Relationships

[flashyfish]

Well, this is the first thread I've started so let's see how it goes...

First, a quick thank you to all the great ladies who have made me feel so welcome and have given me so much enjoyment. I hope the list and good times keep increasing...

Now to the point of the thread...

Relationships...Too many people (male and female) lock people into relationship roles...I feel people need be more open minded and I'm not talking just about sex...Here's my views on relationships...

I feel that I can have some type of relationship with every person I meet except the macho male ass holes (sorry about the language). The hard part is finding the right type...Friend, lover, soul mate, partner...or long term, short term. You hope all relationships are long term but that's not always the case. I try to go with what feels right...I have many female friends that are really just friends...

I'm always looking to start a new relationship...To learn from new people...I would love to learn about YOU...Connect me...I always reply...

This thread may not go anywhere but as least people can learn about me and I'm trying to give back to this community that I am really enjoying being a part of...


Robert
(Flashyfish)

 

[sexyspank]

Congratulations

Hi Robert congratulations on your first thread.Hope it goes well.

I think that although we are all looking for different types of relationship, most of us look for a long term or maybe permenant partner. Sexually we can be attracted to many people but to actually have a person you really connect to is most peoples ultimate goal.


Wendy

 

[whspr]

Good thread Robert....I think we all connect in different
capacities....Friends, lovers, or whatever.....We all just
need to be open minded and not let someone special
pass us by because we are too narrow minded to see
them for what they are.

Soft Kisses,
Whspr

 

[flashyfish]

I agree with both of you and thank you

Yes, most people are looking for that "soul mate" That one perosn we can be around all the time and not get sick on being around them. That person that fill most (all) of our needs...

But that is so hard to do...sign...When you look at the divorce rate its sad...What to look for...How to not miss it...Where to look...All hard questions is answer...I know many of the answers are different for each person, but I would love to hear from people who have found it...

A man who still believes in love (as corny as that sounds), but lust can help easy th pain of no love...

 

[Sunny One]

Hi Robert.

I agree we are all looking for some type of relationship. For example, I joined the Board just to make new friends. I hope some will be long term friends, but know from experience that I will find more short term friends.

I saw in your profile that you are looking for all types of relationships. Good luck in your quest.

I also noticed that you teach. Do you mind if I ask what subject and age group?

Sunny

 

[sexyspank]

Hi Sunny One

Hi Sunny One.Welcome to the wonderful world of Lit. Enjoy and be happy




Wendy

 

[flashyfish]

Sunny one

Great to see you join the cummunity...There's some great people hear...

I teach High School Math and Social Studies...This year that would be Algebra, Integrated math and American Government...I feel most passion when I get to teach about other cultures...

I love my job, for me, its the best...

Fish

 

[Sunny One]

Robert,

I teach, too; but for me it's middle school Science. I will be making a switch next year, so I was curious. I love teaching, but want to try a different grade next year.


Wendy,

Thanks for the welcome. I love the AV!

Sunny

 

[on_the_verge]

It;s one big think tank

Flashy,

I am not sure how long this thread will last as well, but for the sake of you and other's who can expressively desire that "connection" that is not all salacious, but more of sharing and being able to relate on a meaningful level. On this medium, chatting and writing solely about sensuality and sexuality is a dime a dozen, but to meet other's that can relate to each other as well as engage in passages of their lives…would be much better to relate to each other with. Yes, this is a site that "contains sexuality and sensuality," but it's also a gathering place to share, vent, feel comforted by, experience, etc.

There is so much this medium can offer and leave you far behind at the same time. If you are new to the internet or at least sites that involve such a relation to sex, meeting, etc. you might feel like you are in a big ocean. It has taken me time to gather and grow from being online and Lit is another aspect of it…aside from my R/L.

Friends can be made here and just about anywhere else. Although it might take a different approach or way of conveying online, but being yourself and having an open ear and mind is a fantastic way to start.

Then there is the "sex or the thoughts of it all…"

BTW, welcome Sunny.

P.S. People who are new to this *medium* may appear hungry or all too sensitive to our fellow archetypes and the opposites. It's swell to be "hungry," but you must be able to savor it, swelter for it or spit it out.

There is also that we might not all get along or that we can connect. It's about being patient as times and also understanding that you can win the world over, but you can foster a few hearts. Why scatter your efforts around when you can sprinkle it onto the ones' that will appreciate and return to the sender?

 

[flashyfish]

Thanks on the verge

I see your point...Balance is important...

I hope that I can freely make "sex" posts which are fun and thoughtful posts which are impotant...

I beleive in balance...Body and brains...That's me...LOL

I've read many of your post...I think you are a man after my own heart...Maybe we'll give these ladies a dose of intellent sexy men...Not brainless cavemen...

Fish

 

[flashyfish]

Sunny

Change to High School? Middle school and High school are very different...PM me with any questions you might have...

Fish

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Thanks on the verge

Originally posted by flashyfish
I see your point...Balance is important...

I hope that I can freely make "sex" posts which are fun and thoughtful posts which are impotant...

I beleive in balance...Body and brains...That's me...LOL

I've read many of your post...I think you are a man after my own heart...Maybe we'll give these ladies a dose of intellent sexy men...Not brainless cavemen...

