Relationship Purgatory

[juicylips]

Ever wonder WTF is up with a relationship you're in..or maybe out of?

One day everything is fine..then the next it isn't?

Just friends today..but maybe lovers later? Or lovers now..friends later?

Never know where you stand with someone?

Give me heaven or hell..but fuck the inbetween shit.
JL

 

[Sillyman]

Not there yet. I would try to remedy that situation immediately though.

 

[juicylips]

Not there yet. I would try to remedy that situation immediately though.

Morning, S.

How you doing?
JL

 

[Debbie]

Mmmmm been there; in relationship purgatory.
Reminded me of a rollercoaster ride; scared me to death, made me feel sick and shaky, up and down, highs and lows, loop de horrible loop. LOL I hate rollercoasters.
I just wanted off the 'emotional roller coaster' and my feet back on stable ground. My heart in one piece not in shattered hurting pieces.
No fun at all.

 

[juicylips]

Mmmmm been there; in relationship purgatory.
Reminded me of a rollercoaster ride; scared me to death, made me feel sick and shaky, up and down, highs and lows, loop de horrible loop. LOL I hate rollercoasters.
I just wanted off the 'emotional roller coaster' and my feet back on stable ground. My heart in one piece not in shattered hurting pieces.
No fun at all.

How's my precioussssssss tonight?

JL

 

[Sillyman]

Morning, S.

How you doing?
JL

In love. Life is pretty good.

 

[Summery]

Ever wonder WTF is up with a relationship you're in..or maybe out of?

One day everything is fine..then the next it isn't?

Just friends today..but maybe lovers later? Or lovers now..friends later?

Never know where you stand with someone?

Give me heaven or hell..but fuck the inbetween shit.
JL

Edit. I really should give a serious answer and not joke about it. These are some very good questions. Maybe, I will come back later and share my points of view.

 

[Debbie]

How's my precioussssssss tonight?

JL

Precioussssss is on the mend. Cold germies leaving.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Relationship Purgatory

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[Summery]

Re: Re: Re: Relationship Purgatory

*Coffee Spew*

I just did an edit my dear!

 

[juicylips]

Precioussssss is on the mend. Cold germies leaving.

Please don't send them my way!!! lol

I'm glad you're feeling better.
JL

 

[Rambling Rose]

I was just about to post this on the Dedication thread but maybe it's better here:

You're playing games which have no rules.
You toyed with me like all your fools.
I'm going home
I don't have to take the pain

I'm not your yo-yo, roller coaster, elevator, escalator,
Dow Jones Industrial, puppet-on-a-string.
I'm not your jump rope, gyroscope, jack rabbit, bad habit,
blind-bouncing-baby or same old trusty swing.
I'm not your yoyo
I'm not your yoyo

First you say "yes", then it's "no, no, no!"
"I think I'll stay...no, maybe I'll go".
True love or hate
Accident or fate

I'm not your yo-yo, roller coaster, elevator, escalator,
Dow Jones Industrial, puppet-on-a-string.
I'm not your jump rope, gyroscope, jack rabbit, bad habit,
blind-bouncing-baby or same old trusty swing.
I'm not your yoyo
I'm not your yoyo

I thought I was a hero but I was just acting stupid
I was used and abused.
I danced,
I sang for the devil dressed as Cupid.

I'm not your yo-yo, roller coaster, elevator, escalator,
Dow Jones Industrial, puppet-on-a-string.
I'm not your jump rope, gyroscope, jack rabbit, bad habit,
blind-bouncing-baby or same old trusty swing.
I'm not your yoyo
I'm not your yoyo

 

[russell]

Ever wonder WTF is up with a relationship you're in..or maybe out of?

One day everything is fine..then the next it isn't?

Just friends today..but maybe lovers later? Or lovers now..friends later?

Never know where you stand with someone?

Give me heaven or hell..but fuck the inbetween shit.
JL

It is not a good situation to be in....It's not healthy....Just come out ahd tell him/her..I hate not knowing what is what...

Good morning JL

 

[Hamletmaschine]

The answers to most questions can be found in a Talking Heads song

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I'm Not in Love
--------------------

...Pretty!
What is? Brand new? Well that's not the way I think of you.
You'll touch me, in a minute; but that's not what I want to do.
We are two strangers,
We might never have met.
We can talk forever, I understand what you said.
But I'm...not in love.
What does it take to fall in love?
Do people really fall in love?

