Rituals and positions

[MissTaken]

I have learned some things this week and wanted to share and discuss.

Rituals.

A new friend has described for me three levels of respect.

#1: Is the least formal. Basically, respectful interaction and following of specific instructions.

#2: Interacting as given permission and following all rituals, i.e. eating after He begins etc.

#3: Extremely formal. Never allowing one's self to be higher than him, physically. Not speaking without being granted permission. No eye contact. (This would only be good in scene, IMHO.)

Secondly:

We have been discussing positions that might be used in our D/s. They may have different names for other Dom/mes.

#1: Inspection: Standing tall, legs slightly spread and hands behind one's head. This may be used for sex play or to simply check and make sure the sub has completed her tasks i.e. yes, panties, no panties?

#2: Respect: Lying on one's tummy, head resting between his feet, kissing his feet. (Variation to be on one's knees bent over and doing the same. )

#3: Collaring position: (He uses the term losely just to give the position a name.) On one's knees, hands behind one's back awaiting attention from the Dom. (Instructions, praise, etc)

Let's chat about rituals, again, if you please.

 

[artful]

I have learned some things this week and wanted to share and discuss.

Rituals.

A new friend has described for me three levels of respect.

#1: Is the least formal. Basically, respectful interaction and following of specific instructions.

#2: Interacting as given permission and following all rituals, i.e. eating after He begins etc.

#3: Extremely formal. Never allowing one's self to be higher than him, physically. Not speaking without being granted permission. No eye contact. (This would only be good in scene, IMHO.)

Secondly:

We have been discussing positions that might be used in our D/s. They may have different names for other Dom/mes.

#1: Inspection: Standing tall, legs slightly spread and hands behind one's head. This may be used for sex play or to simply check and make sure the sub has completed her tasks i.e. yes, panties, no panties?

#2: Respect: Lying on one's tummy, head resting between his feet, kissing his feet. (Variation to be on one's knees bent over and doing the same. )

#3: Collaring position: (He uses the term losely just to give the position a name.) On one's knees, hands behind one's back awaiting attention from the Dom. (Instructions, praise, etc)

Let's chat about rituals, again, if you please.

I believe in rituals,...a lot. It's kinda like *Tradition*,...which I value. To ME,...they are very personal and INDIVIDUAL.

As our relationship grows,...rituals will be added as Dream and I progress forward into ALL that we can be for each other.

 

[Shadowsdream]

okie MissT here goes

I am taking the lazy way out since I have written a fair amount on this subject..so I am doing the copy and paste routine over a few posts...

RITUALS

Rituals are a fundamental necessity in the 24/7 lifestyle that is My passion. They reinforce control and obedience. They accentuate respect and caring. Rituals give consistency throughout the day.
A re-affirmation to both partners, that a Total Power Exchange is in effect. They confirm that both the Dominant and the submissive are totally dedicated to each other. In My eyes these daily repetitions of devotion add an intensity to My desire to be continually Dominant. Performed with humility and love they reinforce the need My partner has to submit. Rituals also fill the space of a day that may not include a moment of play or sceneing without leaving a void for either party. Each Dominant will find what works for Her and She will discover that if She has more than one submissive at Her feet customizing Her rituals to their personalities will bring Her more pleasure and fullfillment.
Carbon copy submissive would soon bore this Domme to distraction.
I like to begin and end My day in rituals with some also interspersed randomly throughout the remainder of the day, always fine tuning and perfecting the beauty and depth with which I am served. Formalizing behaviour creates a structure of safety, contentment and stability for the submissive while giving the Dominant a consistant opportunity to evaluate the progress of Her training program. I recommend those in training to practice their rituals even when they are not in the presense of their Dominant, for the presentations they will give are one of the building blocks of the foundation that the BDSM relationship will build upon.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank You, both!

I find that discussion concerning rituals is as hot or interesting as anything else we may discuss.

*subbie sigh* of romantic inclinations!

 

[Shadowsdream]

continued...

