Quiet exhilaration

Quint

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My weeks of soul-searching, frustration, temptation, and then some have finally paid off. T is coming for Labor Day weekend. He will be here from Saturday morning to sometime Monday.

Oh yeah....feelin good.

Okay, in the spirit of fun: for you LDRs and online couples, what was it like when you met your partner r/l for the first time? Did you have any expectations of what was to occur or did you play it by ear? We are definitely not planning on anything in particular, and I think that will work the best for us.

*solemnity over, she does a very happy bouncy dance* Yay!
 
Quint

Good topic,...I played it by ear. I don't much like to shoot in the dark. I like being able to read expressions and go from there.

Being the one in control,...I take a LOT of pride in being able to do that WELL. As I learn more and more about a NEW sub,...I tend to be able to plan a bit more, but I try to not get ahead too far. :rose:
 
I was a nervous wreck, anytime I met anyone from online. Friendship or intimacy aside.

Basically, entering with no expectations is the safest way, but there are times that the intimate nature of the relationship has extended well beyond any ability to remain aloof.

With a Dom, I have always shared my concerns about the meeting. Do I expect to have had a lousy day, a busy day, etc?

How am I feeling about my physical appearance these days? I send them the ugliest photos I have so that they are challenged in terms of taking this step. This ploy has never changed anyone's mind . ;)

It is quite an investment to step it up to real time, especially when I can't travel all over the US.

Then, when meeting, the anxiety adds to the wonderful feeling of the initial meeting, the touch, the hug, the kiss.

Following his lead has always been instrumental in beginning the relationship and so enjoyable!

then, th prep time. Finding just the right outfit, shopping for new stockings or jewelry or sleep wear ;) All those things are an incredible feeling for me.


I envy you your weekend, but so wish you well!

hugs to you Quint!
 
When meeting for the first time rl, of course you HOPE that it will just be as good and better as it is online .. but you don't know, right?

So I usually go to those first times (yes, I have had a few of those) without expecting anything more to happen than a fun weekend with someone you came to like (no matter if love eternal has been sworn a thousand times before, I am too much of a realist to not know that the moment I see someone I might STILL be totally turned off by... whatever... the kind of shoes he is wearing, the way he walks, the way he orders in a restaurant). I actually always had a "no sex required" deal with my first time meets *winks* don't ask for how long those deals lasted *lol*

What I am saying - we always lowered our expectations as far as we possibly could so that in the worst of cases we'd be having a fun weekend together and part as friends - in the best of cases have excellent mind blowing .. uhm .. fun *winks*.

There was of course temptation of starting a "scene" already by the time we'd get on the plane - have orders etc. - but always we decided against it - too much pressure! (but soo cool for the second and third and .. meeting*weg*)

All that my First Meetings had in common was a heartfelt hug on the grouds of arrival, be it airport or train station or whatever .... and from there it all went as the flow of chemistry and situation would carry us.

One tiny little bit of "advise": remember you only have one first time - so savour it, savour the impatience, the insecurity, the agony and the nerves ... it will never be the same with him, no matter how much you will be separated, it will never be that First Time. Take it easy, don't rty to squeeze all the fun bits you discussed online into it, even though you are so very tempted and want to make up (and build up for) all the lost time you haven't been and will not be together.

That will just turn into stress - and will leave you with a lot less "firsts" the next time you meet ... after all *chuckles* we have to dose those little "Ohhhhh" moments carefully! ... which reminds me I have to think about a few of those for the upcoming weekend ;) and disappears to do a bit of own scheming and plotting
 
Hecate

Hecate said:
When meeting for the first time rl, of course you HOPE that it will just be as good and better as it is online .. but you don't know, right?


One tiny little bit of "advise": remember you only have one first time - so savour it, savour the impatience, the insecurity, the agony and the nerves ... it will never be the same with him, no matter how much you will be separated, it will never be that First Time. Take it easy, don't rty to squeeze all the fun bits you discussed online into it, even though you are so very tempted and want to make up (and build up for) all the lost time you haven't been and will not be together.

That will just turn into stress - and will leave you with a lot less "firsts" the next time you meet ... after all *chuckles* we have to dose those little "Ohhhhh" moments carefully! ... which reminds me I have to think about a few of those for the upcoming weekend ;) and disappears to do a bit of own scheming and plotting

I so agree with your advice! :rose:
 
Just good wishes!

I have never been in this situation, as i have never met anyone online, all my relationships have been r/l from the start.

However, I sincerely hope that the weekend is everything you want it to be, and that you enjoy it immensely!!

Have a great Weekend!! :rose:
 
Just wanted to add my good wishes and congrats, Quint. I'm sure you'll have a blast.

:)
dixi
 
just out of interest quint are you and hunny still living together? is he going to be around on labor day (i have NO IDEA what that is by the way!)
 
