Repository of awesome men

[Lonelywife1205]

I used to meet some really amazing men here. Lately, there seems to be an endless string of, I’ll be nice and call them “less than stellar” guys. I know you awesome guys are out there, likely lurking in the shadows. Please help restore the faith of the women of Lit that there really are some decent and wonderful men here.

Come say hi and introduce yourself if you are…

-Confident
-OVER 40
-Good looking
-Kind
-Funny/witty
-Not a man whore
-Emotionally available
-A great conversationalist
-Intelligent
-Not boring
-Not “too nice” or “trying too hard”
-Sincere
-Considerate
-At least a little pervy
-NOT AN ASSHOLE (wanting to lick them is ok, being one is not)

* This is a general list, my personal list is way more specific. I reserve the right to amend it as I see fit.

** This has gone off the rails a bit. What i envisioned was a fun thread where people could interact, but instead my inbox has blown up.

***As a side note, my specific list includes no bi guys, no men who are into wearing women’s panties and no submissive men. I’m not kink shaming, just not my thing.

**** Just to clarify, I’m not really looking for anyone and I’m definitely not looking for horny guys who just want to e-bone. I was considering a man hating post yesterday, but thought this would be a better idea. I’ve had enough heartbreak to last me for a good long while. But, if the Lit fairy drops the rare and elusive unicorn right in my lap, I won’t turn him away.

***** Update- the Reddit fairy has in fact dropped the rare and elusive unicorn right in my lap, so I’m not looking, but please introduce yourself here and hopefully you will catch the eye of a lovely Lit lady who may be reading this thread and looking for her unicorn.

 

[pandaburr]

keeping an eye on this one…..where are the great conversationalists at!?

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

Wondering if part of the equation is the connection between the two people. Yes, it must start with good people on both sides, but the amazing part comes as the connection is discovered to be deeper than expected?

 

[philly1]

Hey

Absolutely love your post! There are some good guys out there….however many just 1 thing, “ quickies” one nighters, freebies! A great guy will give you MORE, ALOT MORE!

Commitment to your pleasure ( mental, physical etc)
Stability
True genuine friendship
Effort to making a friendship work
Fun/ creative/ easy going, not pushy!
Educated
Connection
Chemistry

Mark

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Wondering if part of the equation is the connection between the two people. Yes, it must start with good people on both sides, but the amazing part comes as the connection is discovered to be deeper than expected?

You’re right about this. At the end of the day, it’s about chemistry.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Absolutely love your post! There are some good guys out there….however many just 1 thing, “ quickies” one nighters, freebies! A great guy will give you MORE, ALOT MORE!

Commitment to your pleasure ( mental, physical etc)
Stability
True genuine friendship
Effort to making a friendship work
Fun/ creative/ easy going, not pushy!
Educated
Connection
Chemistry

Mark

Thank you Mark for being the first person to actually post the way the thread was intended. You seem like a breath of fresh air.

 

[philly1]

Hey

Of course! It’s just the way I feel about it. I don’t sugarcoat anything, comes straight from the heart
Would like to chat more if your interested…

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Of course! It’s just the way I feel about it. I don’t sugarcoat anything, comes straight from the heart
Would like to chat more if your interested…

https://media4.giphy.com/media/TKoLgDu0v5abw5Owvv/giphy.gif?cid=5e214886yi0228snqyh0xwivwohoui63pc9k2kj2gq8n7lmr&rid=giphy.gif&ct=g

 

[philly1]

Love the gif!
One for you…

https://giphy.com/gifs/Friends-season-6-friends-tv-the-one-with-joeys-fridge-J2n2CJxDnvxaoyxKZn

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Love the gif!
One for you…

https://giphy.com/gifs/Friends-season-6-friends-tv-the-one-with-joeys-fridge-J2n2CJxDnvxaoyxKZn

Do you have great hair, great teeth and smell incredible?

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

Check check check
But seriously, it does come down to connection and chemistry. Even as a man on a sex site of a woman jumped right into wanting to talk sex with no flirting or never getting to know her I would lose interest no matter how intense the sex talk is.
I want to know there are things we share and common ground, common goals and expectations yet enough difference to be intriguing and challenging.

I do often wonder if there aren’t so many guys here that are rude or so self interested that the ladies end up being on guard all of the time or build hard shells that keep them protected?