PRESENTATION RITUALS

A Dominant will create certain rituals for the submissive that work in advantageous ways to demonstrate respect, humility and devotion. These rituals are adhered to very strictly when the submissive presents them selves IN submissive role before that Dominant.
The rituals are designed appropriately to take full advantage of the needs of the Dominant and the special qualities of the particular submissive in question. It would be a bit naïve to form IDENTICAL expectations for all in training. Although in principle it is entirely workable…in reality to do so might short change both of a special nuance of that particular submissives uniqueness. Presentational rituals can be performed in many variances with many variables. Due to the fact that this presentation of rituals is written from the perspective of a 24/7 BDSM relationship point of view, the descriptions will be geared towards that concept. I do not imply in any way that the same rituals might be as beneficial in casual BDSM relationships, although they may in fact be perfect for some.

PUBLIC PRESENTATION RITUAL

Most public meetings must take into consideration the privacy of the Dominant and submissive while at the same time respecting the comfort of the vanilla world. It is often not desirable to bring a great deal of attention to the parties involved yet at the same time it is essential that respect is shown.
In the creation of rituals meant to transcend the day-to-day world it is essential that the Dominant and submissive understand that the vanilla world may not wish to have O/our lifestyle shoved down their throats. Therefore respecting the limits of society is a paramount consideration that should not be taken lightly. The Dominant is responsible for instructing the submissive in consistent expectations as well as any that may pertain to specific events or moments.
It would be inconceivable to expect the submissive to guess at the desires of the Dominant during these moments. To have such expectations of the submissive simply places them into a situation of stress and doubt which is unnecessary and inhumane.
Many Dominants do not allow their submissive to address Them using their given names nor do they allow the title of Mistress or Master to be used in vanilla social events. It would be appropriate to use the less formal title of Ma'am or Sir, which can slide a little more discreetly through the public arena. The titles still show respect with less familiarity and remind the submissive who they are and to whom they belong.
Many Dominants do not allow the submissive to have any bodily contact with them without specific indications that it is allowed. The submissive should wait until some indication is given, such as an opening of the arms to receive a hug or the extension of a hand. The Dominant will extend the hand in a way that will be a clear indication that the gesture is for shaking hands or for the affection of a kiss to the back or palm of the hand. Never should the submissive try to initiate physical contact in any form. It is excepted and often expected protocol for the submissive to refrain from eye contact with the Dominant by keeping his/her eyes lowered until such time as formal permission to raise them has been given. This can be done discretely and still shows deference, respect and devotion.

