Revive my libido with words, chat, voice, and video... In that order

[james47m]

Revive my libido... I want to feel that tingle again

I've had a decent amount of sex recently but it's all been out of routine. It's there so I've said yes to it and it's been really great sex (I don't believe in bad sex). However I seem to have lost that all day tingle wanting it and fantasizing about it. Even masturbation has become boring. I remember when I couldn't wait to rub one out every day.

I also remember about 10 years ago how I came out of my sexual shell through a couple of amazing sexual encounters on the web when the internet was in it's infancy. Those chats, pictures, and videos were intense. Email after email of erotic fire, lust, and intimacy. I haven't had that in so long I think my libido has forgotten what it feels like.

I don't know if I feel this way because of my partner, my fatigue, my age, or because sex has been plentiful this last year but I do miss that hunger and precum producing sensation that I would get in front of my computer many years ago. I want it back. I want to feel on fire all day. And it's not just about cumming. It's about the feeling and the endless daydreaming that made my world more complete.

 

[james47m]

Precum

I don't know about other men but when I produce precum it's because I am extremely turned on and horny and the result is usually an amazing orgasm. Usually I precum a bunch when I flirt with someone new or on a 1st date or if it's something very naughty.

Well, the reason I'm focusing on precum is because I was reading the Blank Book here on Literotica and I found a little gem of a thread about milking. OMG! I've never was too crazy about internal stimulation of my ass only external but I think I need to find a woman quickly to do this with me or for me. I love to precum and from what i'm reading this makes a man precum a whole lot and cum continuously. The link is the original forum link/thread.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=98657

Thoughts, comments, private messages?

http://prostatemilking.tumblr.com/

 

[james47m]

Still looking for advice or that spark

I didn't want to let this thread go. I've had a couple of private messages about it but nothing that would amount to solid advice or an exciting encounter. I don't necessarily need the latter because I don't know if that will fix this.

One thought that came to mind is in the past, the tingle was greater when the encounter was taboo or even wrong. Either because I was married at the time and decided to flirt online with someone or because the object of my muse was someone 20 years younger and a coworker. Sex in the workplace or even flirting in the workplace always made me so hot. I would walk and just the brushing of my cock against my slacks would set me off.

Nowadays I'm doing everything by the book. I don't know if playing by the rules has created this problem. Once again sex is great when I have it but even the last 2 weeks I've been seeing someone less and less. The orgasms are good but that desire to constantly want to touch myself or be touched isn't there. If a lover doesn't show up or seeks me I just go about my day. Part of that bothers me.

Once again any advice would help.

 

[SoulWeavinGirl]

I didn't want to let this thread go. I've had a couple of private messages about it but nothing that would amount to solid advice or an exciting encounter. I don't necessarily need the latter because I don't know if that will fix this.

One thought that came to mind is in the past, the tingle was greater when the encounter was taboo or even wrong. Either because I was married at the time and decided to flirt online with someone or because the object of my muse was someone 20 years younger and a coworker. Sex in the workplace or even flirting in the workplace always made me so hot. I would walk and just the brushing of my cock against my slacks would set me off.

Nowadays I'm doing everything by the book. I don't know if playing by the rules has created this problem. Once again sex is great when I have it but even the last 2 weeks I've been seeing someone less and less. The orgasms are good but that desire to constantly want to touch myself or be touched isn't there. If a lover doesn't show up or seeks me I just go about my day. Part of that bothers me.

Once again any advice would help.

I know exactly what you're talking about in this thread. I've experienced similar and it really bothers me.

 

[DesEsseintes]

The anticipation is the desire. Fulfilment can kill it.

There's an interesting article - I thought so, at least - on the implications of this for religious self-denial here.

 

[james47m]

I know exactly what you're talking about in this thread. I've experienced similar and it really bothers me.

What's going on with you? Have you been able to figure any of it out? PM with your story.

 

[james47m]

The anticipation is the desire. Fulfilment can kill it.

There's an interesting article - I thought so, at least - on the implications of this for religious self-denial here.

Thanks. I'm going to read it now.

 

[james47m]

The anticipation is the desire. Fulfilment can kill it.

There's an interesting article - I thought so, at least - on the implications of this for religious self-denial here.

Your article installed a trojan on my computer. you suck!

 

[DesEsseintes]

Your article installed a trojan on my computer. you suck!

A Trojan from the Guardian? Really? That's bad news - they have almost 78 million unique users per month (from Media Week, in case you are now wary), so that's a lot of potential infections. But I've been using it for ten years or more and never found any problems. I'm very sorry if that's where your Trojan came from.

 

[james47m]

A Trojan from the Guardian? Really? That's bad news - they have almost 78 million unique users per month (from Media Week, in case you are now wary), so that's a lot of potential infections. But I've been using it for ten years or more and never found any problems. I'm very sorry if that's where your Trojan came from.

Really... I tested it several times. I was able to wipe after each try. I was really hoping to read the article but I kept getting malware and multiple popups as well. I went back today and the same happened. I have no idea why it's working that way but I see that you sent the link in a peculiar way.