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[ChloeOfCascadia]

Hello to the women of Literotica.

I am 42, male* (see below) seeking women only, living about an hour north of Oslo, Norway, close to the airport in Gardermoen.

I've been living in Norway for 10 years. I am recently separated.
I am only interested in women who are either in Norway or willing to travel and meet.

I am available for just friends, (really- most people in my life who have been my friend have been women) I am also available for casual dating and meeting up with no strings to see if we like each other.

I am also looking for a long term and serious relationship- I wasn't expecting to start over at age 42 and I don't want to be single forever.

Why I am on here- well, I live in a very rural place where there's not a lot of people, if you live in Norway, you likely do as well.

I can speak Norwegian at an A1 level, I prefer to speak English, but I am learning and wouldn't mind being more fluent. If you can speak English, that is a big plus.

I am willing to relocate for the right person. If you are female, between the age of 20 and 50, or even if you are older and youthful looking and young at heart, here is my current status-

I am 1.75 meters tall.
I weigh about 108 kilograms. I had a car accident and I was immobile for several months, so I gained some weight. I am losing it, by dieting and going on the treadmill. My normal average weight is 80 kilograms, so that's my goal! I aim to reach that this year or next year.

Also, I want to note, I discovered I am trans this year, so I am mtf trans, I have not transitioned yet, so ladies, I am only here for you, sorry gentlemen, and also, please be advised, I haven't transitioned yet and I am very male presenting at the moment. All I have done so far is cross dress, I am growing my hair long, I shave or otherwise remove hair below the top of my head, and I will be interested in learning how to do makeup, and wear feminine clothing.

I list myself as male because, I don't want to mislead anyone, I don't look female yet. One day, if I am presentable, I could be your girl, but for now, I hope you're also attracted to male presenting persons.

I am interested in friends, friends that can lead to more, and a person who accepts me for all of the above after we meet, and is interested in a serious relationship.

My past two relationships both lasted 10 years, I am a very good companion for the right person. I am great just to talk to or spend time with. At 42, a lover of women and very much a feminist, you can expect a great conversation and a fun date even if we just end up as friends.

I wanted to make sure you know all of the above, because I know, many of them are deal breakers for a great number of women.

My location, Im in the middle of nowhere. Trans, I know a lot of cisgender women aren't interested in trans folks. It's okay, as long as we are both being honest.

If this hasn't scared you away, please feel free to post here, or directly message me. Please note, I am not opposed to male friends, but I am not attracted to male bodies (in the extreme, I have dysphoria about my own male body, I don't want to see mine)

So if you're looking for a trans girlfriend but are male, I'm sorry, I can't ever be the girl for you. I can be the boyfriend or girlfriend of an open minded woman only.

I have pictures of myself available upon request, if we click by chatting.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

Hey, I took this test, in case you wanted to see at a glance what my kinky side is.

https://bdsmtest.org/r/kXGJtJLr

A quick overview for you, I identify as a service dominant, which is like a submissive, but it is someone who pleasures you AND takes the lead on what we're doing- for the longest time I thought I was a submissive because I was not part of any d/s community and had an idea that all dominants were sadists? I had no idea there were other kinds.

Well I'm not a masochist and I'm absolutely not a sadist, your pleasure is my goal, not your pain or real humiliation or real degradation and I am an ardent feminist and beneath the roleplay and sexual liberation, I respect you as an equal and I take consent very seriously and I respect all desires to stop, slow down, or change direction.

The dominant part is a game, it's like.... you get to go for a ride at the amusement park and FEEL as though you're not in control, because you're on a roller coaster and it is safe thrills, but here, you really are in control and can stop at any time.

I have actually been naked and had sex in front of people before, it was incredibly erotic. So I can be exhibitionist, with the right person. As with all kinks, we don't need to explore them if they aren't your thing, I just enjoyed this, and it is an option if you want it.

I also like to watch, and I am not jealous, so if you want to be poly and see other people, and want to be watched, I can be your safe third partner for such an activity. So voyeurism, for the exhibitionist in you that would prefer me to watch over participate. I can be your voyeur if you want.

