RJ's Place

[RJMasters]

In lue of recent events, I have learned some valuable lessons.

I am a strong believer is what goes around comes around. In short I told someone I shouldn't have to STFU, and then many told me to STFU. It was and is still a painful experience, one I won't forget for sometime.

One thing I am going to do is follow most of these people's advice and STFU for a while.

I created this thread as a place for me to hang out for a while while I consdier how I view and treat people.

If you like stop by and say hey, I'd appreciate the visit.

Be well

RJ

 

[soapstar]

Hello. As one who should STFU from time to time I recognise a kindred spirit.

Opinions are great, as long as you dont have one.

 

[soapstar]

and also, why do people post on message boards if they dont want to hear other peoples opinions?

Doesnt mean you have to agree with them.

 

[RJMasters]

True

But in any community, common curtesy is something everyone deserves. I got no qualms in admitting I didn't extend that.

Some of it was due to misunderstanding, some to only having 2 hours sleep in 26 hours, but in the bottom of it all, what happen came out of me, and I guess all that followed there after too.

I got to deal with that.

It wasn't so much the advice I gave was bad, it was how, and with what attitude I gave it.

Having an opinion is one thing even if others disagree with it, but hurting someone just isn't cool. That's what I did, end of story.

Thanks

 

[soapstar]

Good for you dude.

 

[alonelygal]

Not getting enough sleep is a pain... i know it sometimes affects the way i act. i tend to be a bit of an insomniac and i understand that completely.

It wasn't so much the advice I gave was bad, it was how, and with what attitude I gave it.

Having an opinion is one thing even if others disagree with it, but hurting someone just isn't cool. That's what I did, end of story.

i have to say it's nice to see you admitting and seeming to learn (with learning comes growth) from whatever happened.

Oh... and Hey!

joanna

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

In lue of recent events, I have learned some valuable lessons.

I am a strong believer is what goes around comes around. In short I told someone I shouldn't have to STFU, and then many told me to STFU. It was and is still a painful experience, one I won't forget for sometime.

One thing I am going to do is follow most of these people's advice and STFU for a while.

I created this thread as a place for me to hang out for a while while I consdier how I view and treat people.

If you like stop by and say hey, I'd appreciate the visit.

Be well

RJ

I read the thread and even noted the points of contention. I don't think your posting was so heinous however your tone (as you admit) was a bit brash and rude. This is a forum that allows us to speak our minds for good or ill, so even if your stay here grows a bit rocky..

I for one am still glad you are here.

*cheer up*

 

[princess4u]

stopping by to say "hey" and give you a

 

[graceanne]

 

[soapstar]

Perhaps a public stoning is in order.

That normally works for a good crowd.

 

[joiphulone]

but who should cast the first stone?

the one who is guiltless i say!



RJ, i have always enjoyed reading your comments....you always seem to put much time and thought into them....i've learned a lot from lurking around here, but i for one forgive you....(although not the one offended...i feel it needed to be said)....yes, you are learning as are the rest of us!!!

i have been wanting to post in this area of Lit for quite a long time, but have feared some coming down on me or even worse, ridiculing me for my lack of knowledge in this new world in which i walk.

i wish you well and hope to see more postings from you in the future.

joi

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

Hey RJ... Just stopping by to say "Hey" too.

And, for what it's worth, sometimes, I have an attitude myself.

Is it worth beating yourself up over? I don't know what you did or to whom, but apologies go a long way and so do measures to make it right. Just my $0.02.

*Two pennies ain't worth a lot these days, are they?*

 

[RJMasters]

Ty.

Not getting enough sleep is a pain... i know it sometimes affects the way i act. i tend to be a bit of an insomniac and i understand that completely.



i have to say it's nice to see you admitting and seeming to learn (with learning comes growth) from whatever happened.

Oh... and Hey!

joanna

 

[RJMasters]

Re: Re: RJ's Place

*cheer up*

Working on that. I'm a tough guy, just takes a bit to shake the dust off and get your head square again.

Not going anywhere, just taking some time for myself to think about what happened and how I treated others. I'm sure once I take some time, I'll start posting again when it feels right.

