Question II

[R Nitelight]

If you are sitting at your computer reading this, and if you visit this site or others like it from time to time and have established friendships with people who live a million miles away, then I'm sure you've thought about this question from time to time.

Is it possible to miss a person you know you're never going to meet?

 

[Silverlily]

Yes

 

[CW]

Not only yes,,, but HELL YES!!

 

[Nobody Special]

I agree with Kitten and CW!!!!!!!!!!!11

 

[Juliangel]

A very BIG yes. I am missing someone right now, hoping that he signs on and says hi before he goes out of town tomorrow morning until Sunday night.

 

[Matthew D]

Yes, I do think is possible because you form a bond with that person not because of physical closeness to the person but the bond you get from knowing that person personality they express to you in your conversations/writings. I personally have a few people that I have never met in person that, like old friends that I haven't seen in a while, wonder what they are up to..

 

[forgetunome]

Let's see how do I put it....

Yes.....very very very very very very very very.....much! Yes.....I would say ALOT
Yes.....More than words can say.....

 

[R Nitelight]

When I said goodbye five hours ago, I promised her I wouldn't start any threads about her, so let's just keep this between us, okay?

 

[Juliangel]

When I said goodbye five hours ago, I promised her I wouldn't start any threads about her, so let's just keep this between us, okay?

I thought that might be who you were missing. She said she would be back on Sunday also, we can be lonely together if you like.

[Edited by Juliangel on 11-22-2000 at 07:23 PM]

 

[R Nitelight]

Juliangel

Sorry. Different her. Actually, she will be back on Monday.

[Edited by R Nitelight on 11-22-2000 at 08:22 PM]

 

[pandora]

you can bet your ass you can miss someone you've never met.

 

[Renegade]

Oh hell yeah!

You bet your ass you can miss someone that you meet in a message board. I had to stay away from this other board for a few months because my computer screwed up if I had stayed there to long. And let me tell you, I missed those people at that site and was glad when I got the problem fixed last week.

 

[Cheyenne]

*sniff*
Perfect timing on this thread, unfortunately. My answer is "yes." It is very possible to miss someone you've never met.

And while we're on the topic, I want to add a suggestion to everyone. If you've been corresponding with someone for awhile and you decide you don't want to continue, for whatever reason, please be kind and at least tell the other person. Don't just disappear. Don't make them wonder if something bad happened to you. Closure is just as important in the cyberworld as it is in RL.

 

[naudiz]

Yes, yes, yes.

A meeting of the minds doesn't require a physical presence. The person on the other side of the screen, generating the words you're reading, is a real human being. Even if the connection isn't physical, I think it's possible (maybe even inevitable) for a connection to be made.

In RL, the people I've known and lost touch with, I miss them, but it isn't their face, body, or touch that I miss. It's their intelligence, creativity, and sense of humor that I miss. Same goes for VR, too.

 

[Earthmuffin]

Yeah, what everyone else said!

Yup, terribly so.

 

[Xander]

yup, very much so.....

 

[Darowyn]

Attraction and emotion are very strange. I signed up for a sort of virtual story which ran via email and fake webcams.
It was Online Caroline if anyone remembers it.
I knew perfectly well that the emails came from a computer, and that the girl was an actress, but I cared about what happened to her, and when the series finished, I missed her.
But then I watch King Lear and find myself wishing that the silly old fool would get it right this time!
I guess some of us are too empathetic for our own good!

 

[Sammyjo]

Definitely...I miss someone right now. I don't know if he knows or if he even cares. I don't know if he misses me. Probably not.

Also, I agree with Cheyenne. I've been corresponding with someone for a year now. I keep sending things to him with no reply. Makes ya wonder. I think I'm going to send him a letter to his home address (never thought I'd do that). I just hope that it is him that answers me and not someone else

 

[Shylady]

yes very much *sigh*

 

[Cheyenne]

I think I'm going to send him a letter to his home address (never thought I'd do that). I just hope that it is him that answers me and not someone else

Sammyjo, it isn't any of my business, but I wouldn't send a letter to his home. Take the high road and let him go.

Even if I know the person's real name and where they live, I wouldn't risk sending a letter that could cause problems in their RL if someone else read it. Doesn't matter how much I am hurt by their sudden online absence and lack of response. I won't return hurt with hurt. Ever.

I do believe that what goes around, comes around. People who treat others with a lack of respect for their feelings will eventually run into someone who will do the same to them. It just won't be me.

 

[Juliangel]

Even if I know the person's real name and where they live, I wouldn't risk sending a letter that could cause problems in their RL if someone else read it.

I have to say I agree with Cheyenne here. I know his real name, address and phone number but I would NEVER send anything to his house because no matter what happens between us he still has a family that depends on him.

 

[Sammyjo]

That's all well and good...just a thought, since he asked me to write to him way back when, and I never did...I figured it was pointless since we had the computer...oh well...I don't really care enough to write him anyway, if I did, I would have long ago.

 

[Matthew D]

Hey Cheyenne,
You are right about needing to tell the person that you don't want to "hangout" with them or continue to write back and forth with the person... Just tell them, it will save alot of pain on both parts...