...Happy!
Is there time for this? Is this responsibility?
Girl time, boy time, is that the difference between me and you?
I won't ask any questions,
Who needs to make a new start?
I choose to believe you,
I said before that I can't.
...'Cause I'm not in love.
What does it take to fall in love?
Why would I want to fall in love?

...Feeling!
Take it easy baby...Don't let your feelings get in the way.
Some day, I believe, we can live in a world without love.
I can answer your questions,
If you won't twist what I say.
Please respect my opinions,
They will be respected some day.
Because we don't need love.
I believe that we don't need love.
There'll come a day when we won't need love.

 

[cutie pie]

I have soooo been there. Although it wasn't like I woke up one day and realized something was wrong and that I didn't love him anymore. It was more like a gradual progression. I knew something was amiss, but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. A year later, we are separated and going our separate ways. Maybe now we can figure out how to be friends.

I'm with you, jl, I much prefer one extreme or the other. . .that in between crap is way too stressful.

 

[lovetoread]

I hate the purgatory stage.

I will stop there.

Had this whole rant thing going on,but maybe its best to let it be.

So,hows it going?

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Relationship Purgatory

It is not a good situation to be in....It's not healthy....Just come out ahd tell him/her..I hate not knowing what is what...

Good morning JL

Morning, r. I'm surprised a coffee spew didn't accompany your post. I know I'm guilty of letting relationships languish in this stage also.

JL

 

[juicylips]

I hate the purgatory stage.

I will stop there.

Had this whole rant thing going on,but maybe its best to let it be.

So,hows it going?

LOL...oh, please....RANT. That's why the thread was posted.

Everything's going fine, ltr. Just fine.
JL

 

[russell]

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Morning, r. I'm surprised a coffee spew didn't accompany your post. I know I'm guilty of letting relationships languish in this stage also.

JL

nah...I don't drink coffee

Good morning Summer,Cutie Pie,LTR,debbiexxx

 

[juicylips]

Re: The answers to most questions can be found in a Talking Heads song

--------------------
I'm Not in Love
--------------------

>snip>

...Feeling!
Take it easy baby...Don't let your feelings get in the way.
Some day, I believe, we can live in a world without love.

Some day? Now would be preferable.
Those are great lyrics, H.

RR, yours, too, were very appropro.
JL

 

[Cheyenne]

Ever wonder WTF is up with a relationship you're in..or maybe out of?

One day everything is fine..then the next it isn't?

Just friends today..but maybe lovers later? Or lovers now..friends later?

Never know where you stand with someone?

Give me heaven or hell..but fuck the inbetween shit.
JL

Romantic relationships are fine for me- communication being the key. Change your description to friendships in purgatory and you've got me. What about someone who talks to you one day, and not the next? You care what happens to them, and tell them so. But you don't think they care about you at all. If they did, they wouldn't have you in purgatory- a cruel place to put someone who has only tried to be nice to you. Or maybe purgatory IS their way of telling you you really don't matter at all, and probably never did.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Relationship Purgatory

Romantic relationships are fine for me- communication being the key. Change your description to friendships in purgatory and you've got me. What about someone who talks to you one day, and not the next? You care what happens to them, and tell them so. But you don't think they care about you at all. If they did, they wouldn't have you in purgatory- a cruel place to put someone who has only tried to be nice to you. Or maybe purgatory IS their way of telling you you really don't matter at all, and probably never did.

This thread is meant to encompass all types of relationships romantic or otherwise.

I quite agree with your opinion>maybe purgatory IS their way of telling you you really don't matter at all, and probably never did.

JL

 

[Cheyenne]

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I quite agree with your opinion>maybe purgatory IS their way of telling you you really don't matter at all, and probably never did.

JL

I still believe in what goes around, comes around. How you treat others eventually comes back to you. If you put people in purgatory, eventually someone will do the same thing to you and you'll maybe have an idea of what it feels like.

 

[BigDawg69]

What makes it all so frustrating is the simple fact that we can never really know what is going on in the mind of the other person. It is almost impossible for us to remove our own bias on their actions or lack thereof. Some people are just not the type to contact their friend or lover everyday by e-mail or phone or whatever. Others not only do that but expect it in return and then question when it doesn't happen. Perhaps it's just not your friend's/lover's style?

I agree with Cheyenne however that communication is imperetive. But part of that communication is a clear understanding on you part of how your friend/lover communicates. We don't all communicate the same way.

Perhap they do not contact you, or express concern for you because they do not care? Perhaps they're just not the type of person that reaches out, and they do care after-all? Only they really know the answer to that.

 

[Rambrat]

heaven honey...you definately belong in heaven...