Quint said:
Okay, in the spirit of fun: for you LDRs and online couples, what was it like when you met your partner r/l for the first time? Did you have any expectations of what was to occur or did you play it by ear?

I personally have an outline of what will occur cause I am the Domme. It is hard work.

Eb
 
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Ebonyfire said:


I personally have an outline of what will occur cause I am the Domme. It is hard work. I do not cyber Domme, but I meet them all online. They petition to serve Me.

Eb
 
~~~~~~~Good luck, Quint. Here's hoping it's a wonderful experience for you both.
I am doing the happy dance for ya!
Rose:heart:
 
Quint said:
My weeks of soul-searching, frustration, temptation, and then some have finally paid off. T is coming for Labor Day weekend. He will be here from Saturday morning to sometime Monday.

Oh yeah....feelin good.

Okay, in the spirit of fun: for you LDRs and online couples, what was it like when you met your partner r/l for the first time? Did you have any expectations of what was to occur or did you play it by ear? We are definitely not planning on anything in particular, and I think that will work the best for us.

*solemnity over, she does a very happy bouncy dance* Yay!

Quint, keep feeling good:)
My experience of meeting for the first time R/L after online and telephone contact took place quite recently so I have it in vivid imagination. I did not have any other expectation than meeting a friend and that was a very good place to start. Anticipation, high expectations and promises easily gives a very bad start and puts too much pressure on a situation that can be difficult enough as it is. It might feel also that there's so much knowledge from before but really, it is like starting new in so many ways.
There was plenty of time to talk and enjoy those first intense moments so that is another piece of advice, don't plan too much-be flexible and allow eachother some space.
And enjoy !

VP
 
I have met a few people that I knew initially from online. Some were from ads placed, others were fellow Literoticans. In each situation but one (the first one), I was completely honest with them about my looks, personalities, likes, dislikes. There was some nervousness, yes, but for the most part I looked at it as simply meeting some one as a friend. If more developed, great. If nothing else came of it, that was fine, too.

I've never met some one that I had an intense online relationship with in r/l, however. Not sure how that would go, but I suspect I would look at it the same way. Keep it friendly and little casual. Remember, getting to know some one online can be VERY different from r/l. I always think it best not to set one's hopes too high.

But have fun and enjoy, Quint! If anyone deserves to be happy, it's you!
 
Thank you all for your replies! I'm insufferably delirious. It's sickening. But surprisingly, no expectations, still! Just the thought of having that greater connection with him is enough to send me flying outta this galaxy.

Tassie, yes, Hunny and I are still living together. This is mostly monetarily, because neither of us can afford separate places and definitely don't want to play the "what kind of roommate will I be stuck with for the next year?" game. So we're going a Will and Grace thing...oh dear, if you don't know about Labor Day (a quaint US holiday for the people of the world who actually work for a living. Imagine that.), you probably don't know about Will and Grace. Erm, well, Hunny and I are living platonically together. Still best friends and all but no lovin. And I am NOT going to test that friendship further by even bringing T over here. It's hotels all weekend.

Hecate, you are so totally correct on your admonition to not cram all the sordid fantasies we've had into one weekend. I would really like to, but I realize that would not be the best course of action. I want to stretch this out and make it lovely for a very long time. That and I want my limits to be pushed gradually; while I've done staged rape before, it would be more serious and more intense with T and so that's something to be worked up to, for example.

And to all the warnings, I'm carefully blanking my mind of anything resembling "expectations" or "plans," so I really don't think I'll be let down no matter what.

Thank you, all of you, for sharing your blessings with me. I'm all too happy to return the favor by sharing my happiness with you!
 
Quint,

Just so you know -- my thoughts are with you -- because you're not the only one in this situation this weekend.

I'm doing the same thing -- we're meeting for the first time in r/l for the Labor Day weekend.

*Sigh* I'm a stress mess -- and I've MET lots of people from online before. But everyone's sensible advice is right -- absolutely what Hecate said -- about not building things up. Taking it easy. I like how so many people said they looked at is as meeting a friend -- if more happened, great. If not, at least you were spending time with a friend. I dated for a while off of the online services and this was always my attitude. This time I'm not quite as together or calm as I used to be, lol. Thank god, I think he is. ;)

Anyway that's the same attitude I'm going into it with -- the advice everyone gave (okay, well, with my normal set of neurotic projections and worries, lol.) ;)

Good luck! I hope you have a great weekend. :D

I hope everyone does! :)

P. :rose:
 
Originally posted by Quint ["... for you LDRs and online couples, what was it like when you met your partner r/l for the first time? "

(I like this thread...something a novice can relate to.)

Like MissT, I had sent a pretty bad photo of myself (not the worst, though...didn't want to scare the bejeebers out of Him) for much the same reason. This was a first "online-to real/time" meeting of any kind for me , as well as a first excursion into the D/s realm and I was terrified. He had assured me via e mail that we would probably not even touch on the BDSM aspect for a good half hour (this made me feel much better...I thought we were going to just dive right in)