PRIVATE PRESENTATION AND KNEELING

Private presentations are created from the imagination and expectations of Dominants to teach those They own humility. Presentations should not be used for humiliation in My opinion but reserved to display devotion and respect through the act of humbling oneself before another. The act need not be demeaning to be beautiful and meaningful. Each and every time the submissive presents themselves to their Dominant they should do so in a manner that shows their deep connection and desire to please.
Care should be taken with the execution of each and every body movement so that the desired effect of bringing pleasure to the Dominant is evident. There should be no doubt in the mind of the Dominant that the submissive before them is presenting their body, heart and soul to the capable hands of the One in control.
When the Dominant and submissive are alone in a private situation the rituals that have been initiated through the imagination and expectations of the Dominant will over time incorporate the specific nuances of the submissive own unique attributes. The sharing of the creation of the private presentation rituals brings an extra depth of emotion and reality into the relationship.
Through the melding of the specific and unchoreographed offerings of the one in service with the well thought out intricate choreography created in the mind of the Dominant, rituals of spectacular beauty and meaning will result.
Kneeling is one of the most basic forms of submission. It speaks volumes without a word being spoken. Kneeling should be done beautifully, elegantly with a combination of joy and restraint. This simple act can convey anything from the sexual, sensual, obedient, erotic or humble emotions of the submissive to his/her Dominant. This most humble position can show a strength that is almost unimaginable or a fragility that is stunning. The simple act of the kneeling ritual begins any interaction that the Dominant may wish to entertain.
The female submissive may be required to enter a room with her head down meekly portraying her knowledge of her station below her Dominant. Keeping her hands clasped lightly behind her back she will approach the Dominant slowly with grace and dignity. Each step she will take will be carefully thought through, as her body will be in the eyes of her Dominant. Possibly she will have been taught to approach with an exaggerated undulation of the hips to display her sensuality and wantonness. Stopping at a preordained distance from her Owner she will wait quietly for an indication that she is invited into the close proximity of her Dominant. The indication she may receive could be the simplest act of the Dominant pointing to the floor before Her with the pointing finger to show that immediate kneeling is required, or perhaps the crook of a finger to indicate the submissive should approach and stand close enough for the Dominant to have physical contact if that is Her desire. If it has been indicated that she is to kneel the submissive will turn slowly and provocatively in a sensuous manner meant to tempt but not inflame her Owner. Dropping slowly and deliberately like the birth of a flower she will position herself demurely yet exposed sexually and vulnerably to the gaze and the touch of her Dominant. Each movement will be fluid and unhurried to show her availability, need and desire, to serve the One that has earned her devotion and love. She will know to kneel in the present and display position previously taught to her in the beginning of her training. Knees spread to shoulder width to display the beauty and acceptance of her sex. Back straight in pride and courage to demonstrate her worth. Chest high above a stomach tightened to accentuate her need to be beautifully accepted for the gem that she is. Hands held loosely behind her back to show her willingness to submit. Eyes lowered respectfully to indicate to her Dominant that she knows her place is below the One who holds the power over her happiness. This female submissive will not have the audacity to speak before permission has been granted and will then only do so with the utmost display of respect.
The same ritual performed by a male submissive is no less a thing of beauty to behold. If he has not been instructed to approach his Dominant in a manner that displays his more feminine side he will enter hHer space in a more manly way. he will not allow his maleness to put on any macho airs but his manner will show deference to Her through his obvious humility. Approaching slowly, quietly and humbly, he will have his hands grasped lightly behind his back at the wrists. he knows better than to raise his eyes or let a word escape his lips as he concentrates on how his approach is being perceived by his Dominant. Each movement should accentuate each muscle and line of his body to show how well he has kept the body he has given to Her for Her pleasure and amusement. With a straight proud back he will walk calmly and serenely to stand in the presence of the One he adores above all others, the One who is in control of him. Stopping a few feet from Her he will wait quietly and without a lack of composure for Her command to approach.
If his Dominant indicates that he should kneel before Her he will not need to be told that She will expect him to do so close enough for Her to be able to explore his body without leaving Her chair if that is Her desire.
This submissive knows better than to try to determine Her needs or Her wants at this time. Once he knows he is to kneel he will enter the space She has indicated through a hand signal or word and he will sink to his knees without haste or clumsiness. Not raising his eyes, he will position his body as he has been taught, to show his pride, vulnerability and acceptance of Her Ownership and Power over his masculinity. With his knees open to the width of his shoulders Her eyes, foot or hand have equal opportunities of enjoying Her treasures. It is his desire to be available and so he has no shame in his exposure. The strength of his submission is evident in the straightness of his spine and the squared look of his shoulders. He knows without strength he couldn't have the courage to submit. It is important to him and to Her that he shows that strength in his posture before Her Domination. Submission freely given is demonstrated as he lightly clasps his own hands behind his back.
Cuffs are not needed to bind him to Her and this simple gesture is the evidence that Her control is stronger than leather and chains.
If the male submissive has been feminized he will approach his Dominant with the same sensual sway of his hips. In the same manner as any female submissive would be expected to adhere to. The approach will be exaggerated in its sensuality having either been taught to show shyness or a sultry sluttiness. His movements will draw attention to his breasts as he holds his shoulders subtly back and rotates them gently in a complimenting motion with his hips. Having entered a close proximity to his Owner he will stand with legs slightly parted and his head shyly bowed awaiting Her approval and invitation to present more closely. This submissive will deliberately exaggerate his feminine side as he orchestrates a sensual path from his feet to his knees. Parting his thighs and pushing his chest seductively at Her he will remain proudly but shyly before Her. A contradiction of the naive young maiden and the slut his Dominant knows he is.