Thanks LUNA. Your always a freindly face that brings a smile.

 

[RJMasters]

Thank you

Can use some of those. Take all I can get.



See its catching.

Ty

stopping by to say "hey" and give you a

 

[RJMasters]

ty

~TY~

 

[RJMasters]

joi,

I appreciate you kind words. I don't have anyplans on leaving, just taking some time to think about where I am at, what I did, and where I would like to go.

It didn't so much as shake the confidence or even question who I am as a person, but it did challenge an aspect in my life that could use some work.

Some things I am learning to appreciate on a deeper level is how this community takes care of its own. I am glad of that, even though I find myself on the short end of the stick. Otherwise it wouldn't be worth being a part of.

For the record I threw the first stone. Thats not something I am proud of. I'm sure I will learn from this mistake. I am sure that when the time is right I will start posting again to some of the topic discussions.

Knowing there are those of you out there in the community who are willing to forgive, it is deeply appreciated. I will try to keep that renewed trust.

Ty again for your words of understanding and encouragement.

Be well

but who should cast the first stone?

the one who is guiltless i say!



RJ, i have always enjoyed reading your comments....you always seem to put much time and thought into them....i've learned a lot from lurking around here, but i for one forgive you....(although not the one offended...i feel it needed to be said)....yes, you are learning as are the rest of us!!!

i have been wanting to post in this area of Lit for quite a long time, but have feared some coming down on me or even worse, ridiculing me for my lack of knowledge in this new world in which i walk.

i wish you well and hope to see more postings from you in the future.

joi

 

[RJMasters]

Depends on the person giving the pennies SkyBluAngelEyes. 2 cents from you is like a million bucks.

Thanks for the encouragement.

Hey RJ... Just stopping by to say "Hey" too.

And, for what it's worth, sometimes, I have an attitude myself.

Is it worth beating yourself up over? I don't know what you did or to whom, but apologies go a long way and so do measures to make it right. Just my $0.02.

*Two pennies ain't worth a lot these days, are they?*

 

[RJMasters]

Some thoughts

I did have a chance to do a little bit of thnking. One thing I thought about was the way I often try to be humorious. I know humor is often a way to diguise something that is true. Like a nervious smile.

I find myself in trouble most when I try to be humorious in a situation that I should not. Thinking a bit deeper, I asked myself why I do that? I think its because I am guilty of be a judgmental person to some degree.

I don't want to come off as the bad guy(ya know), so I make an attempt at humor. In all fairness, maybe I should asking myself why I am being so closed minded or judgemental.

So in future posts I am going to try to make that effort. I am sure I will slip from time to time, but whenever I use humor, I think I'll take a step back and ask if I am hiding a judgemental attitude.

I think we are all judgemental to some degree, so I am not gonna beat myslef up over it, but I do recognise it is a peice of the whole, and you got to start some where right?

Anyways those are some of my thoughts I had today.

 

[badlilthang]

Dear Sir

You probably remember i asked just a couple of days ago...what if the Dom made the mistake....or betrayed....You said...it should be forgiven, as both parts can do wrong...

You are a very intelligent man - Your answers always make me nod and say...YES...that is how it is...and even if things are said a little less softer than You intended - You still said the right things...

...so in my book...a bigger man accepts His "flaws" - or His not so good days....takes it to heart and mind...and moves on....

We all have days that we really should stay in bed - and meet noone, unforetunately life is not easy that way - but i say all You did was to be human. You looked back and realized it - and now You need a little time to "heal" and forgive Yourself...and if need be..apologize.

if it has any significance at all....~even more than before ~ You have my admiration and respect~....

...hugs and hugs...s...

bad~
http://siz.snug1.org/abd/kao/heartsskip.gif

and one for You:

http://siz.snug1.org/abd/kao/rjgood.gif

 

[catalina_francisco]

In all honesty, I cannot think of one person who has posted on this board more than a handful of times who has not at some time said something which offended another either through tone, opinion, or misunderstood intention or meaning. It is one of the difficulties of interacting in this media to some extent, and also an acknowledgement that there are going to be things in all our lives which set off our personal triggers. It is also often the outcome of posting something in quick response because of time restraints or wanting to capture that thought before it passes. Most understand and forgive (or let it slide), some choose not to....that is their choice, but for me I don't want to miss out on learning anything or experiencing the diversity of the community here.