What I will always remember about this first meeting, is that the first moment we were face-to-face, he looked at me like he couldn't believe his eyes. Five months later, he still does.

I honestly believe that when he stops looking at me like that, I
will stop going.

Have a great weekend and nice to meet you, Quint












stop going.
 
ah the feeling of being one

Girl still remembers her first meeting with her first Master the thoughts going thru her head the thrill the worry not knowing if she wilkl be all that he want will every thing go ok will it work out it is a feeling that can never be replaced take it slow and make ever moment memoralbe .....

good luck girl wishes you the best
 
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Anastasia said:
He had assured me via e mail that we would probably not even touch on the BDSM aspect for a good half hour (this made me feel much better...I thought we were going to just dive right in)

I'm sorry, Anastasia, but I had to laugh when I read that...T mentioned the possibility that we might do nothing but cuddle the whole weekend (an idea which I vetoed in a firm manner that would get me all kinds of frowns here). So when I read that I thought "hmmm, a whole half hour, eh?" I do see that it makes a large difference: there is the "getting to know you" part and the nervous giggling and then finally when the nerves are slightly calmed....you can begin.

That's probly how we're going to play it...not that that's a plan or an expectation or anything! o)

Nice to meet you too! Welcome aboard...and there are lots of friendly threads around here. Enjoy yourself.
 
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Quint said:


"I'm sorry, Anastasia, but I had to laugh when I read that... "

That's OK, you were meant to... 1/2 hour IS, to me anyway, the equivalent of "divng right in". I was actually counting on maybe 2 or 3 months of getting-to-know-him so T's proposal of a weekend of cuddling sounds pretty good to me !
But I guess when it comes down to it, you just go with whatever feels right at the time.

2 days and counting....
 
labor day, right. bit like a bank holiday perhaps? i have seen will and grace, they show it over here after friends on a friday.

have a good weekend, may your arse shine red in joy.
 
My 2¢

Here's what little I have to offer...

While I've met a few people locally when I was still in California from a local BBS, I've only met the one person in an LDR. When we FIRST met, we had built up a lot of expectations, talked about things we'd want to do... Fortunately, that night exceeded all expectations... :D

However, when I MOVED out here, we still had expectations, and pretty high ones. When things didn't come about like we expected, it really hurt us.. not just the relationship, but the friendship. Thankfully, we've been able to salvage the friendship and we're now much like Quint and hers - sharing a place as roommates but not as lovers.

It's perfectly natural to have some expectations, but try to keep an open mind. One of the best things my roommate is doing with her new relationship, since he is overseas until the end of the month, is not to allow herself to think about the expectations, or anything long-term. She's not thinking past the first day they share together, and waiting to see how that goes first. But then, she is a very wise woman. :)
 
I think everyone pretty well knows that Himself and I met on line. In fact tomorrow is our one year anniversary.

I can still remember the way I felt that first day when he came to my door. I can remember the way he looked, his smile, his eyes.

To this day, there are still times when he calls or comes to my door when I feel the same way as I did that first day.

There is still the anticipation of that first kiss, the first touch today.

I hope things go wonderfully for you Quint....
 
Persephone36 said:
Quint,

Just so you know -- my thoughts are with you -- because you're not the only one in this situation this weekend.

I'm doing the same thing -- we're meeting for the first time in r/l for the Labor Day weekend.

*Sigh* I'm a stress mess -- and I've MET lots of people from online before. But everyone's sensible advice is right -- absolutely what Hecate said -- about not building things up. Taking it easy. I like how so many people said they looked at is as meeting a friend -- if more happened, great. If not, at least you were spending time with a friend. I dated for a while off of the online services and this was always my attitude. This time I'm not quite as together or calm as I used to be, lol. Thank god, I think he is. ;)

Anyway that's the same attitude I'm going into it with -- the advice everyone gave (okay, well, with my normal set of neurotic projections and worries, lol.) ;)

Good luck! I hope you have a great weekend. :D

I hope everyone does! :)

P. :rose:

Perse...

breath...

you are going to have a great time...

because of who you are it can be no less...

Himself just told me yesterday, sometimes you have to quit thinking about things and just jump in with both feet...

I know you are going to have a great weekend
 
A nervous wreck!

Yes, I am travelling to Ottawa, Ca tomorrow to meet a Dom that I have been talking with.

He has told me what I should wear, that was so easy to figure out, anyway.

I can't find my thigh highs!

I have a blemish on my cheek!

My son used my heels for "dumptrucks" out in the sandbox!

However, I am clean, shaven, hair was done today and other things seem to be going as planned.

I so enjoy the flutters in my tummy :)

Miss *international sub* taken!
 
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