 

[Shadowsdream]

ha ha ha MissT

you should not be making Me laugh at your sighs when I am trying to be serious about this subject!

Going back to the drawing board

 

[Shadowsdream]

and on...

WHEN THE SUBMISSIVE/SLAVE ENTERS THE HOME

The scene is as follows:

The submissive comes home from a day at work or doing the tasks they have been instructed in. Once inside the door it is understood that the submissive is expected to be naked and available for any pleasure or entertainment the Dominant may require on whim or design. Without haste but with deliberation the submissive begins to remove each article of clothing. Always folding them neatly or hanging the necessary items as required to take good care of the garments they so seldom wear.
This care indirectly confirms to the Dominant that the one under Their control has good self-esteem and self respect which in itself is a compliment to the One moulding their growth. Shoes and coats are put away and when the necessary details of undressing have been accomplished the submissive will then approach the Dominant in the manner they have been taught before kneeling in devotion. There can be as many variations of this approach as there are minds to create the rituals.
Some Dominants will insist that the submissive remains outside of the perimeter of the room She is in. The submissive will then prostrate themselves at the entrance to that room with the forehead on the floor and the hands clasped loosely behind the back, a show of submission and devotion that is not broken by word or movement. If the Dominant wishes to be amused She may summon the submissive to crawl on their belly to Her feet without once raising their eyes to Hers. She can further add to Her amusement by moving each time they almost reach their goal.
Both the submissive and the Dominant are reassured of T/their roles through the use of rituals. Slight variations when least expected also enhance the control and reinforce it in the mind of the one being controlled.

 

[Shadowsdream]

MORNING RITUALS


A perfect day begins with My submissive waking in My arms. The closer he wraps his long limbs around My body the more aware I am to his need. I feel him inhale My Power and Strength as he lets go of his own. I always hold his head firmly with My left hand as I hold him close to My breast. This is the moment that he begins to anticipate the first order he will receive for the day.
We both know that he will not leave this bed until I direct him to do so. I always know how he has slept as I am in tune to every move he makes in his sleep. If I feel that he has slept badly I will try to find out why. Perhaps a reoccurring nightmare has been troubling him. If so it is discussed completely until it is no longer something he fears. When I am satisfied that he is feeling content and safe I give the command to serve My coffee.
My submissive knows that I find beauty in watching his nakedness as he leaves My presence submissively, with a slow step and his hands grasped lightly behind his back. If I feel that his movements are too fast I know there could be an underlying reason, he is not focused, as I like him to be. I will call him back and demand that he show more respect in his demeanour. As he turns from Me I can see how quickly this small show of My Domination has increased his submission and re-confirmed who is in control.
A small detail can have the largest results. I will decide which room I wish to be served in and then wait majestically for a cup of steaming coffee that I will expect to be made perfectly to My taste and served in the manner of respect and devotion that pleases Me.
I watch every move he makes as he approaches Me. My eyes show My mood. I want him to know before he even gets close to kneeling if My mood is good or bad. There will be no doubt in his mind if I am going to stick like glue to every small detail he has been taught or if I may be in a more playful mood that will allow a little more relaxation on his part.
I do not wish each morning to be predictable for it is the beginning of the day that will set the ambience that I wish to create.
My submissive will be carrying two cups of coffee as his approach is evaluated. Placing both on a low table he will drop slowly to his knees before Me. Always I see the joy in his eyes as he positions his nakedness in the way he has been taught. Knees spread shoulder width to show his availability to Me as well as his vulnerability. Back straight in the pride of his submission.
Our eyes lock for just a moment before he reaches for the cup he has taken special care with. Always My submissive tastes My coffee to be certain it is hot, sweet and perfectly creamed to My taste, his eyes never leave Mine as he performs this daily ritual. Once he is satisfied that I will be pleased he kisses the rim of My cup and passes My coffee to Me.
Without hesitation he drops his body as close to the floor as it is humanly possible to get, reinforcing his devotion and humility. Once he is positioned comfortably in the frog position I rest My feet upon the strength of his back and take the first sip.
This is the moment I enjoy My power to allow him to share the morning, drinking coffee together, or deny him that small joy. I may keep him at My feet for only a moment or until his coffee is completely cold. I decide on a whim. When I wish to enjoy the moment face to face with My boy I give the command to rise. Once again he straightens his spine and parts his thighs with his beautiful submissive hands clasped quietly behind his back. Never asking for anything but waiting patiently and calmly for My directive to join Me in enjoying the coffee.
I will compliment his service or the quality of the beverage and ask how he feels about yesterday. Once all of yesterday's good or bad moments have been discussed I will ask if he has any small wishes for this day. I will decide if those small wishes will be granted or not. Once the first cup of coffee is finished I am waiting for the request that I know will be coming shortly. My submissive will be wanting his first cigarette of the day.
I enjoy the moment that he asks so hopefully for this small wish. It is very seldom that I deny it. I enjoy a second cup of coffee in the same manner as I was served the first. There is no variance. I am never served a drink in privacy that is not served in this complete manner and in public I expect a watered down version, which My submissive and I are both comfortable with. I never prepare My own drinks. In public I still require the rim of My cup or glass to be kissed before it is handed to Me. This can be done very discretely or very openly.

