Question for the masses

[Ezarc]

I have just gone through some recent times that have shook up my life views and expectations. How do you go through with changing your life? How do you plan and follow through with those plans? I could use some advice on how to get myself going in the right direction again.
Take Care and Lust Always,
Ezarc

 

[Laurel]

You just do it. I spent years getting a degree, then found out I hated my chosen career. So, I asked myself what I wanted out of life - sort of imagined my dream lifestyle, which for me involves not working at an office, having a free schedule - then figured out how I could get there. In my case, it involved being self-employed. So I worked on getting set up doing freelance stuff & consulting out of my house...and here I am.

 

[unclej]

nobody hates change any more than i do ezarc but that's what life is all about. constant change. sometimes good change and sometimes disappointing change. you've only got a couple of viable choices. you plan for change and have back up plans ready to put into place or you remember the old football tuck and roll and jump back up and keep on running.

when you've learned that people can and often do disappoint you then it's not such a shock when they do. when you learn that you can often disappoint yourself then you learn to accept your shortcomings and build on your strengths.

mainly you just re-evaluate your life and/or life style and keep on truckin'. views and expectations constantly change for your entire life. just don't let them throw you for too long when they do.

 

[Suzi]

I have just gone through some recent times that have shook up my life views and expectations. How do you go through with changing your life? How do you plan and follow through with those plans? I could use some advice on how to get myself going in the right direction again.
Take Care and Lust Always,
Ezarc

Well, if it were me, I would sit down and write down my basic goals.(column one). Next to those, write how I might make each one happen. Then lastly, about how long I think it will take for me to fulfill those goals.

If you need to change priorities, this is a necessary step.

 

[cutie pie]

I have just gone through some recent times that have shook up my life views and expectations. How do you go through with changing your life? How do you plan and follow through with those plans?

Just gone through this myself in a big way.

First. . .you make the decisions that need to be made. It doesn't hurt to write it down, make lists - formulate a plan of some sort.

Second. . .prioritize what needs to be done and try not to work on too many things at once. Realize that it's not all going to happen overnight. I truly lived one day at a time - it wasn't so overwhelming that way.

Third. . .have a good support system. I don't know what your situation is, but any major life changes are stressful. I never would have survived without a few close rl friends and several here at Lit.

Good luck to you! My PM box is always open if you need to vent, scream or bounce ideas off of someone.

 

[SimGuy]

I think there is a definite difference between chosen changes in your life and those that are inflicted upon you.

The divorce, death in the family, relocation and job change within 4 months were definitely inflicted upon me. It was the first time I ever went to a counselor, and it helped - alot.

Can't offer much advice on the chosen changes - it is my struggle also.

 

[peachykeen]

bump

 

[Ezarc]

Thanks for the ideas so far. Bumping for more.
Take Care and Lust Always,
Ezarc

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I'm a list writer...

First write down a list of what you want to change and then a pros and con list of those changes to how your life is now...

Second write a list with a real time frame for when you can expect to get there... don't forget to add time for bumps in the road...

Write a list of money expensives and see if it is obtainable. Be realalistic with your figures...

Write how you can afford to live while you make the changes if need be.

Keep all lists while you work to your goals...

Make sure you surround yourself with people that believe in you and your goals. But also straight up people who will keep you on the straight and narrow while getting there....

I made major life changes with my work in 1998. I had a whole heap of people telling me to stop dreaming and get back to the real world. But I added up the numbers of what I wanted to do and it all panned out, so I did it. Also having the support of my husband at the time was a big plus.

Best of luck.