Question for the SRPers

[Naphalm]

Hello fellow roleplayers.

So here's the question.

Say you have a frequent roleplay partner that you always enjoy writing with. They're talented, at least to your standard and the intimate parts are always hot and exciting....

But you find out they're actually the opposite sex to what you thought they were. So guys, you find out you're playing with another guy, or girls, perhaps you were playing with another girl and found out it's a guy, etc.

Would that affect the roleplays you do with that person, could you continue to write intimately with them?

What are your thoughts, it's happened to me in the past and I thought I'd put it out to everyone....?

 

[Annisthyrienne]

This has happened to me as well, and you know what, it didn't bother me at all. I think you really have to be clear as to why you're here. If this is your dating site and you are looking to hook up, then I could see why you'd be uncomfortable with finding out that the person you thought was a female was actually male, or vice versa.

Me, I'm here to enjoy writing stories, so a writer I really hit it off with is the true gem for me. The stories are exciting and fun, and I enjoy them, then it's all good. One thing this place has really opened my eyes to is the whole spectrum of sexual identity and gender preferences. Before coming here I used to think there were males and females, and gay males and lesbian females, then there were bisexuals. It was a pretty limited view, now that my eyes have been opened. Now I realize that there are all variations along the continuum that defines sexuality. There are females who feel more like males in their own gender identity, and males who feel more like females. It's how they express what they feel inside, and I've become very open to that, very okay with it.

But just look at some of the writing attempts in the role play boards. Now tell me that a good writer you enjoy role playing with is not worth their weight in pure fucking gold.

 

[Veroe]

This has happened to me as well, and you know what, it didn't bother me at all. I think you really have to be clear as to why you're here. If this is your dating site and you are looking to hook up, then I could see why you'd be uncomfortable with finding out that the person you thought was a female was actually male, or vice versa.

Me, I'm here to enjoy writing stories, so a writer I really hit it off with is the true gem for me. The stories are exciting and fun, and I enjoy them, then it's all good. One thing this place has really opened my eyes to is the whole spectrum of sexual identity and gender preferences. Before coming here I used to think there were males and females, and gay males and lesbian females, then there were bisexuals. It was a pretty limited view, now that my eyes have been opened. Now I realize that there are all variations along the continuum that defines sexuality. There are females who feel more like males in their own gender identity, and males who feel more like females. It's how they express what they feel inside, and I've become very open to that, very okay with it.

But just look at some of the writing attempts in the role play boards. Now tell me that a good writer you enjoy role playing with is not worth their weight in pure fucking gold.

What she said, mostly. I won't say finding out a cowriter being a guy won't bother me, but I'd like to think I'd take Thyri's enlightened point of view on it.

But If you are...I really don't want to know. The goal for me here is the storytelling, not hooking up with anybody in RL.

For me it's not really an issue. I always write as guys-now I have and will write a girl but only as a secondary character, and never without worrying whether I'm hitting the truth when writing her....as most guys can attest...girls are a confusing mystery to me at times.

Then again some guys are too...so I guess that's all just a total wash. Humans...yes, humans are a confusing mystery to me at times. There, that's better.

 

[thewhiteone]

This has happened to me as well, and you know what, it didn't bother me at all. I think you really have to be clear as to why you're here. If this is your dating site and you are looking to hook up, then I could see why you'd be uncomfortable with finding out that the person you thought was a female was actually male, or vice versa.

Me, I'm here to enjoy writing stories, so a writer I really hit it off with is the true gem for me. The stories are exciting and fun, and I enjoy them, then it's all good. One thing this place has really opened my eyes to is the whole spectrum of sexual identity and gender preferences. Before coming here I used to think there were males and females, and gay males and lesbian females, then there were bisexuals. It was a pretty limited view, now that my eyes have been opened. Now I realize that there are all variations along the continuum that defines sexuality. There are females who feel more like males in their own gender identity, and males who feel more like females. It's how they express what they feel inside, and I've become very open to that, very okay with it.

But just look at some of the writing attempts in the role play boards. Now tell me that a good writer you enjoy role playing with is not worth their weight in pure fucking gold.

As I am one of those who prefers to play characters of the opposite gender, I completely agree with her. I'm here to role play, to do things that I can not, or would not do in real life, to be someone I'm not.

 

[Annisthyrienne]

I had another thought that I'd like to post here. If a person can write the opposite gender so convincingly that you didn't even know until they told you, I'd say that's a pretty good writer. Don't let them get away.

 

[Naphalm]

You all make interesting points, thankyou for contributing. Another aspect of this is usually a partner can become a good friend, speaking outside of the roleplay that you participate in. But I suppose with online friends it's the risk you always run.

 

[Faux_Pas]

You all make interesting points, thankyou for contributing. Another aspect of this is usually a partner can become a good friend, speaking outside of the roleplay that you participate in. But I suppose with online friends it's the risk you always run.

That's the part that would upset me.
If they purposely were trying to deceive, to pretend to be the opposite gender completely- in pm's, messenger, etc... In off-char conversation, I would be a touch annoyed. But if they are simply rp'ing as the other gender and never intended to hide that, no biggie.

I do know we have transgender folk here too.
Now, there... I see them as the gender they ask to be identified as. That is not the same as what's discussed here, to me.

 

[palemoon2035]

That's the part that would upset me.
If they purposely were trying to deceive, to pretend to be the opposite gender completely- in pm's, messenger, etc... In off-char conversation, I would be a touch annoyed. But if they are simply rp'ing as the other gender and never intended to hide that, no biggie.

I do know we have transgender folk here too.
Now, there... I see them as the gender they ask to be identified as. That is not the same as what's discussed here, to me.

Friends are friends. If we only know them in spirit. If we only know them from words on a screen, then their words are all we know. If there is love and meaning behind those words, then body parts are irrelevant. In this online world, we transcend the physical self. Even in out of character conversations.

 

[Naphalm]

So, lets alter the question slightly...

You meet, roleplay and become friends with what seems to be a really great person, who tells you all about their life and loves and whatever. But then something is revealed... like finding the facebook page attached to their email or a word document with a different name as the author, that calls into doubt the persons gender in a way you didnt expect..

Do you try to ignore it, confront them, or just accept that the person isnt who you thought?