 

[Ebonyfire]

okie MissT here goes

I am taking the lazy way out since I have written a fair amount on this subject..so I am doing the copy and paste routine over a few posts...

RITUALS

Rituals are a fundamental necessity in the 24/7 lifestyle that is My passion. They reinforce control and obedience. They accentuate respect and caring. Rituals give consistency throughout the day.
A re-affirmation to both partners, that a Total Power Exchange is in effect. They confirm that both the Dominant and the submissive are totally dedicated to each other. In My eyes these daily repetitions of devotion add an intensity to My desire to be continually Dominant. Performed with humility and love they reinforce the need My partner has to submit. Rituals also fill the space of a day that may not include a moment of play or sceneing without leaving a void for either party. Each Dominant will find what works for Her and She will discover that if She has more than one submissive at Her feet customizing Her rituals to their personalities will bring Her more pleasure and fullfillment.
Carbon copy submissive would soon bore this Domme to distraction.
I like to begin and end My day in rituals with some also interspersed randomly throughout the remainder of the day, always fine tuning and perfecting the beauty and depth with which I am served. Formalizing behaviour creates a structure of safety, contentment and stability for the submissive while giving the Dominant a consistant opportunity to evaluate the progress of Her training program. I recommend those in training to practice their rituals even when they are not in the presense of their Dominant, for the presentations they will give are one of the building blocks of the foundation that the BDSM relationship will build upon.

What she said! Ditto!

Ebony

 

[A Desert Rose]

Thank you Eb and Shadow. Very informative information. I will reread this thread a few times, I am sure.
Rose

 

[artful]

Copied and Pasted

okie MissT here goes

I am taking the lazy way out since I have written a fair amount on this subject..so I am doing the copy and paste routine over a few posts...

RITUALS

Rituals are a fundamental necessity in the 24/7 lifestyle that is My passion.

Thank You so much Shadows!

 

[P. B. Walker]

Okie... it's official!

This will be the first thread I've HAD to print out and save for later reading. Congrats Shadowsdream hehe.

PBW

 

[Ebonyfire]

Okie... it's official!

This will be the first thread I've HAD to print out and save for later reading. Congrats Shadowsdream hehe.

PBW

M Shadows has a way of making stuff really clear. And PBW, she carries a really big dick too!

Eb

 

[Shadowsdream]

I certainly do carry a big dick and you are all very lucky as I stopped copying and pasting before you all got really bored!

 

[P. B. Walker]

M Shadows has a way of making stuff really clear. And PBW, she carries a really big dick too!

Eb

LOL... ya'll and your big dicks...

Just to let ya know... I'm scared of anything with a dick bigger than mine... so I'm pretty sure that includes... well... pretty much all of the Dommes here. <winks>.

