Real av's and pic's

[KillerMuffin]

I've been wondering this for well over a year now.

There are people who come here and eventually-- or immediately-- post real pictures of themselves in some way. Either a selected body shot, face, whole thing, feet, whatever.

I have never witnessed an incidence where it wasn't met with wholehearted approval and strings of "you're beautiful!" commentary. Sexual propositions and innuendo abound.

There are some of us who are truly physically beautiful. There are some of us who are just ordinary.

What I've wondered is if we saw these people that we've fawned all over in real life, would we be so enthusiastic with our approval? Or would we just ignore them?

People have gone on about me at some point or other and I can't help but wonder if they were here and saw me in reality, would they go on out of sympathy or out of genuine desire? I have gorgeous legs, but I also understand that if most people who have offered me sex ever actually saw my legs in person, their offers would dry up.

I personally think that when we see pictures of people we're genuine about our approval. We like these people and we want them to feel good and happy. I think we're less than truthful about our opinions on their looks. If we didn't know them from the fence post, we would be far more harsh with our commentary.

 

[Mistress]

Sometimes the way they are, their personalities make them more beautiful in your eyes then if you were just looking at them.

 

[RawHumor]

I personally think that when we see pictures of people we're genuine about our approval. We like these people and we want them to feel good and happy. I think we're less than truthful about our opinions on their looks. If we didn't know them from the fence post, we would be far more harsh with our commentary.

I agree. Part of it is compassion for friends, but part of it is that people genuinely become more attractive to you if you like their personalities.

 

[Mistress]

Re: Re: Real av's and pic's

I agree. Part of it is compassion for friends, but part of it is that people genuinely become more attractive to you if you like their personalities.

Same wave length

 

[RawHumor]

Re: Re: Re: Real av's and pic's

Same wave length

For the record, you'd have gorgeous eyes even if you were a bitch.

 

[JazzManJim]

What I've wondered is if we saw these people that we've fawned all over in real life, would we be so enthusiastic with our approval? Or would we just ignore them?

I'll say that I've been called handsome and sexy perhaps a couple hundred times more often here on Lit than I have in person.

I think that, perhaps, the reason that happens is once you get to know me, I'm a LOT sexier than I am at first glance. At first sight, I'm just another geeky-looking fat guy. There's me and Kevin Smith, and neither of us are lookers. My personality helps me a whole lot with my looks.

I have no idea what you look like, KM, but I guarantee you that if I ever met you, I'd think exactly the same things about you I do now. Except that I'd be a bit more wary of the StudMuffin lurking around the corner with a tire-iron.

 

[Private Vasquez]

Those that know me in real life have told me that I'm quite physically attractive, but they've also told me that what they really like about me is my me-ness. I've been told by strangers that I'm physically intimidating; but I think they say that because I don't smile much, and my poker-face isn't exactly inviting. Personally, I think I'm rather boring to look at, but I do like my body. I don't want "approval" for my looks, and if someone doesn't like my words, oh well.
Online, I very rarely share my picture. Those ol' school online homies have seen me, and the rest can just wonder. It's not important to me that folks online see what I look like. And when it comes to sexual advances..*******, I'm a lot nicer than I am away from the comp.

My own av is freakin' me out.

 

[lobito]

I'm afraid my personality is slightly better than my awful looks.

I post myself in my avs, because I don't like the idea of hiding behind a pic or graphic that's just not me.

The niceties are fine, but I wouldn't get the attention in real life that I get here.

 

[RawHumor]

online, I'm a lot nicer than I am away from the comp.

Now THAT's a scary thought!

 

[Private Vasquez]

Now THAT's a scary thought!

HA! HA!

Only when it comes to sexual advances. Other than that, I'm a perfect angel. And online, it's fun.

 

[RawHumor]

HA! HA!

Only when it comes to sexual advances. Other than that, I'm a perfect angel. And online, it's fun.

Ahhh... My fault for quoting you out of context then.

Can we have sex now?

 

[Private Vasquez]

Right here? That could be dangerous.

 

[RawHumor]

Right here? That could be dangerous.

You're right. KM gets violent when you hijack her threads, especially with cyber-sex.

 

[red_rose]

I agree with Mistress and RH - personality really plays into things online... but I feel that it would do the same offline as well.

