Registering for a wedding

[TypicalDeviant]

The fiancee and I are registering for our wedding this summer. Any advice from my favorite Liters?

 

[infinity706]

Well, if you want my best advice, don't do it at all. Marriage is the leading cause of divorce.

Of course, if you're going to do it anyway, just don't spend more on it than you can reasonably afford. It's not like bills and other expenses go away just because you got your license.

 

[newbiebabe]

The fiancee and I are registering for our wedding this summer. Any advice from my favorite Liters?

my word of advice... whatever she wants to register for, let her... no matter how ridiculous an item you think it is. We girls love to think we need everything!

second word of advice... when she puts it out at the garage sale a year from now... don't say a word!

lol... congrats and wishing you well! Relax and enjoy it!

 

[pplwatching]

The fiancee and I are registering for our wedding this summer. Any advice from my favorite Liters?

When we were getting married my mother in law (to be) told us to put big ticket items on the registry along with the little stuff. We thought "none of our friends can afford this" but sure enough some people wanted to splurge while others were more frugal.

The best wedding gift I ever purchased from a registry was a home brew keg. It told me a lot about the personalities of the people getting married. We were invited over for the first batch.

I suggest big, small, expensive, frugal, practical, and fun. Best of all it gives people a chance to pick gifts that suit their personalities as well as their budget.

Congratulations, by the way. Marriage is a more satisfying endevour than any that I've ever undertaken. It's a lot of work, but the rewards are beyond compare.

 

[horgasm]

Edited: Chill everybody.

 

[Eilan]

Congratulations!

That's all I got.

 

[newbiebabe]

Remember: half of all marriages end in divorce. The other half end in death.

seriously? what is the matter with some of you people... just have to rain on others parades?

geez!

 

[horgasm]

Okay, I've got far too much response from my little joke. (meaning, "any response.") That's all it was folks: a joke. I think marriage is a great thing, and I can't wait until the day I get married. I was just making a wiseass comment. Chill, everybody.

 

[fire_breeze]

I occasionally do some work for a wedding planner/caterer, and these are her suggestions for all couples.

Discuss registering when you're both relaxed and calm, maybe after dinner. Most stores have a registry on-line, so you can check it out and make several wish lists. Include both inexpensive and expensive items, and stuff you will need and stuff that you would like but wouldn't indulge in. Sometimes, several friends will get together and buy that incredible cap machine.

Once the list is narrowed between your fiancee and yourself, you have two options: either go into the store itself and register there or do it on-line. One other tip: register at a chain-store, so your out-of-town guests can access the registry and get it at their local store. Make it easy for your guests.

Good luck and congratulations

 

[SweetErika]

Congrats!

My advice is to register for things you'll truly use, like:

- Dishes/china that's microwave and dishwasher safe and can be used everyday in addition to special occasions

- Quality towels in a neutral color (let your hands do the walking - you can usually feel the difference between the really thick, absorbent cotton and thinner, sparser towels).

- High thread count, 100% cotton sheets

- Good cookware and utensils (e.g. 3-ply stainless steel over flimsy SS, aluminum or nonstick, silicone vs. plastic utensils, and things like potholders, knives and appliances that are multi-taskers and will stand the test of time)

Also, make sure you register at places that have excellent return policies and plenty of other stuff you really like because you may change your mind about some things once you get settled. It helps if at least one of the retailers has a good website (ideally with free or cheap shipping) so out-of-towners and the like can send gifts more easily.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Thanks for the advice, everyone! We started to register and Bed, Bath and Beyond, and while we got a ton of things out of the way, we'll probably end up registering at a few other places. We were surprised that BBB didn't have any dinnerware or flatware that we liked, for one.

Also, I'm pretty confident with the quality of most of the items we've chosen, but I'd like to know if any of you have any recomendations for cookware brands, styles, and pieces to get. We registered for a 10 piece Calphalon (Unison) non-stick set, but it is subject to change.

Thanks again!

 

[bailadora]

<snip> but I'd like to know if any of you have any recomendations for cookware brands, styles, and pieces to get. We registered for a 10 piece Calphalon (Unison) non-stick set, but it is subject to change.

Thanks again!

Personally, I love my Lodge cast iron cookware and have come to prefer it over the Revereware I was gifted with when I got married. It's economical, durable and versitile: ie. it can be used stove top, in the oven or even over the campfire. Clean up is usually pretty easy: just scrub with hot water and a good, firm bristled brush and viola, done (dish soap ruins the seasoning). Basic pieces to own include skillets ( 8,10, and 12 in), a dutch oven, a grill/griddle pan, and saucepans (small and medium sized). The only other thing you might want to consider would be a stock pot (but obviousy not cast iron, as it would be a bitch to lift!).

ETA: Click here to find out more about cast iron vs ss cookware.

 

[newbiebabe]

Thanks for the advice, everyone! We started to register and Bed, Bath and Beyond, and while we got a ton of things out of the way, we'll probably end up registering at a few other places. We were surprised that BBB didn't have any dinnerware or flatware that we liked, for one.

Also, I'm pretty confident with the quality of most of the items we've chosen, but I'd like to know if any of you have any recomendations for cookware brands, styles, and pieces to get. We registered for a 10 piece Calphalon (Unison) non-stick set, but it is subject to change.

Thanks again!

Calphalon is great cookware. They have a good warranty too. I have a couple saute pans and one of them began to peel. They replaced it no questions asked.

Because I cook a lot and like to sear on top of the stove and put directly into the oven, I made sure that the set I have now is riveted and is all metal so no problem doing that. I actually got mine from QVC or HSN.. whichever carries the Wolfgang Puck brand. They are nice and heavy. I would say go for something nice and thick. Don't go with the cheaper copper bottom stuff if you decide against Calphalon.

 

[Tyr51]

I guess I get to play old fashioned lady.



I hope you're inviting people because you want to share the day with them, and not because they will buy you nice things.

The truth is that some people are going to ask you where you are registered. Fine.


So register. Register for gifts ranging from begining as low as $20. Do not expect to get all of your registry. DO NOT PRINT THEM ON YOUR INVITATIONS!! If someone wants to know, there are plenty of people they can ask.

A wedding is a party thrown for guests. I think a lot of couples forget that. I think registries encourage them to think that. If you want to get married for yourselves, elope. If you want to engage friends and family, then do so with a spirit of hospitality. Don't expect gifts. And if you register for those who will ask, be discrete.

You're getting the one thing you want more than anything: the love of your life.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Oh, Tyr51, no need for that, we're on the same page. We'd rather have 100% guest attendance than any gifts at all. We have a lot of out-fo-town guests who won't be going, for a variety of reasons, and I've told all of them that we'd rather have them there than a gift.

However, since people are pestering us for our registry, I wanted to get some advice so we could do it right.