Questions: Female Orgasm & First Time

[jamesessex]

I'm a male writer, new to the Discussion Board. I'm working on 2 "First Time" stories & I want my descriptions of the sexual experiences to be realistic & accurate.

I am interested in learning about the sensations women experience during their first time.

I've read Redhairedandfriendly's essay on the female orgasm and many other Lit stories over the past eight years, but I have some specific questions that I'd like answered, if possible.

None of the 3 women who told me I was their "First" experienced any pain during sex despite my being a little above average in length & thickness.

I don't think they would welcome my questions on the subject & to be honest I think they told me the truth.

Do most women experience pain the first time?

Does the pleasure during an intense orgasm peak & fade, peak & fade in a series of waves?

Does the sensation flow thru the nerve endings throughout your body from the contractions in your vagina to your head & feet like a male orgasm?

I have other questions specific to my stories.

Also I am in search of a female editor to offer advice & imput to my stories rather than just puncuation & gramar, someone who might help with these & other questions.

If you would feel more comfortable, please send your reply to me in a "Private Message". I will respect your confidence.

Thanks. james essex

 

[English Lady]

Hello and welcome to the madhouse

Now, to the questions.

I didn't experience any pain during my first time, just lots of pleasure. Now me, I had one orgasm,always did when i firs had sex, it took years to get relaxed enough to get into the multiple orgasm thing. However, the waves thing does sounds spot on for me, the ensations fade and then highten and the orgasm definitely does spread out throughout my whole body.

Hope that helped

 

[scheherazade_79]

My first experience with a guy was marked by boredom, as was every other hetero experience after that. I couldn't believe that this was what people raved about. Then I tried sex with a woman and suddenly everything made sense

 

[xmaliciousx]

My first time...

Hurt

real bad it was a awkward attempt at first. Im still with the same guy. He seems to think im abnormally tight. So that makes me feel like a freak.

 

[Nirvanadragones]

My first experience with a guy was marked by boredom, as was every other hetero experience after that. I couldn't believe that this was what people raved about. Then I tried sex with a woman and suddenly everything made sense

What she said... It was like discovering heaven and home all at once.

 

[English Lady]

My first time...

Hurt

real bad it was a awkward attempt at first. Im still with the same guy. He seems to think im abnormally tight. So that makes me feel like a freak.

You're not a freak, love. You probably just need a whole load more foreplay with your sex. You need to be relaxed, turned on and wet for sex not to hurt. If your fella cares for you at all he'd be stiving to make sure you enjoy every time you have sex

 

[cherries_on_snow]

Do most women experience pain the first time?

I don't know about most women. I experienced a sudden shock, a feeling that wasn't quite pain, but was more discomfort... like the feeling of getting numbed skin broken. My guess is that there aren't nerve endings in the hymen? Not sure. The pressure and emotional shock of "Oh My God he put his Thing in Me!" was the primary memory.

Does the pleasure during an intense orgasm peak & fade, peak & fade in a series of waves?
A really intense orgasm for me feels like a hose going wild, a thrashing constant orgasm that bucks me until I am weak with it. This is when my clitoris and gspot are both stimulated at once, usually. Next best is a waves crashing orgasm that has a teaser peak then several more intense throbs as my cervix dilates and flutters. Finally is a gspot only orgasm (rare for me) which is like rocking on a wooden horse until the momentum tips me over backwards into pleasure, falling into the wide spot of a running brook and going with it (and going and going sometimes).

Does the sensation flow thru the nerve endings throughout your body from the contractions in your vagina to your head & feet like a male orgasm?

Yes. First the feeling of tenseness everywhere, toes curling, fingers grasping, muscles tightening, and then the release: a fabulous rushing from my sex outward to everywhere and my whole body flushes pink.



Hope that helps.

 

[poony]

Late Bloomer

My first time I was almost 20...it did not hurt because I guess horseback riding and all. I do not think I had an orgasim with this guy.

My second man and still with to this day. Brought me to orgasim the first time we were together and it was like fireworks and still is to this day.

It builds with me feeling like am going over the edge and my body tenses and then I see fireworks...

I have a question (embarassing) sometimes when I have a orgaism I cum a lot like a spray or is this something else...(like i am so relaxed that I pee)?

 

[English Lady]

My first time I was almost 20...it did not hurt because I guess horseback riding and all. I do not think I had an orgasim with this guy.

My second man and still with to this day. Brought me to orgasim the first time we were together and it was like fireworks and still is to this day.

It builds with me feeling like am going over the edge and my body tenses and then I see fireworks...

I have a question (embarassing) sometimes when I have a orgaism I cum a lot like a spray or is this something else...(like i am so relaxed that I pee)?

It's probably not pee, so don't panic It happens to me sometimes when i have a really intense orgasm. It's ejaculation, yup like the blokes do, but it's the female equvalent -it's pretty rare though!

 

[poony]

It's probably not pee, so don't panic It happens to me sometimes when i have a really intense orgasm. It's ejaculation, yup like the blokes do, but it's the female equvalent -it's pretty rare though!

I have heard that...but was not sure. My guy does not mind it..(thank god) Thank you for your answer.

 

[Nirvanadragones]

When talking to other women about how they experience orgasm, many describe it as an UP TOWARDS something sensation. Kind of a quicker, harder, better, urgent, fuck me now.