As for myself... I've posted pictures all over. Not everyone responds - not everyone finds me attractive. I also only post pictures of myself that I find flattering. You might thing my tits are nice (av), but god knows what you may think of my face, butt, arms, etc.

In general, though, it does seem that people on Lit are quite sympathetic/nurturing towards anyone who posts a pic. In that regard, there are certain people's opinions that hold more value for me. Some people compliment *anyone*... Some people are more selective. When the latter pay a compliment, you know they mean it...and therefore it means more.

 

[perks]

I think my face is above average, it's the rest of me that makes me ordinary, thus arming me with a killer sense of humour

Character makes an ordinary person extraordinary.

 

[Private Vasquez]

if we saw these people that we've fawned all over in real life, would we be so enthusiastic with our approval? Or would we just ignore them?

Generally, I ignore everyone in public, regardless of how they look. That cliche about beauty being skin deep rings true. I think that self-confidence and personality play a big part in beauty, and I find those that don't care what everyone else thinks about them to be beautiful. And of course, it's in the eye of the beholder.

You're right. KM gets violent when you hijack her threads, especially with cyber-sex.

Well shut the hell up, then. Daaang...

 

[lobito]

when I first read this thread, this song came to mind.

JMJ I know you'll understand this one...

The Beautiful Ones - Prince

Baby, baby, baby
What's it gonna be?
Baby, baby, baby
Is it him or is it me?
Don't make me waste my time
Don't make me lose my mind baby
Baby, baby, baby
Can't you stay with me tonight?
Oh baby, baby, baby
Don't my kisses please you right?
You were so hard to find
The beautiful ones, they hurt you
Every time
Pint a perfect picture
Bring to life a vision in one's mind
The beautiful ones
(The beautiful ones)
Always smash the picture
Always every time
If I told you baby
That I was in love with you
Oh Baby, baby, baby
If we got married
Would that be cool?
You make me so confused
The beautiful ones
You always seems to lose

 

[bluntforcemama]

I'm ordinary-looking, so I have to make up for it with something charming.

 

[JazzManJim]

when I first read this thread, this song came to mind.

JMJ I know you'll understand this one...

The Beautiful Ones - Prince

I'm there, man. That song's always meant something to me, from the first time I heard it.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I've seen very few people in my life that I would consider physically ugly. If one of them were to post a picture here, I wouldn't come out and tell them that, just like I wouldn't in real life.

I've also seen very few people who are so amazingly beautiful that they make me stop in my tacks and stare.

Let's face it, most of us are average. That's why the call it average. Yeah, I have nice features. I have great skin, and I love my cheekbones. People have told me I'm attractive. But no one has ever stopped to stare at me in public, and I don't expect people to do so here. I'm one of those people that you have to know before they're really attractive. *shrug* I prefer it that way, at least I know that I'm worth getting to know.

The people that I 'know' who have posted pictures are beautiful to me. I tell them so.

 

[sunstruck]

I'm fairly average looking, pretty, but nothing special. The few people here who've seen my pic were unbelievably kind, and I say unbelievable, because in real life it wouldn't happen.

I think it's not just that people with great personalities look better, or even really pitty, but if you like someone enough, you don't want to scare them off by saying they're plain or unattractive. You just ignore the pic and keep the person.

 

[lobito]

I'm fairly average looking, pretty, but nothing special. The few people here who've seen my pic were unbelievably kind, and I say unbelievable, because in real life it wouldn't happen.

I think it's not just that people with great personalities look better, or even really pitty, but if you like someone enough, you don't want to scare them off by saying they're plain or unattractive. You just ignore the pic and keep the person.

good point

I have no further comment on your pic.

 

[RawHumor]

I'm fairly average looking, pretty, but nothing special. The few people here who've seen my pic were unbelievably kind<snip>

In your particular case I disagree. I was being brutally honest. I find you incredibly hot - at least in the one pic I saw. I'd have to see several more to be certain though.



But that's seriously no BS.

 

[sunstruck]

Ok, see how I didn't use names in my post? lmao. There's a reason for that.

 

[RawHumor]

Ok, see how I didn't use names in my post? lmao. There's a reason for that.

I know, I know. I just wanted to point out that I felt that you were wrong in your assumptions.