random question for several reasons

[beingtrue2me]

Why is it that if a guy goes out with his buddies and takes a woman home and fucks her yet has no intentions what so ever of getting emotionally involved with her, he's a hero to his friends but IF a woman does the same thing, she's a whore.

 

[snoopydaddy59]

Why is it that if a guy goes out with his buddies and takes a woman home and fucks her yet has no intentions what so ever of getting emotionally involved with her, he's a hero to his friends but IF a woman does the same thing, she's a whore.

That's a double standard that shouldn't exist!! And not every guy friend of his, thinks he is a hero! Just the guys that he hangs with that would do the same stupid shit!

 

[basic_desires]

Why is it that if a guy goes out with his buddies and takes a woman home and fucks her yet has no intentions what so ever of getting emotionally involved with her, he's a hero to his friends but IF a woman does the same thing, she's a whore.

For those who think in that way its called double standards and not limited to the situation you describe. Look at certain cultures where to this day a woman gets punished for being alone in a room with any man she is not married to, while the same man can use and abuse her and be feted for being a 'real' man.

In our modern world, if you want no strings attached sex and are not hurting any third party in the process, it shouldn't matter who or what you are and no-one should think less of you.

Its a very outdated attitude that makes some men still believe they are the only gender allowed to let their sexuality run unchecked, but it is still perpetuated by upbringing, education etc as well.

My 2 cents worth.

 

[beingtrue2me]

It may be outdated but that mindset is still around. I was sort of seeing a guy and we had a lot of fun together. Not serious but seeing each other a couple nights a week. I went home with a guy that just made me squirm the moment I saw him and when the guy I had been seeing found out, he lost it. We had made no promises but he still called me a whore. I wanted a hot guy to fuck me and for that I am a whore but guys are studs when they do the same thing.

 

[guardiaknight]

It may be outdated but that mindset is still around. I was sort of seeing a guy and we had a lot of fun together. Not serious but seeing each other a couple nights a week. I went home with a guy that just made me squirm the moment I saw him and when the guy I had been seeing found out, he lost it. We had made no promises but he still called me a whore. I wanted a hot guy to fuck me and for that I am a whore but guys are studs when they do the same thing.

In that case, I suppose it came down to a question of expectations. It seems that the fellow you were 'sort of' seeing thought there was more to it than that. Perhaps he even had designs towards a more serious relationship. But if that was the case, he probably should have made his intentions clear from the beginning. I suppose the same could be said for you towards him, but that also reflects on how you felt about the arrangement between the two of you. Without more information, I can't really say much more than that.

As for what you describe, I think that you're within your rights as a free agent to sleep with whatever men you wish. I have a girl that I met and had fun with on here. We had several months, during which we only slept with one another. It wasn't a serious relationship, just two people with a mutual interest in sex and weird conversations and movies. Eventually we went our separate ways and she had many conquests afterwards. I don't think any less of her for that, nor would I have held it against her if she had found and chosen to sleep with another fellow when we were doing stuff. But it comes down to the individual regarding such things, and how they can handle it.

In any case, I hope you don't take his unkind words to heart. Sometimes a person just has to savor their freedom and make the most of it while they can.

 

[beingtrue2me]

Just wish the double standard didn't exist. Not the only place we deal with it tho. Oh well on to other things to rant about.

 

[davenjenn]

The original reason was that a woman could get knocked up, while a man could walk away from an encounter.

Made sense at one time

But take it from one who knows, there are plenty of men who understand that women like a little variety in their sex lives

 

[bill4672]

It may be outdated but that mindset is still around. I was sort of seeing a guy and we had a lot of fun together. Not serious but seeing each other a couple nights a week. I went home with a guy that just made me squirm the moment I saw him and when the guy I had been seeing found out, he lost it. We had made no promises but he still called me a whore. I wanted a hot guy to fuck me and for that I am a whore but guys are studs when they do the same thing.

It isn't fair, and it isn't right, but it happens.

Not all guys are players bragging to their friends. Any who are serious about an emotional connection, though, might react like your boyfriend, or they might react that way due to this double standard. Hard to say. Which kind of guy do you think your boyfriend is?

 

[beingtrue2me]

You guys are really sweet but most aren't. I am not looking for sympathy actually cause I have lived my life the way I wanted. What I do want however is for guys to be honest. Think that's easy? It isn't. You want a whore in the bedroom and a lady on your arm. I can do that trust me but when I am that whore, don't treat me like one when we are not in the bedroom. Be honest. When you want something say so. Tell me what you want and stop playing games. Chances are I will or can give it but the games have to stop. When you want something out of us or want us to be a certain thing, make it clear and stop playing games. I am starting to ramble cause my mind is going faster than my fingers can type.

 

[kinkbam]

http://youtu.be/63XsokRPV_Y

Watch this video... May help explain what you are driving at.

 

[beingtrue2me]

http://youtu.be/63XsokRPV_Y

Watch this video... May help explain what you are driving at.

Watched some, will finish later. Thanks for sharing. I need a week of sunny weather and a road trip to make things better. For a while anyway.

 

[mr_rippley]

Why is it that if a guy goes out with his buddies and takes a woman home and fucks her yet has no intentions what so ever of getting emotionally involved with her, he's a hero to his friends but IF a woman does the same thing, she's a whore.

That's a perception you have about how men behave in groups. It may be true in some cases. I don't know anyone who behaves that way and if they did I wouldn't hang out with them very much. It's gross.

 

[JACKandEMMA]

Why is it that if a guy goes out with his buddies and takes a woman home and fucks her yet has no intentions what so ever of getting emotionally involved with her, he's a hero to his friends but IF a woman does the same thing, she's a whore.

That may have been true at one time, but I don't think it's that big of an issue any more. BTW, I've got a good friend who's like what you're talking about. He'd go with anybody just for the sake of going with somebody. All of us guys pretty much think he's kind of a joke when it comes to this aspect of how he is. He's pretty much made a mess out of his life. Now if you've gotta woman with the same outlook on life...same thing. That kind of indiscriminate sex is trouble in a lot more ways than one. Bottom line, be cool, be selective, and try to be as private about it as you can be.

 

[Superman2008]

Why is it that if a guy goes out with his buddies and takes a woman home and fucks her yet has no intentions what so ever of getting emotionally involved with her, he's a hero to his friends but IF a woman does the same thing, she's a whore.

That is OLD world thinking. It's 2015, I would not think you're a whore, I would think damn wish it had been with me. lol