<Holding up the chair and whip> Back I say, BACK! Saregent, call for back up! We're under attack... women with... with big fat cocks... they are everywhere. God help us! AHhhhhhhhh.



PBW "Moommmmmyyyyy..."

 

[li'a-wahine]

my SHORT 2 cents

First I'd like to say hello to everyone here, I am a rate poster.

I agree that ritual is important to a 25/7 relationship, and I would imagine that it would be benificial for part timers too.

WOW Shadow, I caould never write that much at a time! Thank you for taking the time to do so!

I'd like to add my morning ritual to this thread.
It starts with the alarm going off, which I turn off Fast!. Then I go down to the kitchen and put on coffee and go out to get the paper. I set out the paper at the table (to the sports page) and check the coffe. I take out His cup, put the sugar in, bring out the cream and go down to the bedroom to wake M'Lord. I remove my bathrobe, and kneel by the side of the bed. I strike a small silver bell 3 times and put it on the night stand and wait with my head lowered till I have been spoken to or touched(.it depends). Then I put on His slippers and robe, go to the kitchen and pour the coffee in the cut (all ready sugared, and cream is ready ) I searve it to him and wait with eyes lowered. Then he usualy tells me to bring myself a cup and join him.

I hope this little peek into my day helps Miss taken.

lia

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: my SHORT 2 cents

I certainly thank you for your post!

It was very illuminating!
Ebony

First I'd like to say hello to everyone here, I am a rate poster.

I agree that ritual is important to a 25/7 relationship, and I would imagine that it would be benificial for part timers too.

WOW Shadow, I caould never write that much at a time! Thank you for taking the time to do so!

I'd like to add my morning ritual to this thread.
It starts with the alarm going off, which I turn off Fast!. Then I go down to the kitchen and put on coffee and go out to get the paper. I set out the paper at the table (to the sports page) and check the coffe. I take out His cup, put the sugar in, bring out the cream and go down to the bedroom to wake M'Lord. I remove my bathrobe, and kneel by the side of the bed. I strike a small silver bell 3 times and put it on the night stand and wait with my head lowered till I have been spoken to or touched(.it depends). Then I put on His slippers and robe, go to the kitchen and pour the coffee in the cut (all ready sugared, and cream is ready ) I searve it to him and wait with eyes lowered. Then he usualy tells me to bring myself a cup and join him.

I hope this little peek into my day helps Miss taken.

lia

 

[P. B. Walker]

Re: my SHORT 2 cents

First I'd like to say hello to everyone here, I am a rate poster.


I'd like to add my morning ritual to this thread.
lia

Welcome lia. Thanks for sharing something very personal like. I enjoyed reading it.

PBW

 

[li'a-wahine]

thank Ebony and P.B. , you both ahve made me feel quite commfy here.

lia

 

[Ebonyfire]

My favorite

Is the inspection position where after my sub has greeted me properly, I allow him to stand while I inspect his body inch by inch, very slowly. I just love to run my hands over every inch of his body. I even don a glove and inspect his anus.

Ebony

 

[Shadowsdream]

li'a-wahine

Thank you for sharing a very beautiful ritual. Your Master must be very proud to wake up to you at His bed side in such a submissive pose.

How many gloves a month Ebony?

 

[WillowPuss]

Thank you so much Shadowsdream for sharing Your rituals with us.

 

[Ebonyfire]

li'a-wahine

Thank you for sharing a very beautiful ritual. Your Master must be very proud to wake up to you at His bed side in such a submissive pose.

How many gloves a month Ebony?

Not enough.

I have used only five this month! Two for the inspection, and three for play. I am due!

I need that 24/7 subby!

