Questions for crossdressers who live with other people.

[TwilightPrince]

I am 29 years old now and have had the urge to dress for years. When I was in high school I would secretly dress up in my GFs clothes when I had the opportunity but since then I've always lived with someone so I very rarely if ever have the chance. Even if I did, I don't know how I would go about buying clothes. I'd probably be too embarrassed to buy them from a store so I'd have to get them online but getting them past my roommate would be the trick.

So how do some of you do it?

 

[Shankara20]

I am 29 years old now and have had the urge to dress for years. When I was in high school I would secretly dress up in my GFs clothes when I had the opportunity but since then I've always lived with someone so I very rarely if ever have the chance. Even if I did, I don't know how I would go about buying clothes. I'd probably be too embarrassed to buy them from a store so I'd have to get them online but getting them past my roommate would be the trick.

So how do some of you do it?

I no longer live with anyone so I can crossdress all the time at home.

I suggest starting with thrift stores, you can just go in and look around and leave without buying a thing until you get over the jitters - it takes all of us a while to get over it. Then until you get your size figured out just purchase what looks like it might fit and try it on when you can. If it does not fit no big loss. Take it into your room in a shoulder bag, backpack or briefcase. It would be great if the day came when your roommate was ok with it and it was no big deal to walk around your ome dressed the way you want.

 

[sanantonio121]

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[reignophelia]

I wish that the "be honest and upfront" approach would have worked for me.

Best of luck to you. I'm sorry that you had to go through all that with the fiancee. I hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[sanantonio121]

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[Tymeless]

I wish that the "be honest and upfront" approach would have worked for me.

For years and years (my whole adult life really) I have fantisied and thought about not only dressing up as a woman, but actually living life as a woman. This doesn't mean that I am solely attracted to men, in fact I find most typically "Alpha Male" behavior offensive and not at all endearing. I greatly, greatly admire the power and mystery held by the feminine and I think more than anything else it is this inner and outer beauty that I identify with. I guess I could consider myself bi-sexual, but things get so complicated when you try to stick labels on them, at least in my experience.

Last Friday I came home from work and I had worked up my courage to explain feelings of sexual and gender role identity to my Fiancee. This was the first time I had ever attempted to explain to a woman in my life (or anyone really)how strongly I identify with the feminine and about my desire to begin dressing, looking, living, and having a sexual identity as a woman. I knew she would be shocked and even possibly hurt, but I thought that love would be enough to help us find some kind of common ground and understanding. I was wrong. In fact I was basically kicked out of her life, she wrecked my car, and physically assaulted me. Like I said things didn't go well, however a strong feeling within me tells me that a corner or page has been turned in my life.

I took the weekend to myself. I shaved all of my body hair, bought a few clothes and some cosmetics and set off on a road trip to see just what is out there. I spent the weekend at the beach in Texas and had a great time relaxing by myself (though I did get a bit sunburned).

Anyway after driving up to New Mexico, (where I have always found the people very friendly, welcoming , and down to earth)I have decided to hang out a while, maybe visit some hot springs, and explore the possibilities here.
So Why am I posting this personal and hurtful tale here?

Maybe because it is more likely that I will find the kind of open-minded, explorative persone here than elsewhere. I do have purely physical urges, desires , and fantasies I'd like to finally act out. I'd like to go down on a guy while his wife or girl friend "instructs" me in how to please her partner. I'd be open to meeting a person, male or female, who would allow me to explore my subserviant inner nature and who would appreciate and encourage my attempts to be as feminine as I can be, physically, emotionally, and in regards to sexual activity. I'd like to be treated like a Slut by a person who understands the power that comes from taking that word and finding the strength in it. I am perfectly fine with never using my penis to penetrate another person for the rest of my sexual life. Actually something about a penetration-free relationship (yet still a very sexual one) with a woman interests me greatly. As far as penetrating a guy goes, I find no desire or attraction to that at all, but the idea of providing oral service in the right circumstances really does turn me on.

So, yes, I would be interested in meeting some one, but above and beyond that I am most interested in forming a true and lasting bond with someone who can understand the point I am at in my life right now. I am degreed, good looking, well read and well traveled, my life is about so much more than sexuality, but lately I know that I will never be as happy in life as I could be until I give myself the freedom to be who I really feel I am on the inside. I just wish the standard "be up front and honest" advise would have worked out for me and the woman I loved, so be careful guys..I guess it comes down a questions of priorities.

If this happened only a week ago you probably haven't even really given her a chance to accept this and decide how much she loves you. She probably won't accept it for quite awhile if ever but i think if you really love her you have to give her a chance to accept it before moving on somewhere else. I'm not telling you what to do but what i've learned from transgender spouses in my therapy group that its just as difficult if not more difficult for the person you love to come to terms with as it is for you to finally make that decision to become what you've always wanted to be.

 

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[sanantonio121]

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[Shankara20]

that is how I feel about it as well..I know about ordering shoes online..it'd just be nice if I could shop at Target like everyone else..

I was lucky to find fem shoes in my size while still living in San Francisco. Now that I'm back in Kansas I'm out of luck trying on shoes in most stores.

I wish I have magic words for you about sorting this all out in relationships. But I do not. I live alone as I said earlier. And I'm bisexual. My crossdressing in not much of an issue if I getting to know a new male partner, but it is always a huge issue with new female partners. If I think a new female I am getting to know might be interested in a sexual relationship I get it out in the open just as soon as I can - I hate to get attached to someone only to have them freak out later when they come across my bra and panties - which I am always wearing under my boy-clothing when I'm away from home.

The only problem I have with gay male partners is their assumption that I only "bottom" or "sub" because I crossdress - I am a Top in lace. But that is a discussion for some other thread.

 

[dblcrosser]

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..... And I'm bisexual. My crossdressing in not much of an issue if I getting to know a new male partner, but it is always a huge issue with new female partners....
The only problem I have with gay male partners is their assumption that I only "bottom" or "sub" because I crossdress - I am a Top in lace. But that is a discussion for some other thread.

I couldn't have said this better. I, too, enjoy dressing but it is only a part of my personna.
Also, I get some of my clothes from Good Will or Thrift Shops, and some from working in the theatre. Actually, I was cast in a all male revue of a musical, in a local community theatre, many years ago and the dressing up in evening gowns is what started me cross-dressing. Men started flirting with me and I so enjoyed it that I eventually wound up going to bed with one of them. You haven't lived until you've worn a pair of satin panties and had some one suck on your cock.

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