 

[Kaylan6969]

I love this post, too!!

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Check check check
But seriously, it does come down to connection and chemistry. Even as a man on a sex site of a woman jumped right into wanting to talk sex with no flirting or never getting to know her I would lose interest no matter how intense the sex talk is.
I want to know there are things we share and common ground, common goals and expectations yet enough difference to be intriguing and challenging.

I do often wonder if there aren’t so many guys here that are rude or so self interested that the ladies end up being on guard all of the time or build hard shells that keep them protected?

It’s mostly that they end up being flaky. I’ve never been the kind of person who lets one bad experience ruin it for the next guy, but I’ll admit I’m starting to become jaded.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

keeping an eye on this one…..where are the great conversationalists at!?

I love this post, too!!

Welcome ladies! Feel free to post your lists.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

It’s mostly that they end up being flaky. I’ve never been the kind of person who lets one bad experience ruin it for the next guy, but I’ll admit I’m starting to become jaded.

Aaaghhhh…..I see.
Well please don’t let this place allow you to become jaded. You seem like a genuine person and your post are always so positive and fun. Don’t change because of those around you.

 

[SmartIsSexy64]

I used to meet some really amazing men here. Lately, there seems to be an endless string of, I’ll be nice and call them “less than stellar” guys. I know you awesome guys are out there, likely lurking in the shadows. Please help restore the faith of the women of Lit that there really are some decent and wonderful men here.

Come say hi and introduce yourself if you are…

-Confident
-OVER 40
-Good looking
-Kind
-Funny/witty
-Not a man whore
-Emotionally available
-A great conversationalist
-Intelligent
-Not boring
-Not “too nice” or “trying too hard”
-Sincere
-Considerate
-At least a little pervy
-NOT AN ASSHOLE (wanting to lick them is ok, being one is not)

* This is a general list, my personal list is way more specific. I reserve the right to amend it as I see fit.

** This has gone off the rails a bit. What i envisioned was a fun thread where people could interact, but instead my inbox has blown up.

As a side note, my specific list includes no bi guys, no men who are into wearing women’s panties and no submissive men. I’m not kink shaming, just not my thing.

This isn't the first post of yours I have read by a longshot and I have some superficial understanding of what is going on. I'm pretty confident I pass all the things you listed, which I guess is akin to an entry exam I'm sure actual conversation will be the real test.

I guess I could post anything here just to persuade you to chat. So it's difficult to present myself as more than another ass hole looking to get off. If you want to know more, ask away - send me a PM and I'll respond. If you're not interested I still wish you well. This place should be where you come to smile - and you shouldn't have to work so hard for that.

 

[Magineer]

It’s mostly that they end up being flaky. I’ve never been the kind of person who lets one bad experience ruin it for the next guy, but I’ll admit I’m starting to become jaded.

I'm sure you hadn't the slightest intention of implying that you're into "serial guying"...

... you know... a "less than stellar", little slip of the guard..?

 

[hairball18]

I used to meet some really amazing men here. Lately, there seems to be an endless string of, I’ll be nice and call them “less than stellar” guys. I know you awesome guys are out there, likely lurking in the shadows. Please help restore the faith of the women of Lit that there really are some decent and wonderful men here.

Come say hi and introduce yourself if you are…

-Confident
-OVER 40
-Good looking
-Kind
-Funny/witty
-Not a man whore
-Emotionally available
-A great conversationalist
-Intelligent
-Not boring
-Not “too nice” or “trying too hard”
-Sincere
-Considerate
-At least a little pervy
-NOT AN ASSHOLE (wanting to lick them is ok, being one is not)

* This is a general list, my personal list is way more specific. I reserve the right to amend it as I see fit.

** This has gone off the rails a bit. What i envisioned was a fun thread where people could interact, but instead my inbox has blown up.

As a side note, my specific list includes no bi guys, no men who are into wearing women’s panties and no submissive men. I’m not kink shaming, just not my thing.

I am a couple of those. Does that count?

 

[NorthernVAM]

This isn't the first post of yours I have read by a longshot and I have some superficial understanding of what is going on. I'm pretty confident I pass all the things you listed, which I guess is akin to an entry exam I'm sure actual conversation will be the real test.

