The way I feel about sex, both orally and vaginally, has been the same since I first learned about it. It takes two, plain and simple. I know, you're thinking "Well, No Shit!". That's correct, sir/madam. So, let's take a second, remove intercourse from the picture, and focus on oral sex.
I haven't been with very many people. 4 total. One was this girl I was with for 5 years. As for the other 3, they were little flings. Now what's bothering me, is of all the others I was with aside from my ex, the same thing has happened. We started with the kissing, the petting, so on and so forth, and eventually led to me going 'downtown'. Now, I may be no expert, but I've done my research and gotten in some damn good practice with my ex, and know good and well how to pleasure a woman. I take my time, and make sure I hit every spot possible and enjoy every minute of it. But after finishing my task (and i don't really consider it a task, merely a figure of speech), each and everytime it's ended with her asking, "Now what?" or slight variations thereof. I answer playfully with, "I don't know..." and I say it with an implying tone, then...she's suddenly become "too tired" for anything else or has to "go to bed because she has to be up early". And I go home to Rosy Palms and her five sisters without even so much as a handjob.
It seems, generally, reciprocation is a mutual understanding. Give and get, get and give. Don't get me wrong, there were several times with my ex that unreciprocated pleasures were dealt, between the both of us. I was fine with that because we were in a long term relationship and i enjoyed pleasuring the woman i loved and vice versa. Usually though, it was reciprocated, but that's not the case here. These weren't long-term relationships. I could've asked for something in return, yes, but i'm too modest for that. If I'm allowed to go down on my own free will, without being asked, then I feel as though the favour should be returned. Am I wrong in feeling this way? Are my ideals convaluted in this sense? If, in fact, they are not, what then? Should I comprimise my modesty and just ask? I feel that by asking, I would ruin the mood. I just don't get why these women do this. I'm beginning to think that only porn stars and long-term girlfriends give head. Okay, i really don't think that, but jesus h. christmas fucking christ, don't women enjoy giving head? All the guys I know talk about all the great flings they've had, and so far, for me, 3 in row, it's been a total disappointment.
Anyone have any insights at all? similar experiences? I'm dying to know what it is I'm doing wrong here.
I haven't been with very many people. 4 total. One was this girl I was with for 5 years. As for the other 3, they were little flings. Now what's bothering me, is of all the others I was with aside from my ex, the same thing has happened. We started with the kissing, the petting, so on and so forth, and eventually led to me going 'downtown'. Now, I may be no expert, but I've done my research and gotten in some damn good practice with my ex, and know good and well how to pleasure a woman. I take my time, and make sure I hit every spot possible and enjoy every minute of it. But after finishing my task (and i don't really consider it a task, merely a figure of speech), each and everytime it's ended with her asking, "Now what?" or slight variations thereof. I answer playfully with, "I don't know..." and I say it with an implying tone, then...she's suddenly become "too tired" for anything else or has to "go to bed because she has to be up early". And I go home to Rosy Palms and her five sisters without even so much as a handjob.
It seems, generally, reciprocation is a mutual understanding. Give and get, get and give. Don't get me wrong, there were several times with my ex that unreciprocated pleasures were dealt, between the both of us. I was fine with that because we were in a long term relationship and i enjoyed pleasuring the woman i loved and vice versa. Usually though, it was reciprocated, but that's not the case here. These weren't long-term relationships. I could've asked for something in return, yes, but i'm too modest for that. If I'm allowed to go down on my own free will, without being asked, then I feel as though the favour should be returned. Am I wrong in feeling this way? Are my ideals convaluted in this sense? If, in fact, they are not, what then? Should I comprimise my modesty and just ask? I feel that by asking, I would ruin the mood. I just don't get why these women do this. I'm beginning to think that only porn stars and long-term girlfriends give head. Okay, i really don't think that, but jesus h. christmas fucking christ, don't women enjoy giving head? All the guys I know talk about all the great flings they've had, and so far, for me, 3 in row, it's been a total disappointment.
Anyone have any insights at all? similar experiences? I'm dying to know what it is I'm doing wrong here.
