Relationship Advice

[curious26TX]

So I'm curious as to what you all would do if you were in my situation.

I met this girl that I like about 5 weeks ago and we have been hanging out every weekend since. We are sleeping together and it's good. Not mind blowing or anything pretty much just your average run of the mill sex. Thing is she doesn't get off very easy so I have to really REALLY work hard to get her to cum. So we can have sex easy for an hour sometimes more before she actually gets off. She's also very conservative and doesn't like anything but normal sex. I mean she doesn't even like cum on her anywhere. She has even said that she would and never has sucked a guy to completion. Hell she told me she has never masturbated! I was shocked and told her I was going to buy her a vibe.

At any rate, the only other real thing that I really do enjoy doing with someone that I'm seeing is going dancing and getting all hot on the dance floor together and dancing is something she refuses to do.

But if I continue I can forget exploring my bi curiousness and definitely anything involving more than 1 on 1.

So my question is what would you do if you were me?

 

[Etoile]

I'm a little confused...I can't tell if you are male or female. How does your bi-curiosity fit into this? Does she have a problem with the fact that you are bi-curious?

 

[curious26TX]

Thanks for the reply! I'm actually male here. Sorry for the confusion. But she's not open at all to my curiousness or any kind of exploring.

 

[lostsoul1974]

give her the boot

send her packing and find a more open-minded/adventurous lover. There are so many aspects to a good relationship, and a healthy sex life is a big one. If you stay together, some day you will really resent her for being unwilling to participate in things you enjoy.

Find a better woman, there are plenty out there, and there is a good guy for her somewhere too.

 

[blklthrjkt]

I get the feeling she is not going to change and you are. Someday she may blossom, but I know people like her who always stay in their tight little existences.

Sounds like you need to explore and find out where you fit in sexually. Start seeing other people before it's too late.

 

[BlueEyesInLevis]

If you love her then take your time. Do things slowly and gradually. Express to her that you want an exciting an adventerous sex life with her. Maybe buy her some of the new erotica romance novels. But DONT go too fast. Encourage her, show her that she can trust you with he hidden desires, by sharing some of your own, but NOT the kinkier ones.
See how she responds, if she doesnt then at least you tried.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

it depends on how much you like her

I've had ex's in the past that were 100% bisex so I put off my curiosities to make the relationship work. Spending time with her and being in love with her was much more important to me then my bi curiousness.

I also had to get rid of my sex toy because she was 100% against it. She told me she thought all sex toys were perverted and for a guy to have one is was (and I qoute) SICK!

Again, in order to make the relationship work I had to make some sacrifices.

My answer is you need to weigh which is more important to you. If many things about her bug you then curious or not she is not right for you. Thats a no brainer.

As for me, I realized that I was the only one making the necessary sacrifices in the relationship so I booted her to the curb. A few days later I went out and bought a new anal toy.

Take that biotch!

lol

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[human_male]

I've had ex's in the past that were 100% bisex so I put off my curiosities to make the relationship work. Spending time with her and being in love with her was much more important to me then my bi curiousness.

I also had to get rid of my sex toy because she was 100% against it. She told me she thought all sex toys were perverted and for a guy to have one is was (and I qoute) SICK!

Again, in order to make the relationship work I had to make some sacrifices.

My answer is you need to weigh which is more important to you. If many things about her bug you then curious or not she is not right for you. Thats a no brainer.

As for me, I realized that I was the only one making the necessary sacrifices in the relationship so I booted her to the curb. A few days later I went out and bought a new anal toy.

Take that biotch!

lol

That's terrible. Good for you on giving her the boot eventually.

 

[human_male]

It doesn't sound to me like you're terribly compatible with each other. I suppose you have to decide what's more important to you. If you love her, can you forgo the dancing and anything more than mediocre sex for as long as you're together? Or are you just never going to be happy with that?

Maybe you could just be friends if you enjoy hanging out?

 

[rvplymates]

It is obvious that you two are not sexually compatible but the question you have to ask yourself is, do I love her? Sounds corny I know but if you love her you would have a hard time kicking her to the curb. If you love her you would want to take the time to open her up to your sexual needs. I don't know if she would ever understand your bi needs so there I think is the big hang up.

Stay friends as you are experimenting, still not knowing everything you want to know sexually. And if by chance she is the one for you, it will happen if not, you'll keep a friend.