Sure, there is an urgency to it, especially when there is an extreme emotional and spiritual build -up that is part of the love making, yet I don't experience it as an "up towards something" sensation (kind of like climbing the stairs to get to the top)

For me it's a spiral... spiraling down from this vast open circle, towards something very intimate, very private, nurturing and personal. Perhaps that inner space we all know we have, but find so hard to reach.

 

[English Lady]

I have heard that...but was not sure. My guy does not mind it..(thank god) Thank you for your answer.

Glad I could help

 

[jamesessex]

Female ejaculation

It's a normal sexual response experienced by some women during an intense orgasm.


Check this website for more infomation:

http://www.drsusanblock.com/editorial/squirting/squirtingindex.htm


james essex

 

[S-Des]

Definitely not a freak

My first time...

Hurt

real bad it was a awkward attempt at first. Im still with the same guy. He seems to think im abnormally tight. So that makes me feel like a freak.

I like to think I'm above average in size, but never had a problem with a woman "handling" me (even the only virgin I ever had sex with). Then I dated one young lady who had a serious reputation for getting around (trust me, it was well earned). I was shocked to find out that even after foreplay it took about a minute to get myself fully inside her. It was moderately uncomfortable for me as well. I'm certainly not an expert, but I think it's just specific to the woman. You definitely shouldn't feel down about your body. It's unique and it's you, therefore it's good.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

From a deflowering male's point of view who did his share, I can say I'd never want to do a virgin again.

In my experiences there was so much apprehension and nervousness, and so much self-consciousness on the girl's part and worry on mine that I'd hurt her and that I had to make it special for her, that it really wasn't very enjoyable. On top of that, she really doesn't know what to do to make it good, and so you either ending up pounding into the poor thing as she lies there wondering if this is what it's supposed to be like or being so careful that it's more like doing a root canal than it is like real emotional sex.

I know a lot of guys fantasize about having virgins. I suppose there some big ego component involved to being the first, but as far as I'm concerned I'd muich rather have a woman who's had some experience.

No. If you want to be a sexual heo, be the second, not the first. She's already had her initial trauma and is ready for another disappointing experience, and if you show some sensitivity, she'll never forget you as the one who showed her what it was all about. It's the difference between physical virginity and emotional virginity. The second beats the first hands down.

 

[poony]

From a deflowering male's point of view who did his share, I can say I'd never want to do a virgin again.

In my experiences there was so much apprehension and nervousness, and so much self-consciousness on the girl's part and worry on mine that I'd hurt her and that I had to make it special for her, that it really wasn't very enjoyable. On top of that, she really doesn't know what to do to make it good, and so you either ending up pounding into the poor thing as she lies there wondering if this is what it's supposed to be like or being so careful that it's more like doing a root canal than it is like real emotional sex.

I know a lot of guys fantasize about having virgins. I suppose there some big ego component involved to being the first, but as far as I'm concerned I'd muich rather have a woman who's had some experience.

No. If you want to be a sexual heo, be the second, not the first. She's already had her initial trauma and is ready for another disappointing experience, and if you show some sensitivity, she'll never forget you as the one who showed her what it was all about. It's the difference between physical virginity and emotional virginity. The second beats the first hands down.

The first time I tried to have sex..I think me and the guy were to nervous. We dated in high school, but I would never let him get that far. Finally first year of college we were both home on break and decide what the hell. Well it did not go well he got it up but had problems getting it in. He was not trying to go slow or nothing..I do not think he really tried any foreplay (I love foreplay). The guy who actually took my virginity was a little more suave about things.

I think it depends on the guy also..if he is will to take the time to care about her feelings and if she is enjoying it to. Or if he wants his wam bam thank you mame.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

From personal experience and what I can gather from most others, the pain involved in first times is related to whether or not their hymen is intact. Mine was and there was lots of pressure and distinct pain at the point of rupture. I got over it without any real trauma, but it did not make for a rip roaring orgasmic first time.

Categorically speaking, female orgasms are difficult to come by, especially the first time. Mine were not consistent until I gave up men entirely, but that just speaks to the brain = largest sex organ theory. Most women have quite a lot of self-discovery to do before they orgasm consistently.

I'm not opposed to recounting my take on the female orgasm experience, if you haven't already found what you're looking for.

Good luck with your stories and welcome to the AH.

~lucky

 

[poony]

Has anyone had their man have problems cumming? You even try the usual things you do that turn him on during and it does not work...

This usually happens when we have had sex a couple times without a condom though...

Is it me or does it mean something else?

Would like help...

 

[3113]

None of the 3 women who told me I was their "First" experienced any pain during sex despite my being a little above average in length & thickness.

Very lucky those girls, either in the way they were made or in you, because you got them aroused and wet enough to manage.

I've know girls so tight that their first time is agony--and sometimes they can't manage it. My personal experience, discomfort, pain and blood. Yep. Bled. Pretty scary.

No pleasure, no orgasm. It just took some getting used to.

Does the pleasure during an intense orgasm peak & fade, peak & fade in a series of waves?

I don't know if there's a fade. It's more of a throbbing. Spasm/release. If you've gone down on a girl and had her thighs grip you mercilessly as she orgasmed, you get the idea of that powerful spasm.

 

[3113]

This usually happens when we have had sex a couple times without a condom though...

You mean, you did it without for a while and then tried it with a condom and the guy can't manage? Very common. Guys don't like condoms, especially when they've gotten used to doing without.