uberundunter
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There is a widespread belief that female detectives are better able to work with sexual assault victims than are male detectives. While there certainly are rape survivors who can't or won't open up to a male investigator, many rape survivors are able to open up to a male detective who comes across as compassionate and protective, and the same women may quickly shut down if interviewed by a female detective who seems a little too business like or judgmental. I am speaking from experience, after almost 20 years in law enforcement.
Working with sex crime victims can be emotionally draining, but, when you put their attackers behind bars and if/when you witness the victim recovering her confidence, it can be as personally rewarding as anything you can experience in law enforcement. And, sex crime/SVU investigators generally stay in contact with the victims all the way through the trial, and sometimes beyond...much more so than typically is the case with robberies, burglaries, etc. Some genuine bonding can occur. If it is kept within limits, that can be a good thing, there sometimes is potential for something more than platonic and less than professional.
Could a manipulative male detective take advantage? Sure, but that sort of guy probably would be exposed before too long. On the other hand, picture a detective who has good intentions, who genuinely likes and cares about women, generally, and who has protective feelings toward the victims he works with. Meanwhile, a vulnerable victim comes to see him as her protector, and as one of the few guys in her life whose ever treated he with respect and consideration. Additional factors could be that her boyfriend or husband had distanced himself from her as a result of the rape, or may even see himself as the victim (it happens), and maybe the detective's marriage is going down hill, and he begins to realize that the victim appreciates things about him that he himself values, but his wife doesn't. Keep in mind that, from the very first time they met, when he interviewed her, the victim has shared with the detective painful details that she might not have been able share with any of her friends or family, and especially not with her significant other.
Doesn't it all just reek of a "special connection," underlying tensions that build," heart vs. head, etc.? In some ways, its similar to a gender-reversed version of a traditional wounded war hero/angel-of-mercy nurse romance. And, of course, when the two come together (yes, that could be thought of as a pun, but let's not) in the end, it not only would be about love and lust, but also healing and triumph over adversity.
I don't think I'm the guy to write it, but I hope someone else will. If someone is interested and needs any technical assistance with the cop or legal stuff, feel free to PM me. If there is anything I can't answer on my own, I guarantee that one of my friends will know.
Working with sex crime victims can be emotionally draining, but, when you put their attackers behind bars and if/when you witness the victim recovering her confidence, it can be as personally rewarding as anything you can experience in law enforcement. And, sex crime/SVU investigators generally stay in contact with the victims all the way through the trial, and sometimes beyond...much more so than typically is the case with robberies, burglaries, etc. Some genuine bonding can occur. If it is kept within limits, that can be a good thing, there sometimes is potential for something more than platonic and less than professional.
Could a manipulative male detective take advantage? Sure, but that sort of guy probably would be exposed before too long. On the other hand, picture a detective who has good intentions, who genuinely likes and cares about women, generally, and who has protective feelings toward the victims he works with. Meanwhile, a vulnerable victim comes to see him as her protector, and as one of the few guys in her life whose ever treated he with respect and consideration. Additional factors could be that her boyfriend or husband had distanced himself from her as a result of the rape, or may even see himself as the victim (it happens), and maybe the detective's marriage is going down hill, and he begins to realize that the victim appreciates things about him that he himself values, but his wife doesn't. Keep in mind that, from the very first time they met, when he interviewed her, the victim has shared with the detective painful details that she might not have been able share with any of her friends or family, and especially not with her significant other.
Doesn't it all just reek of a "special connection," underlying tensions that build," heart vs. head, etc.? In some ways, its similar to a gender-reversed version of a traditional wounded war hero/angel-of-mercy nurse romance. And, of course, when the two come together (yes, that could be thought of as a pun, but let's not) in the end, it not only would be about love and lust, but also healing and triumph over adversity.
I don't think I'm the guy to write it, but I hope someone else will. If someone is interested and needs any technical assistance with the cop or legal stuff, feel free to PM me. If there is anything I can't answer on my own, I guarantee that one of my friends will know.