I guess I could post anything here just to persuade you to chat. So it's difficult to present myself as more than another ass hole looking to get off. If you want to know more, ask away - send me a PM and I'll respond. If you're not interested I still wish you well. This place should be where you come to smile - and you shouldn't have to work so hard for that.

Actually, I read the original post slightly differently ... I don't think it was necessarily set up as a "test" as much as she was expressing an opinion about her experience here on the Literotica chat boards, as well as what she is hoping to find in terms of an "ideal experience".

My impression is that like most of us who "project our idealistic desires" out onto the world, it sounds like she's been disappointed by the overall experience. How we want the world to be -- and how the world really is -- are more often very different.

For example -- her post blew up her mailbox because most of the guys who read it wanted to "hard sell" themselves to her -- and yet, if you read her posting, I'd say it was pretty obvious that the "hard sell" isn't what she's looking for in her interactions here.

Again -- how much of how you see a posting is a projection of your own desires (see the other person as a object of your personal fantasy), rather than seeing them as human being whom you don't know, but could get to know if you weren't bent fulfilling whatever fantasy you have about the other person.

Just food for thought ...

 

[LonelyExpat]

I used to meet some really amazing men here. Lately, there seems to be an endless string of, I’ll be nice and call them “less than stellar” guys. I know you awesome guys are out there, likely lurking in the shadows. Please help restore the faith of the women of Lit that there really are some decent and wonderful men here.

Come say hi and introduce yourself if you are…

-Confident
-OVER 40
-Good looking
-Kind
-Funny/witty
-Not a man whore
-Emotionally available
-A great conversationalist
-Intelligent
-Not boring
-Not “too nice” or “trying too hard”
-Sincere
-Considerate
-At least a little pervy
-NOT AN ASSHOLE (wanting to lick them is ok, being one is not)

* This is a general list, my personal list is way more specific. I reserve the right to amend it as I see fit.

** This has gone off the rails a bit. What i envisioned was a fun thread where people could interact, but instead my inbox has blown up.

As a side note, my specific list includes no bi guys, no men who are into wearing women’s panties and no submissive men. I’m not kink shaming, just not my thing.

Hi there! I'd like to think I checked most of those boxes and the ones I don't I'm in the ballpark. I definitely think there are some good guys here and I'm one of them. Anyway, just wanted to say hi and hope you find what you're looking for your experience here improves.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I'm sure you hadn't the slightest intention of implying that you're into "serial guying"...

... you know... a "less than stellar", little slip of the guard..?

There would never be a “next guy” if the one I carefully chose in the first place didn’t lie, lead me on, flake out or whatever, but nice try.

 

[Magineer]

There would never be a “next guy” if the one I carefully chose in the first place didn’t lie, lead me on, flake out or whatever, but nice try.

Yes... right... nothing whatsoever to do with your good self, of course...

No "trying" involved. Just simple but often effective exercise of observational faculties.

Bye now.

 

[SmartIsSexy64]

Actually, I read the original post slightly differently ... I don't think it was necessarily set up as a "test" as much as she was expressing an opinion about her experience here on the Literotica chat boards, as well as what she is hoping to find in terms of an "ideal experience".

My impression is that like most of us who "project our idealistic desires" out onto the world, it sounds like she's been disappointed by the overall experience. How we want the world to be -- and how the world really is -- are more often very different.

For example -- her post blew up her mailbox because most of the guys who read it wanted to "hard sell" themselves to her -- and yet, if you read her posting, I'd say it was pretty obvious that the "hard sell" isn't what she's looking for in her interactions here.

Again -- how much of how you see a posting is a projection of your own desires (see the other person as a object of your personal fantasy), rather than seeing them as human being whom you don't know, but could get to know if you weren't bent fulfilling whatever fantasy you have about the other person.

Just food for thought ...

I was using an analogy and being hyperbolic. I figured the emoji conveyed that. Apparently not to all.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Yes... right... nothing whatsoever to do with your good self, of course...

No "trying" involved. Just simple but often effective exercise of observational faculties.

Bye now.

I’m not perfect and I never claimed to be blameless, but I am pretty great in a lot of ways. Thank you for taking your observational faculties elsewhere.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

With all due respect, that was kinda predictable. I think the irony of your post is that the type of guy who would substantively respond, either in public or private, is not the guy you were hoping would respond.

You’re probably exactly right.