We are all human which IMO is preferable to being always on guard to say just the right thing, at the right moment, in the prescribed way as designated by one or another poster, or a set of rules of how it is supposed to be. I don't agree with everything posted on the board, but have often learnt more by trying to understand those I didn't agree with, than hanging out in a group of people who are always going to pat my back and agree with my every thought, and I theirs. I have not found one I disagree or agree with 100% of the time and suspect I am not alone in this. So what am I trying to say in this half awake state? Continue to be yourself, be as honest and open as you are comfortable with, and take from the board that which works for you. You have given much to others so surely one possible slip is not that huge a sin?!! and I am pleased to see your initial problem sorted itself out.

Catalina

 

[AvaAdore]

Re: True

some to only having 2 hours sleep in 26 hours

Bah, that's nothing

I'm sure everyone has at some point been stressed for whatever reason, and as a result lashed out at someone who didn't deserve it. It happens. You apologize and move on

 

[RJMasters]

Thank you badlilthang,

I do want to make it clear that just because I did do the right thing and apologize, it doesn't erase the fact of what happened or what I did. Which is why you are right in that I need some time to step back.

I have made my apologies known to those involved both publicly and privately.

I did take the steps of:

-admitting I was wrong

- and apologized.

but it all happend so fast, and I was too tierd from lack of sleep, that I reallly didn't get a chance to think about it.

No that I have and re-read some of the things I posted, I just shake my head and ask myself what the hell was I thinking.

I don't like hurting people. So I just don't want to prevent the behavior, I realy want to change the attitude which caused the behavior to begin with.

You are more than kind with your words, I appreciate your visit.

TY

Dear Sir

You probably remember i asked just a couple of days ago...what if the Dom made the mistake....or betrayed....You said...it should be forgiven, as both parts can do wrong...

You are a very intelligent man - Your answers always make me nod and say...YES...that is how it is...and even if things are said a little less softer than You intended - You still said the right things...

...so in my book...a bigger man accepts His "flaws" - or His not so good days....takes it to heart and mind...and moves on....

We all have days that we really should stay in bed - and meet noone, unforetunately life is not easy that way - but i say all You did was to be human. You looked back and realized it - and now You need a little time to "heal" and forgive Yourself...and if need be..apologize.

if it has any significance at all....~even more than before ~ You have my admiration and respect~....

...hugs and hugs...s...

bad~
http://siz.snug1.org/abd/kao/heartsskip.gif

and one for You:

http://siz.snug1.org/abd/kao/rjgood.gif

 

[RJMasters]

catalina,

TY

In all honesty, I cannot think of one person who has posted on this board more than a handful of times who has not at some time said something which offended another either through tone, opinion, or misunderstood intention or meaning. It is one of the difficulties of interacting in this media to some extent, and also an acknowledgement that there are going to be things in all our lives which set off our personal triggers. It is also often the outcome of posting something in quick response because of time restraints or wanting to capture that thought before it passes. Most understand and forgive (or let it slide), some choose not to....that is their choice, but for me I don't want to miss out on learning anything or experiencing the diversity of the community here.

We are all human which IMO is preferable to being always on guard to say just the right thing, at the right moment, in the prescribed way as designated by one or another poster, or a set of rules of how it is supposed to be. I don't agree with everything posted on the board, but have often learnt more by trying to understand those I didn't agree with, than hanging out in a group of people who are always going to pat my back and agree with my every thought, and I theirs. I have not found one I disagree or agree with 100% of the time and suspect I am not alone in this. So what am I trying to say in this half awake state? Continue to be yourself, be as honest and open as you are comfortable with, and take from the board that which works for you. You have given much to others so surely one possible slip is not that huge a sin?!! and I am pleased to see your initial problem sorted itself out.

Catalina

 

[RJMasters]

Re: Re: True

Bah, that's nothing

I'm sure everyone has at some point been stressed for whatever reason, and as a result lashed out at someone who didn't deserve it. It happens. You apologize and move on

TY