It's been like this for 4 years now. We have one child--she's almost 3. He knows how I feel and it's not like this is a surprise. He told me that he wasn't as interested in sex from the beginning (and my desires have always been strong) What bothers me is that he does get his needs met through porn on the internet--I found this out accidentally so I wonder how strong his needs are and how much he is hiding from me.