I have been monogamous all my life, because that has been my partner's preference, but, I am not a jealous person and if you seek to have a boyfriend or girlfriend as well as me, you may. With my permission and consent. Just please get tested and let me get to know your partner, I don't want to catch an STD, be safe with me please. I have to trust you with my life! Be responsible! I can be polyamorous or share you with others, if you wish. I will not cheat on you.

I am open to exploring your kinks and things I've never done. But if you have none and are fine with where we are, I am also fine with fairly vanilla sex as well. I hope you like oral performed on you as well as fingers and toys and like being pleasured in ways other than just missionary, but I can do a good missionary as well for my lady love!

I do not view my role as a service dominant as an actual position of authority, it is just a game, you may feel free to try to wriggle free or playfully struggle back, that's fun! Just make sure it is a game, if you want to stop, or be freed, just tell me outright or let's agree on a safe word. I am here to make dreams come true and grant wishes, handcuffs are for play, not for real. I am meant for your sexual liberation, I am not your jailer, not in any way except for fun because YOU like being tied up.

I am very much okay with you throwing yourself into the role of a beloved submissive and you may call me whatever you want and we can engage in spicy pillow talk and if you get off on good girl praise kink, or (loving, and for play) sensual degrading dirty talk, I can whisper whatever loving spicy pure-hearted sexy talk into your ear that you want. It is just another way of pleasing you, my sweet girl.

I do not require being the dominant ever, nor all the time, and I can switch, I just prefer to be the one guiding things, I get more pleasure from giving pleasure than receiving. If that's okay, so I make for a less interesting submissive, myself. I am also only open to certain kinds of power fantasies or being verbally degraded, so check with me first and be kind and loving.

I can engage in activities meant just to thrill you personally, your body directly, or give you interesting visual or audio stimulus. But let's talk about it first. So if you wanted me to engage in behaviors I might otherwise not engage in on my own, because it thrills you or fulfills your fantasies, let's discuss.

I have been in several very long term relationships with significant age gaps, I have an ex who I was with for ten years who was 17 years older than me. Wonderful woman. Most of the women I have been with in my life have been roughly five years older than me or more. However, now that I am older, I am not opposed to dating younger, and being the spicy sexy sultry older partner. I can be that "daddy" or mommy that you crave, if that's your thing, or if you just like a sensual older person who knows what they're doing in the bedroom and like to let me lead and pleasure you, I can do that as well. When it comes to age play, I am fine being your erotic older partner especially if I really am, but I am not interested in anything creepy involving even the roleplay of non legal activities. Thank you, but no thank you.

As for my gender and how you refer to me in the bedroom, I don't have hang ups, for my partner, I can be what you want. Male presenting, female presenting, I can be your lady or your man, I can dress either way, you may call me he or she, I can be your daddy if you want me that way. I just want to be able to freely express my feminine side, a lot, please. That's all. If you can respect my wishes on that, then I'm yours and the fact that I can present either way might be something you like? I don't know.

If you're only interested in me because you're curious about a trans person, that is.... okay? I won't take it as a red flag, but a yellow light. At first, that's okay, but please, be serious, don't be a chaser. I want you to take me as a serious potential long term partner, someone you'd be willing to marry as a possibility for a long term relationship to work. I'm not that interesting as a bucket list item, if you want a male presenting man, just date one. If you want a female presenting person with a penis, there's plenty out there. I want a serious relationship, not to be a checkbox on someone's bucket list, is all I am asking.

For everyone else, I would appreciate being considered a fully realized equal person and have all the rights and respect cisgender people expect. If you misgender me by mistake that's more than okay, if I ask you not to deadname me or misgender me, please give me that respect.

If you do not respect me or my wishes that will end our ability to be in a relationship. I respect yours, so let's both have respect.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

I am a non-smoker, I do not drink alcohol ever, none. Teetotaler by choice. I do not use any recreational drugs including marijuana.

I consider those things to be positives, they're not a deal breaker for me if you do them, in moderation, but excessive any of the above is problematic for me, sorry.

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

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