I can't understand how in a Lifestyle 24/7 (ie the notion of recognising this is what you ARE as opposed to this is how you choose to play ) way of identifying your realization anyone would find it as desirable as I read others profess to . Its got to the point with me I am starting to wonder if being a 'switch' might be the current fashion trend so to speak.What I will admit to and I am not proud of the fact is that I am becoming cynical regarding people who use the term. I don't want to be this way. I would much rather learn and grow to understand better either way. Or is it possible that people are not getting enough support in their journey (for example via Mentors some of the more 'old fashioned' ideas) or perhaps are just to eager to find their niche. So taking on the mantle of switch seems a cover all insurance of sorts.I have tried in my wording to convey things as clearly as possible which is not easy here at the BB. If I have offended anyone inadvertently you have my apologies in advance.

I would really like to LEARN something from this if possible.................listens

dearest rebecca, I respectfully disagree. Of all the switches I know, none suffer in that sense. We do have a rough go in terms of being taken seriously perhaps. But I find great satisfaction in my choice, and have learned to integrate the two to better highten my experiences.
Sometimes Im not the best at putting my thoughts into words, so to type out a longer thought out response to your post, would surely take me the better part of the day lol.

 

[Terri_Vixen_cd]

mm its not what you have done wrong, it's what you did right!

You have yet to tell me what I have done wrong.

gently rubs the switch in a circular motion over the reddning hand print. "it's the luscous bottom you are so eager to offer up for my enjoyment my dear.
Terri

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

dearest rebecca, I respectfully disagree. Of all the switches I know, none suffer in that sense. We do have a rough go in terms of being taken seriously perhaps. But I find great satisfaction in my choice, and have learned to integrate the two to better highten my experiences.
Sometimes Im not the best at putting my thoughts into words, so to type out a longer thought out response to your post, would surely take me the better part of the day lol.

hello Blacklace.....smiles
Thank you so much for your reply. I actually shifted (in a very primitive fashion ie cut and paste ) this question over to the Cafe. In a Thread I have there "I know I'll regret this but..........". I am so grateful I didn't miss your reply here.

If you will stick with me for a moment on this. I won't ask you to qualify yourself further after this point , its your life, your definition and I am no one to judge, your happy end of story.

You said "But I find great satisfaction in my choice, and have learned to integrate the two to better highten my experiences.

Now may I ask about the word 'choice'. In my experience its not about 'choice' its who you are , not a range you choose from. Am I just getting caught up in semantics here please ?

Kind regards and respectfully

@}-}rebecca-----