Fish


Awwwww Fish I was just getting use to the *clubs* too.....

All kidding aside it would be refreshing......

I teach too... I am a *mother*....all grades thanks....right at the moment I am back in 4th again...this is my 5th time....I am very good at my times tables.... I do teach my sons to use some thought and not always their clubs...*g*

1sexylady.....

 

[flashyfish]

1sexylady

As a mother, I'm sure you teach anything and everything and have to...People say our teaching job is the toughest but your job as mom is the hardest...

Remember I believe in balance so I can philsohize on minute and get down and dirty the next...After read your post wish I could do both with you...

Its great to see all the teachers on lit...We need to be human and express ourselves...we are not machines...we feel...Ok../I'm donw...sorry...hee...hee

Hope to "talk" to you more,
Clubless Fish

I don't like the way that sounded...

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: Thanks on the verge

I see your point...Balance is important...

I hope that I can freely make "sex" posts which are fun and thoughtful posts which are impotant...

I beleive in balance...Body and brains...That's me...LOL

I've read many of your post...I think you are a man after my own heart...Maybe we'll give these ladies a dose of intellent sexy men...Not brainless cavemen...

Fish

Balance is essential and does suggest the pendulum swing from one opposite side to the other. I myself believe and gather the souls and spirits over "bodies and brains." I meet people and exchange with them daily, but very few that I can connect on a level beyond the "norm." It's me being able to throw myself into the ostentatious to the elaborate, lol!

Thank you for reading into my posts, but it's only a digitally remastered aspect of me. I can delegate and carry my R/L persona so far online, but it's a a necessity for be the same and not the provocateur at times.

Now, don't make me out to be a saint here, ha! Intelligence is relative and being able to go beyond the congruencies of being online and *you* is a better affair to seize. I am naturally gentle within, but I also have a tender jadedness and I do like the dark things in life…not pitch black, but a soft illuminating light in the shadows. It's the art of seduction, that is how wars are won…

BTW, of course you can make "sex" posts, but understanding and respect to very way you present yourself is key.

Anyhoo, you also have to relax, be fun and have a spontaneity. You gotta be able to hang and be into the mix too, ha!

 

[flashyfish]

interesting...

Much to think about...None of us are saints here on earth...Intellence and goodness are not linked by any means...



But much to think about,
Fish

 

[cutie pie]

Excellent Topic!

I don't know that I have a whole lot to add to what has already been said except to share my thoughts regarding my experience here. I have interacted with numerous people here - some just once, some short term and one or two that may perhaps end up as long term friends. With each interaction, I take away something from the experience, perhaps having learned something new about myself or the wide world around me. Personally, I have used the message board to both explore and express sexual curiosities and to just plain have fun. It is comforting to know that there are others out there who are in similar situations and/or have similar thoughts/dreams/opinions.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Roles in relationships

I have never been one to be successful in traditional relationship roles. I prefer to have friends and friendships with benefits. Whenever I try to do the monogamous boyfriend/girlfriend thing, stuff happens, and usually not in a good way. I just think (at least for me) that dating is just too stressful.

And I find that my involvement in an alternative lifestyle gets in the way of traditional expectations. I am not the jealous type and I do not tolerate territorial behaviour in the men I am involved with, nor do I exhibit territorial behaviour when it comes to them either.

I do require honesty in my dealings with the opposite sex. And that seems to be the most difficult thing to get now days.

This is a very good topic!

Ebony

 

[davekoko]

relationships

I have been craving a relationship for a long time. Everytime one looks promising, it seems to explode in my face. For as many kinds of reasons as there can be. I have been told that Literotica board is not a place to look for such a (online only) relationship. That most gals (and guys too?) are just looking for a quickie or Sex with no strings attached. That any guy who leads with his heart will scare off any promising gal. Just playing on the boards seems to satisfy most of the gals and guys. Promiscuity is the rule.
I admit that I am looking for sex as an important part of the relationship. I love masturbation and a gal who masturbates. Love to have "masturation dates".. to cum at the same time, even if not online. Just to agree to a specific time to cum. Cybers can be fun. but as a way to start such a relationship? Probably not.

 

[1sexylady]

Re: relationships

Originally posted by davekoko
I have been craving a relationship for a long time. Everytime one looks promising, it seems to explode in my face. For as many kinds of reasons as there can be. I have been told that Literotica board is not a place to look for such a (online only) relationship. That most gals (and guys too?) are just looking for a quickie or Sex with no strings attached. That any guy who leads with his heart will scare off any promising gal. Just playing on the boards seems to satisfy most of the gals and guys. Promiscuity is the rule.
I admit that I am looking for sex as an important part of the relationship. I love masturbation and a gal who masturbates. Love to have "masturation dates".. to cum at the same time, even if not online. Just to agree to a specific time to cum. Cybers can be fun. but as a way to start such a relationship? Probably not.

davekoko,
Some people might be that way but not all.....To me most people here say what they mean.....I do Cybers I find is where you can be exactly who you are......tell what you would do.....how you would do it and see just what kind of person you are dealing with....mind you.. there are alot of people here looking for *just sex* and they get it but others look for that *connection* with strings or without......again it depends on what *you* want....


1sexylady........