Questions about anal...

[Guest]

My girlfriend and I have been toying with the idea of trying anal sex for a while, but I am reluctant. Mainly because.. I dont know what is involved.

I know the basics.. but can any of the people here who have done it tell me what it's like? Is it any good?

Also I heard that you need to get colonic irrigation, is this true? Sounds like quite a way to go just to have anal sex.

 

[Naughty guy]

hahahaha, lol

irrigation....hahahahaha.

Mate, go ahead and try it, best way of obtaining answers is experimentation!!

 

[Ezzie]

I've never been "irrigated" to have anal sex before and it's something I do quite regularly. I use lots of lube and it takes some patience but, that's about it.

There can be some pain involved for the woman if you get to forceful, so, you'll want her to take the lead and let her determine the pace of things. The first time is always the scariest when it comes to anything, but, I suggest trying it. You might just like it.

 

[BBD]

Plenty of lube...Astroglide or KY comes to mind

Plenty of patience...the first time especially, it could take a lot of stroking her pussy and/or clit to finally allow her to relax enough to take you in.

You might try having her on her back and lifting up rather than in the typical picture where she'd be on hands and knees. Some people find it easier from that angle.

I know nothing about irrigation.

 

[Guest]

My girlfriend and I have been toying with the idea of trying anal sex for a while, but I am reluctant. Mainly because.. I dont know what is involved.

I know the basics.. but can any of the people here who have done it tell me what it's like? Is it any good?

Also I heard that you need to get colonic irrigation, is this true? Sounds like quite a way to go just to have anal sex.

In MHO anal sex is very good! I can have better, stronger orgasms through anal than I can through "regular" vaginal sex. But (no pun intended), that is just me. As Ezzie said, I have never used (or needed) an enema before engaging in anal sex. I guess I've just been lucky in that respect? It certainly don't harm anything to proceed with an enema before anal if you and your g/f prefer. For me, if I "had" to have an enema each time before sex, it would still be worth it to me.

 

[cherrylips_au]

What I would suggest for a first time of trying anal sex is first both of you have a nice relaxing shower or bath together this way you can make sure your both all clean. Using lots of lube there is no such thing as too much with anal especially the first few times. Start by just using your fingers when you ready to begin exploring the area see if you both can relax and enjoy the new experience. Let your girlfriend dictate the speed and pressure used at all times, it will be uncomfortable but shouldn't hurt. Then if you both want to take things further still let her be in control if she wants you to stop then do it, take things slowly try not to let your excitement carry you away.As she learns to relax you will both enjoy it more.
I have to agree with Tiggs that orgasms from anal can be very strong but extremely enjoyable experience for the both of you.
Good luck.

You don't need colonic irrigation some people may use this or an enema before hand but its not needed.

 

[WaxNWane]

What's the saying..."Lubrication and communication."

And check out the "Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women"...by Tristan something (Tarmino?). Interesting, direct reading without being overly clinical about it. Makes a great gift, too.

 

[Pdxmwm]

Slow and Gentle

As so many have said, be well lubed. My preference is Astroglide, but it’s a matter of personal choice. Be very gentle as you enter her, use a steady pressure and allow her to open gradually. If she feels any pain, stop. I find the feeling different, not better, not worse then vaginal intercourse. To me, it seems somewhat tighter, and a bit more restrictive.

There are two types of anal play that really turn my girl friend on; slipping my little finger in, just a bit, as I massage her lips and clitoris with warm oil, and using a vibrator anally during vaginal intercourse. I can feel the vibrations while I’m in her, and it’s a tremendous turn on for me as well.

 

[yuppietowngirl]

What I would suggest for a first time of trying anal sex is first both of you have a nice relaxing shower or bath together this way you can make sure your both all clean. Using lots of lube there is no such thing as too much with anal especially the first few times. Start by just using your fingers when you ready to begin exploring the area see if you both can relax and enjoy the new experience. Let your girlfriend dictate the speed and pressure used at all times, it will be uncomfortable but shouldn't hurt. Then if you both want to take things further still let her be in control if she wants you to stop then do it, take things slowly try not to let your excitement carry you away.As she learns to relax you will both enjoy it more.
I have to agree with Tiggs that orgasms from anal can be very strong but extremely enjoyable experience for the both of you.
Good luck.

You don't need colonic irrigation some people may use this or an enema before hand but its not needed.

I agree totally with cherrylips...let the lady take control. Since it is her that will be the one in pain.

For me...anal sex is well worth it.

 

[Impetus]

I'll offer some suggestions here...

In my experience, the initial penetration is the most uncomfortable, and you do *not* want to start with your penis. No way that will feel good. I'd recommend starting with a finger, and here's how.

Start by putting a dallop of lube on your finger and just pressing it against the outside of her asshole. With luck, the gell will coat around the outside and just enough inside to make the initial penetration possible. Remember, this first shot is going to be wierd, so go slowly. Rub your finger up and down the outside of her asshole and it will start to relax a little, add more lube for this step if you feel it prudent. Eventually, the outer ring will open up enough that you can get just the tip of your finger inside. Likely, this won't feel good, but it shouldn't be painfull. If it is, back up and try again, it will be less so on the second try. Let her relax and get a little used to it.

The next step is to go past the next ring. You may want to add more lube here. (You'll be doing that a lot Same theory applies. Massage the ring a little untill it opens up, make sure you're finger is prepared, and then go inside. Past that ring, you should be able to slip in pretty far. Do so at your leisure, but go slowly, it's going to feel wierd. Once the finger is all the way in, you're at a good checkpoint. Let her relax, get used to the sensation, make sure she's okay. After it's been in there for a while, the sensation of 'good grief there's something in my ass!' will start to fade, and she may not even notice it after a few seconds.

You can go a few different ways from here, but I like to start sliding the one finger in and out slowly. Be gentle and listen. At some point, ideally, she'll start to enjoy this. It could be anything from an interesting sensation to all-out pleasure. It'll vary. Once that starts to feel good, lube up another finger and slowly insert it. Go slowly, but you shouldn't have to go as slowly as the first. Once she's used to two, go to three. If she can take three, she should be ready for a penis. (Yours, in theory ) Same stuff applies. Caution. You may want to let her put you inside her, or let her get on top so she can control it. Going from fingers to sex is a big step.

That's the abridged version of what I know about anal sex. I'd go on, but this is a good place to start. Good luck.

-I

 

[WaxNWane]

Good post, Impetus. My experience is a bit limited, but I'd say much of the same things. Go slowly - actually, the pace should be entirely set by the receiver until a certain point. Don't worry, you'll know when that point happens (You'll hear an unmistakable "Oh god, fuck me!" ). To put it bluntly, have her (or him, I suppose) go to the bathroom, then take a nice long bath or shower, use as much lube as you can manage, and go as slowly as the person receiving needs to. Like I said - lubrication & communication .

 

[Guest]

Thanks loads

Better go buy some lube then!