Eb

 

[Shadowsdream]

BATHING RITUAL

Generally I prefer to bathe in the morning but this is not a hard and fast rule that My submissive can take for granted. What he can take for granted is that he will be doing the bathing and I will be doing the relaxing.
Lets assume for the sake of simplicity that this is a morning ritual that I am describing… I will also describe, later in this page, a bathing ritual that would take place in the evening.
When I have finished with My coffee and taken care of My Email or anything I wish to do on My computer, I will be in the mood to be bathed in preparation for a new day. My submissive asks Me when I wish to bathe and I instruct him as to My desires. I continue enjoying the morning as I hear the water running in the bath, I know by experience that he will be efficient with the time it takes to fill the tub.
I can hear him washing any dishes that may be in the sink from the morning or the night before. I know that he will have made the bed as well before he calls and tells Me that the bath is ready. I find him in the frog position that I love so much, waiting patiently beside the bath of hot water. I know the water will be hot, as My submissive would never prepare it in a way that did not please Me. The hotter the better is My motto!
I like to stand above him for a moment or so, just to add a bit of suspense to a routine event. Even though this ritual is expected to be routine I occasionally will add an element that is unexpected. I will instruct him to sit up upon his knees and at that time I will place a leather blindfold over his eyes so that the only glimpse of My nakedness will come from his hands. Once I am certain the black leather blindfold is correctly placed to block out all vision I will give the command to undress Me. Obediently his hands come from behind his back and he reaches blindly before him to slip My nightgown respectfully from My body. Often his head will rest upon My belly as his desire to feel My strength over powers his resistance. I may allow it for a moment before stepping from him and into the water that awaits My pleasure.
He kneels quietly with his hands once again behind his back. I see that his mouth has slackened as his submission is captured in this focused moment. When it is evident from the sound of the still water that I am awaiting his service My submissive/slave will search blindly for the soap. Always he asks if he will be washing My face. There are some days that I wish to do this Myself. If I say yes he will then ask if I am going to wash My hair. He does this so that he knows how careful he must be not to get My hair wet.
My submissive washes My body with adoration with both My cleanliness and comfort in mind. It would be unthinkable for him to turn this into a sexual moment. Those moments only come through My need not his. I can feel the love in his hands when he uses the strength of his fingers to give Me a mini back massage during the bathing process. This is his gift to Me that I do not ask from him. When I am given this unexpected gift I accept it as seriously as if he were giving Me a Mercedes. When I hear the words " I think you are finished Mistress." I will instruct this wonderful man back into the frog position to wait until I am ready to leave the bath.
I direct even the smallest details of this ritual. It will be My direction that will have My submissive reaching for the towel that he will be expected to dry Me with. I do NOT want him thinking for himself at this moment. I want him to have the freedom of obedience. This boy reaches blindly for My towel, often having to crawl a few feet to locate it hanging on the bathroom wall. I watch every tentative move he makes.
I do not stand and step from the bath water until he is quietly positioned, with his thighs spread beside My bathtub. I use his head for balance as I step before him. This boy would not make a move or a sound until I direct him to do so. I will issue the words, " I am ready to be dried" before he lifts his head in blind obedience. Thoroughly but softly My body is worshipped with the towel. Always beginning with My hair and travelling a well-learned path to My feet. When he feels satisfied I will hear the same words he used to indicate he felt my bath was complete. " I think you are finished Mistress."
I will then instruct him back to the frog position to await his next task. I will don My nightgown as I prepare to return to My bedroom to dress. Once I am covered again I will command My submissive back to his knees and remove the blindfold, which has kept him in the dark. He is almost in subspace. I will usually direct him to shower and do any body shaving that I wish at this time. I know that he enjoys his time in the shower so I seldom rush him. I also know that he does not enjoy the shavings, which take so much time, and care but I do not let that fact influence My decision. I want him shaved. He has no choice, he obeys.

 

[Ebonyfire]

LOL... ya'll and your big dicks...

Just to let ya know... I'm scared of anything with a dick bigger than mine... so I'm pretty sure that includes... well... pretty much all of the Dommes here. <winks>.

<Holding up the chair and whip> Back I say, BACK! Saregent, call for back up! We're under attack... women with... with big fat cocks... they are everywhere. God help us! AHhhhhhhhh.



PBW "Moommmmmyyyyy..."

ROTFLMAO

Here, PBW, come here, I have something to show you...it will not hurt, I promise. <standing with fingers crossed behind her back>